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What is your ideal maximum age for having children? At what age would you say 'n

  1. L a d y f a c e profile image77
    L a d y f a c eposted 7 years ago

    What is your ideal maximum age for having children? At what age would you say 'no'?

  2. Bel Marshall profile image58
    Bel Marshallposted 7 years ago

    I said no after 35 due to the risks not only to myself but to the child.

  3. The Suburban Poet profile image82
    The Suburban Poetposted 7 years ago

    As Bel mentioned there are risks for woman above the age of 35 but there is a practical matter for either a man or a woman. Do you want to be paying for a child in college at the age of retirement? If not then I'd say take the traditional retirement age and subtract 22 years (four years for college and then 18) which puts you at 43....

  4. C.V.Rajan profile image78
    C.V.Rajanposted 7 years ago

    When you already have two children or when you have crossed safe child bearing age of 35. If one has crossed 35 and yet could not conceive, then age limit of 35 can be relaxed, subject to doctor's guidance.

  5. Eleanor's Words profile image90
    Eleanor's Wordsposted 7 years ago

    For me, 40. I know many, many people who have had children in their late thirties with no problems for either mother or child. I had a child at 35 and the pregnancy was easier than the one I had in my twenties.

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    WildIrisposted 7 years ago

    Oh,I am in the minority here, but if the woman is healthy,fit,  fertile, and can care for a young child and rear it into adulthood, then why shouldn't a woman have a child at 45.  I'd say no at 28 if my health were poor.

  7. misssammiij profile image54
    misssammiijposted 7 years ago

    i would say no after about 35 to 40 as its not relly that safe after then but the best time 4 having a baby i would have to say between 20 to about 30 after that it dus get harder

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    aftermath66posted 7 years ago

    well i would say 35-45 cause the mother is really healthy can pay atention more keep kids occupyed

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    MollyJoanposted 7 years ago

    At the age of 35 on words a woman would be beginning to stop ovulating this makes it harder for a man to impregnate her.

  10. shazwellyn profile image58
    shazwellynposted 7 years ago

    For me, I didnt want any more kids when I was about 30 - but then my kids had complex needs, so it put me off rather.

    I have often thought, if I could have been guaranteed a child without disability and a girl, then I would have gone for another.  But life doesn't hold any guarantees and taking the risk, with already difficult children, would have been terribly problematic for me.

  11. lindajot profile image71
    lindajotposted 7 years ago

    I would say a max of 35.  I'd want to be sure I could enjoy my grandchildren, and would worry I couldn't if I waited much longer than that.

  12. onegoodwoman profile image77
    onegoodwomanposted 7 years ago

    Personally, I think there are reasons that my children came to me in my youth........energy is among them!   My grandchildren come to keep me young and playful.

    At no point of age, would I  deny my own child.  If I were 60,65,......and had a limited time to give, I do think it would serve a purpose for that child.  I just do.

    Even a young and vibrant mother, can not be certain that she will see her child to adulthood.  It is LIFE...........there are no rules or guarantees.

  13. giselle2323 profile image60
    giselle2323posted 7 years ago

    Great question! If it was to my own choosing I would not go past 45. But many Grandparents are now raising their grandchildren. So in essence numerous people are having to say 'yes' as they approach and are into retirement.

  14. Str8up Hookups profile image39
    Str8up Hookupsposted 7 years ago

    It's mandatory to have that amnio test when you're over 35 and pregnant to check for downs syndrome. That's a good indicator.

  15. Kind Regards profile image73
    Kind Regardsposted 7 years ago

    I'm there now.  It just happened in the past year, so 45.  I remember being in my late 30s and early 40s and hoping I'd still meet someone I could have a child with, but last year I realized that I just didn't have it in me anymore to have children.  Just feeling that too old and tired feeling to want to have children, even if I did meet someone.  Which I should throw in, I wouldn't have enough time to spend with someone before having children with them, since in my opinion, you really should spend quite a few years with someone before having a child together.

  16. Zaiden Jace profile image65
    Zaiden Jaceposted 7 years ago

    I wouldn't want to get pregnant after the age of 40. Not because I wouldn't want anymore children but at that point it can become dangerous for the mother and the child around that age.

  17. marksmommy profile image53
    marksmommyposted 7 years ago

    any age as long as my health permits me to deliver a healthy baby with no complications.babies are miracles sent from god and ill take as much as he will bless me with.

  18. mandyf profile image65
    mandyfposted 7 years ago

    There is a reason for menopause. I feel that once you have gone through this then no more children. Aside from taking risks at having a child after a certain age and endangering yourself and an unborn child but there comes a point when you should ask yourself whether you want your child raised in a nursing home or not.

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    Sunrahposted 7 years ago

    38 years old is when I would say no that gives me two years to recover before turning 40.

  20. raising6kids profile image57
    raising6kidsposted 7 years ago

    Well I had my last child at 26...my friends of around the same age had their first child at that age. I think mid thirties is my personal cut off. Just for the sake of being here for the births and lives of my grandchildren. I think that it is important for kids to have time in their lives with their grandparents.

  21. CASE1WORKER profile image71
    CASE1WORKERposted 7 years ago

    i had my third and last at 38, I do want a baby in the future but one I can hand back after a few hours! to their doting parents. I think it is up to the individual and what nature provides. If you fall naturally pregnant at 50 ish, then so be it ( but not here please!)

  22. bogerk profile image68
    bogerkposted 7 years ago

    I don't think I would want to be trying to have children after 35 years old, although I know plenty who have, so, to each their own.

  23. crazymom3 profile image74
    crazymom3posted 7 years ago

    I had my first child at 25.  Giving birth to her was the easy part, the pregnancy was hard. the recovery was also fast.  I was up and walking as if nothing happened within three days.  My second child also a girl was practically the same thing except I had her at the age of 31.  Again the pregnancy was hard because of throwing-up and nausea, but the actual birthing was easy and the recovery was fast. I got pregnant at the age of 34 and had to have the baby removed as it didn't have a heartbeat and four months later I found out I was pregnant again. I had my third child, a boy at the age of 35.  The pregnancy was the same as the girls, so  was the actual birthing, but my recovery was a lot harder.  He is my only child born in the winter. I didn't know if it was the cold season or my age, but I'm going to say probably both.  I had the worse body-aches, chills, and my vaginal healing took for-what- seemed-like forever  and was horribly painful.  I have seen many women have their first baby in their forty's. Some of them do just fine, butI have seen more birth defects and miscarriages, such as mine.  My son will now be two in December and as I am 36 1/2 years-old I find it hard to carry him around(lift him, bend up and down to pick him-up frequently, etc.) Of course I have a little bit of arthritis, and had back problems in the past so for me it's time to quit as the daily requirements get harder.  So I would say consider not just your age, but your physical health, and the needs of an active child.  Are you going to be able to keep up? My brother is in his forty's and is about to have his first child.  I'm happy for them, but as he ages I would caution not to wait much longer.  His wife is younger, but I think it's better to have a closer age gap with your children.  My dad is 67 and my half-blood-sister is barely six or seven.  They seem perfectly happy, but it's a little weird for me, and for my children who's aunt is younger than my oldest and about the same age as my second daughter. Taking everything into account I would say forty or younger.

  24. j.amie profile image59
    j.amieposted 7 years ago

    My parents conceived me when they were 37, my sister had her last child at 42, but could have had more. As long as you are physically able, mentally/financially/emotionally prepared, and healthy enough to handle the strain on your body (as a woman) - I say go for it!  Men can sometimes participate in child production at an older age than women. I don't feel qualified to answer on behalf of men of course, but consideration might be given to how old the child will be at his age of expiration.

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  25. ox_chloeharper_ox profile image52
    ox_chloeharper_oxposted 7 years ago

    I would say about 30 bhut i would say no if i was 18or something becauseyou still need to live your life that is the way i see it xx

  26. gmwilliams profile image86
    gmwilliamsposted 3 years ago


    I would say ideal maximum age to have children is  from 45 years to 54 years of age and the age I would say definitely no would be 55 years of age and older.   However, there are exceptions, there are healthy women with excellent genetic material who can have children from their early to middle 50s.  It all depends upon the body mechanism and the particular genetic material.  If one takes care of herself through excellent, enlightened nutrition, medical care, and exercise, the body can retain its youth to the 50s and beyond.   

    50s is much younger than it was previously.   The idea that one goes downhill, beginning in the middle 40s is becoming an antiquated idea.   One can have children as long as the body and mind is healthy.  However, the middle 50s on is way too late to have children as one probably will not live until his/her children reach middle adulthood.