Why do people who come from small families tend to be more interactive and lovin

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   gmwilliamsposted 12 years ago

   Why do people who come from small families tend to be more interactive and loving parents?

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   duffsmomposted 12 years ago

   I think despite good intentions it comes down to a time factor. It simply is not possible, even if one is the most loving parent, to give quality attention to a ton of kids.  When you have two, or if you have more and they are spaced out with, say, three years apart, each child can get that quality attention from the parent.
   
   So when you grow up having the quality attention from parents, you may tend to be a very loving parent yourself.
   
   I'm sure there are exceptions to this of course.

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      gmwilliamsposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Totally agree.   Children from small families tend to interact with their parents more than children from large families.   Children from large families are often nonnurturing parents because they did not interact much with their parents.

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      Patty Inglish, MSposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      At the same time, 1000s of children in American small families have been abused and cannot nurture children themselves as adults. I've unfortunately seen many in treatment.

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   peachpurpleposted 12 years ago

   Parents and children communicate more often in small families compare to large ones. Family who stay together in a home has strong love and care bonding, less jealousy and unfair love given by parents. In Asian countries, parents are tend to love boys than girls. Hence, rivalry happens often in large families.

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      gmwilliamsposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      To peachpurple, what you have said is so true.   Small families are indeed more loving and closer than large families.   Children in large families do not know their parents, only interacting among themselves.   They also tend to raise themselves!

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      Patty Inglish, MSposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Reminds me of the teen girl here, pulled out of school to raise several foster kids while parents worked high-paying jobs. The foster kids brought in $30/day from the govt. The teen ran away and we learned of abuse in time to help the foster kids.

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      gmwilliamsposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Patty, you are so right.   Older children of large to very large families are actually indentured servants, forced laborers, and/or slaves.   They are the ones who raise their younger siblings.   Parents in such families DO NOT raise their children!

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      Patty Inglish, MSposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      That's right imo. My father and his siblings were practically slaves on his father's farm, and that poor old man was pulled out of school at age 8 to work 14+ hours days 7 days/week.  Depression and anger simply flooded the generations.

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      gmwilliamsposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Patty, your case is de rigueur in the lives of large to very large families, whether urban and/or rural.   Older children of such families are made to quit school to work in order to supplment the family income!

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