Is it all right to adopt when you have your own child?

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   dghbrhposted 12 years ago

   Is it all right to adopt when you have your own child?
   
   is it good idea?

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   stanwshuraposted 12 years ago

   Ummmm...yes and yes.  If you have the means, the time, the patience), and enough love to spread around, and if it is what you really want AND you have included your children in (age appropriate) conversatiion (but, no, not the *actual* decision - their input, ABSOLUTELY!, a "vote", NO), then go for it!!

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      dghbrhposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you for your response.
      Your advice is useful indeed.

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   anuwsposted 12 years ago

   Yes, it is a great thing if you think to adopt a baby, but you should never treat them separately. both kids should be treated same.

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      dghbrhposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Actually son is all grown up and the girl also grown up . She is from a very poor family. So we are thinking to make her educate as well as a nice human being. Then we were concerned about both the children as they both are grown up. Thank you.

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   emmy1980posted 12 years ago

   I think so. There might be reasons after the first one was born, that you can't have any more. If you always wanted a bigger family then it makes sense to adopt or foster. I'm all for it if all these "unwanted" children get a home! I just wish it was easier to do.

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      dghbrhposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Its not the case. I can well have another child. But we want to help the poor girl as we have a son. Both are grown up. Thank you.

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   peachpurpleposted 12 years ago

   Since your son is already grown up, maybe you should discuss it with him too. If he accepts the idea with an open heart, then go for it. Some child/children couldn't accept outsider as another "sibling" after so many years. Maybe you can consider the girl as your god-daughter instead?

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      dghbrhposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for your reply here.
      Quite a good idea. and many thanks for this one.

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      vonda g nelsonposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Outsiders?A CHILD should have no say in a decision that an ADULT makes. If an adult chooses 2 give a child the opportunity 2 reside in a home that's stable so B it. Children should not B given access 2 exercise discrimination or self centered behavi.

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      dghbrhposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you @vonda g nelson
      for your view here.
      have a good day ahead.

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