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As a doting mother to an eldest son how would you feel and react to his broken m

  1. Jynzly profile image73
    Jynzlyposted 3 years ago

    As a doting mother to an eldest son how would you feel and react to his broken marriage?

    My son became a father at age 17 in which he married the 2 years older than him mother of his daughter when the baby was born. My joy in seeing my first beautiful granddaughter cannot be contained. I helped them financially in the early stage of their marriage. Now my son is in his way up the ladder of financial stability. My eldest granddaughter is now fourth year Architecture in a famous university in Manila, my son has two other children with the same woman, the beloved twins, they are now 14 years old junior high school. Yet despite this success, his wife has a baby from another man, sad.


  2. Melissa Noon profile image77
    Melissa Noonposted 3 years ago

    I am not a mother but this happened to my sister and her boyfriend. He broke off his relationship with her after their son was born to be in a relationship with a woman who he ended up getting pregnant.

    The best thing you can do is be supportive to your son. Be there for him when he needs somebody to talk and try not to say mean things about his wife because he probably still loves her and it can cause him to feel worse  about the situation or feel angry at you.

    Remember he has to go through many emotions and struggle to decide what to do about his marriage. Maybe he will divorce her and maybe they will end up staying married you never know and you have to step back and let him make the decision regardless of how you feel about it.

    When my sister got back with her boyfriend after finding out all of the mess about the other woman's pregnancy and stuff we all were open about our anger about her getting back together at him. All that did was cause tension between us and did little to change her decision.

    Luckily everything is looking up for both of them. He apologized to her and they got family counseling and now they are happy together and working out their problems and trusting each other again.

    it is sad when these things happen but remember your son still needs his mom but it will be between his wife and him that will decide what will happen.

    I wish you and your family luck and hope whatever happens will be a positive thing.

    1. Jynzly profile image73
      Jynzlyposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Melissa Noon,
      Thank you so much for the insight. They are actually separated now but I still feel sad.

  3. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 3 years ago

    Under the circumstances I would not be shocked that your son's marriage is coming to an end. In fact in the U.S. the divorce rate hovers around 50%.
    Given the fact your son was only (17 years old) and got married due to an "unplanned pregnancy" not many people would have bet a ton of money on the couple living "happily ever after".
    The odds were against them!
    Money does not buy happiness. Women cheat on "rich husbands" all the time and men cheat on "beautiful wives" all of the time. You never know what makes someone "happy" and oftentimes they themselves don't know. Happiness is a "feeling" not material.
    There are lots of people who have all the "trappings" of success in their lives but go to bed (feeling depressed) every single night.
    They realize there are lots of other people who would gladly trade places with them but still that knowledge does not change the fact that they're unhappy.
    Generally speaking women cheat with men who make them (feel) special. It's possible your son made climbing the corporate ladder to provide for his family a bigger priority than what (she) needed or desired in order to feel loved. I personally knew of a man who was working two jobs to provide the best life possible for his family and while he was doing that his wife was partying with girlfriends and eventually started having an affair.
    If two people don't share the same values, want the same things for the marriage, or (naturally) agree on how to obtain those things then the marriage is likely to fail.
    His priorities were not (her) priorities.
    It's only natural for you to sympathize with your son. However as the grandparent your top priority should be maintaining a healthy loving relationship with your grandchildren. In order to accomplish this you may have to bite your tongue with regard to the choices of (their mother).
    Eventually they'll figure things out for themselves.