What Motivates the Other Woman (to go after a married man?)

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    cathinfranceposted 8 years ago

    I recently wrote a hub on this. If you are a wife who suffered this, the Other Woman who broke up a marriage, or a husband who left a family - what do you think explains the interest of the OW in breaking up a family?

    1. waynet profile image72
      waynetposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Well when someone fancies a shag, then that's it settled!

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      cosetteposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      selfishness and desperation?

      while i don't fit in any of your categories, i wouldn't chase after any married man, no matter how tempting. it's just bad form and there's a jillion attractive, unattached men out there, and besides i can't see the attraction to a man who would breach a loved one's trust that way.

    3. tantrum profile image59
      tantrumposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Married men sometimes cheat on their wives at some time or other. The women involved are not braking any marriage. Marriage was already broken.

      1. Misha profile image71
        Mishaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        LOL I was going to write something along those lines - great minds, ya know wink - but then I thought - what about open relationship? Nothing gets broken in this case smile

        1. tantrum profile image59
          tantrumposted 8 years agoin reply to this

          Yes, but thats not a 'regular' marriage. and anyway, in those cases in the end they split. Jealousy plays an important part in it.

          1. Misha profile image71
            Mishaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

            Umm, after 10 years together no signs of a coming split... neutral

            1. tantrum profile image59
              tantrumposted 8 years agoin reply to this

              R U in an open relationship?for 10 years ? Well, it's the first I know of that lasted that much.

              1. Misha profile image71
                Mishaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

                Yeah, I am. So far so good. smile

                1. tantrum profile image59
                  tantrumposted 8 years agoin reply to this

                  what's the secret ? tongue

                  1. Misha profile image71
                    Mishaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

                    Having enough stamina to outlast jealousy. smile

          2. yoshi97 profile image63
            yoshi97posted 8 years agoin reply to this

            I agree ... the OW doesn't break up the marriage as the married man has the option of objecting her advances. If he says no, it never happens.

    4. double_frick profile image60
      double_frickposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      the challenge.

      or just a complete disregard for another person's life and happiness.

      either way, if the woman knows what she is getting in the middle of, its WRONG. wrong wrong.

      and i've been on the broken-hearted, why-would-she-do-that-to-me-what-did-i-do-to-her end WAY too many times.

      1. Misha profile image71
        Mishaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        Try the other side, you might find it entertaining tongue

    5. Pamela N Red profile image84
      Pamela N Redposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Sometimes she gets tired of running when he's been chasing her. My husband has never cheated on me but years a go when I was young and naive I was the other woman.

      I knew he was married and pushed him away for a long time before I gave in. I'm not proud of what I did and promised myself I'd never do it again but don't always lay blame all on the other woman.

      He told me his wife wouldn't give him sex. Remember, ladies, he will get it somewhere so if you tell him no don't think he's going to suddenly resort to celibacy.

    6. Mikel G Roberts profile image76
      Mikel G Robertsposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      The 'belief' that all the good ones are taken?

      Only a married man is a worthwhile man?

      Maybe it is just the female competitive streak... the ego trip of taking what is another womans?

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      Brenda Durhamposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Greed and narcissism.

  2. Misha profile image71
    Mishaposted 8 years ago

    No woman has ownership over man smile

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      cosetteposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      and no man has ownership over any woman. i pity the fool who tries...

      1. Misha profile image71
        Mishaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        Sure thing it goes both ways, as well as cheating smile

  3. cheaptrick profile image72
    cheaptrickposted 8 years ago
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    lyricsingrayposted 8 years ago

    yikes

  5. Richieb799 profile image80
    Richieb799posted 8 years ago

    I keep getting texts the last week off a girl who says shes engaged on her facebook, and I havent spoken to her for months, we went on 1 or 2 dates and snogged. I thought she knew I had a girlfriend..But you can see its not only men who cheat wink

  6. RecoverToday profile image83
    RecoverTodayposted 8 years ago

    The same thing that motivates the 'other man' to go after a married woman. Lust, power & excitement. Read about the aftermath of betrayal.....

  7. inspireyourspirit profile image49
    inspireyourspiritposted 8 years ago

    challenge and intrigue

  8. habee profile image95
    habeeposted 8 years ago

    What kills me is how the wife always blames the other woman - like she held a gun to the husband's head!

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    Brenda Durhamposted 8 years ago

    I agree habee!

  10. ddsurfsca profile image73
    ddsurfscaposted 8 years ago

    It could be alittle of all that has been talked about, but I think mostly it is the old saying that you always want what you cant have.  It also has a safety issue of not having to worry about commiting, for he cannot commit to her if he is married.
       What I do not understand is why any woman would consider taking up with a man who is cheating on his wife with her. If she ends up with him, would she not get cheated on eventually too?

  11. habee profile image95
    habeeposted 8 years ago

    Also, some women start dating a married man without knowing he's married. Happened to me. Believe it or not, some men will actually lie about this!

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      Brenda Durhamposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      They would?  NO! You're kidding!
      wink

  12. WriteAngled profile image81
    WriteAngledposted 8 years ago

    Sometimes marriages are made from hell. When two such people meet, decide to come together despite financial ruin for both of them from divorce settlements, it is really nobody's place to condemn.

  13. yenajeon profile image81
    yenajeonposted 8 years ago

    Im sure it depends on the women. Maybe she has been abused by her father and is in search of an older father figure.
    Maybe her life is quite boring right now, and she just needs a thrill.
    Or, the husband chased her first, and she simply didn't say no.
    It could be for so many reasons.
    Either way, I'm so sorry!

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      cosetteposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      i am attracted to older men because my dad died during my formative years but i won't pursue a married man. besides not all older men are married. a couple of times i found out they were married and i stopped it way before it got started. let them go get their cheap thrills someplace else.

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        sneakorocksolidposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        Are spankings too cheap?

  14. Hmrjmr1 profile image80
    Hmrjmr1posted 8 years ago

    those women not knowing aside, I think it's that women are the most competitive creatures on the planet! (not necessarily a bad thing)
    I think all the sports and other competitions, business, etc pale in comparison to the competition for 'reproductive rights' to their designated male...
    cool

 
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