How to come out to your parents and about a relationship you been hiding for 2 months?
the mother doesn't like the idea of the daughter dating and believes that all guys just want sex. the boyfriend doesn't know that the parents don't know and he has been trying to pop up everywhere to meet the parents.
If Mom believes that all men just want sex, how does she explain her marriage/relationship? Did "Dad" marry her just for sex? Her logic doesn't follow and that hypothetical can be used to break it down.
I think the girl needs to be straight with her boyfriend first, so he knows what's up with the girl's parents. And then...if she either can't or doesn't feel comfortable keeping her relationship a secret, the couple needs to break it to the parents.
First, the girl definitely needs to tell her boyfriend about her problem with her mom. If he has an issue with helping her in her situation, then she needs to know that because he will not be the right guy for her in the long run. Couples need to work together to solve problems and that is a life skill that will serve them both long term.
Second, the mom has to be clear about her expectations regarding her daughter dating. Is there an age limit for her? If so, and the girls is below that limit, the girl really needs to follow her mom's rule. However, that does not mean that mom's expectations cannot be changed, with proper, honest communication.
It sounds like lack of communication is a recurring theme in this situation. Blatantly stating that "all guys just want sex" is too generalizing on the part of the mom, more needs to be said to the daughter here. And hiding her problem from her boyfriend shows a lack of communication in the relationship on the part of the girl.
The best thing families can do is have open,honest conversation---about everything.
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