What are the most common relationship problems?
So many people have similiar problems in relationships that make them go sour. What are the most common problems in relationships? They either lead to it never working out or being resentful with one another. Which problems do you finally say enough and which ones do you try to workout?
The worst power working against a successful relationship is lack of trust. Without mutual trust, you will always be working against each other. Another big problem is lack of commitment. Again this makes it hard to work against the small and large problems that arise.
I believe one of the most common issues in a relationship is money. Money, money, money.......money. This is definitely one that can cause issues but if you can find common ground, and realize the root cause, it can be worked out.
Lack of compassion, never seeing the situation from the others point of view. If people would just stop trying to be right all the time or stop trying to prove the other person wrong it would change the relationship forever.
All people want is to be acknowledged for who they are and what they do, so be hearty in your approbations and lavish in your praise and watch you world and the people around you flourish
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A fatal condition for relationships is lack of communication.
When people stop communicating they begin a spiral of decline in the relationship. By communication I don't just mean talking and listening. They are important but so is behaviour towards the other person in the relationship. Stopping sharing a hug or even looking at the other sends a massive signal to the other person.
It says "I don't care." Receiving that signal in a non verbal form can be more devastating than to hear the words themselves.
One of the most common problems actually happens before there is a relationship. A lot of people don't take the time to figure out what they really want and need in a mate. Most relationship unions are fueled by "chemistry" or "happenstance".
We become "emotionally invested" with someone (before we truly get to know them). Later on we seek to change them or "help them" live up to their potential of being our perfect mate. We become frustrated when they can't or won't live up to (our expectations) and they become resentful of not being accepted for who they are. All of this stems from us not knowing what we want in the first place or not having the discipline to stick to our "shopping list" when it comes to selecting a mate.
Some people will say "communication" is the problem. However have you ever noticed there are no communication problems in the begining of a relationship? You would think the longer people are together the less problems they would have communicating! Many people confuse the words "communication" with "action". Communication is NOT an "ask and it shall be given" proposition. It's only one person expressing an idea or thought and having another person acknowledge they heard and understood what was expressed. Other items such as money, trust, and fidelity boil down to (finding someone who shares your same values!) One of the primary purposes of casual dating is for "due diligence". This is the time one uses to determine if the person they are seeing is someone they want to have an exclusive relationship with or possibly spend the rest of their lives with.
Whenever two people share the same values, want the same things out of a relationship, and agree on a strategy as to how to obtain them they usually are together for a very long time. Opposites may attract in the short run but it's like that attracts like in the long run!
Great question biancaalice. I think the most common relationship problems include:
1) Lack of communication - not expressing your true thoughts/feelings in fear the other may be offended
2) Trust - people lie to keep the peace - not thinking about the long term effects
3)Self-esteem - I think especially for women they constantly wonder "why does he like/love me", "am i fat", "am I pretty enough", "why is he/she with me?"
4)Money/Bills - either one makes too much or there is never enough
5) Step-children - you have to worry about the drama with the real parent
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