Should you always value family more than friends or is it okay to place more importance on close friends? Should you put bad family above good friends?
Oftentimes, family is an accident of birth, pure happenstance. For many, family is something one must endure & tolerate. As one mature & broaden one's horizons, one acquire & make friends w/those who have a commonality whether it is beliefs, education, & socioeconomic class.
Family can be an albatross around those who seek a different lifestyle from the family paradigm. Many times family sabotage members who dare to go against the prescribed family paradigm. There are family members who guilt other family members to conform to their respective paradigm because the former wants the latter not to venture outside the familial purview of things.
Family is oftentimes a one way street. People do, even sacrifice for their families but there is never any reciprocity on the family member's part. Yes, family is only an accident of birth. True family is not necessarily blood family. There are blood family who BARELY TOLERATE each other at best & at worst, DETEST, EVEN HATE each other.
Most adults have more relationships with good friends w/whom they have more in common with. Most adults have little or nothing in common w/their original family members, especially those who have never progressed beyond the prescribed familial paradigm. For most people, good friends are better & closer than family. For other people, good friends are family. Such relationships have a mutual reciprocity which isn't found in families. There is a love & respect in good friendships which isn't found in most families. So yes, good friends are infinitely better than family. Most people, once they are grown & or aware, have little or nothing in common w/family members.
I would say family members have a deep love for each other. Hatred comes when love is not forthcoming, because family does expect love. I would say, they expect unconditional love more from their family members than from their friends.
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