Should we have stronger bonds with friends or family members?

  1. calynbana profile image82
    calynbanaposted 19 months ago

    Should we have stronger bonds with friends or family members?

    You often hear the expression blood is thicker than water but I wonder if our friendship bonds are stronger because we choose our relationships with friends.

  2. FelishiyaPS profile image56
    FelishiyaPSposted 19 months ago

    Same question keeps on haunting my mind too. I think it is really tough to maintain strong bonds, when you have your career the top most priority. I know one of my friend who decided to stay away from his family to build his career. Today, he is working as a head of an mnc, but does not have good bonds with his family. He is always busy with his work.

  3. gmwilliams profile image86
    gmwilliamsposted 15 months ago

    Most people have far stronger bonds w/friends because friendship is chosen whereas family is merely circumstantial.   Many times we are born into families where we have nothing in common.  Many family environments are quite purgatorial.  They are family because of blood & nothing else.  One can say that there is really no love lost in such families.

    There are families who don't have other members' back.  In fact, there is constant in-fighting, one-upmanship, &/or other types of family drama.  Also, there is envy, especially if there is one or two outstanding &/or successful family members.   Families have their own agenda which oftentimes can be quite insidious-play my game or else.  Families also use each other for many manipulative reasons.

    When one matures, one usually grows away from the family & gravitate towards friendships.  Friends have things more in common than family members.  Adults usually have closer bonds w/friends than family members unless they come from large families where in such environments, friendships & other outside relationships are strongly discouraged.  Adults from large families usually have no friends & are very insular, not venturing outside their immediate family circle.  They don't even associate w/ extended family members.