Should Men Attend Baby Showers?

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   Emile Rposted 11 years ago

   We have been invited to a baby shower. Both men and women were invited. My husband is flabbergasted and says it is in bad taste (primarily because he doesn't want to go, I think). He says it is wrong.
   
   I say, why not? I'm actually relieved, since it probably means we won't have to play stupid parlor games.
   
   Do you think inviting both sexes to a baby shower is poor etiquette, or a sign of the changing times?

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      Jesus was a hippyposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      LOL It has always been a thing done by women because men don't want a part of it. It doesn't interest me at all to go to a baby shower.
      
      I love that your partner is disgusted by it. Sounds like a great excuse. I'll remember that one just in case

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      mts1098posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I attended our baby shower and am glad I did. I got free beverage and food

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      cmahanposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I say yes! But it also depends on the person. We recently went to a baby shower for a friend and her husband was there. My husband and hers are the best of friends so it worked out well. Most times the guys have their version - a diaper party. So, it really does depend on the person, the party, the crowd, and the husband.

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   Monisajdaposted 11 years ago

   I have been invited to a baby shower recently that was more of a mother blessing thing. Women gathered together to celebrate the mother-to-be while men watched the kids play. It was a pot luck party and my husband enjoyed the food and talking to other men while having an eye on our kids.

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   psycheskinnerposted 11 years ago

   I don't see a problem with men attending.

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   habeeposted 11 years ago

   I don't see anything wrong with it. Brides used to be honored at all sorts of parties, desserts, luncheons, teas, and showers, but now many include couples.

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   Arlene V. Pomaposted 11 years ago

   Only if they want to go or are promised that other men will be attend.  There is a possibility that they will bunch up with the other men who attend.  My hubby wouldn't go.  He still refers to knitting as "sewing."  When I worked in an office, everyone attended because the potluck was held there.

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   Eric Newlandposted 11 years ago

   Men have no time for such frivolities as celebrating new life. We should be out grunting, hunting sabertooth tigers, and picking nits out of our chest hair.

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   idratherbeposted 11 years ago

   I guess in this day and age it would be okay? Traditionally, in my day, women only attended. I seriously doubt, the majority of men want to attend, but attend reluctantly.

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   Shanna11posted 11 years ago

   Wait.... men aren't supposed to go to Baby showers?
   
   But in the Disney movie "Lady and the Tramp" the humans have a baby shower and both men AND women are there!
   
   Of course, it's an animated movie about talking dogs that takes place in the early nineteen hundreds..... but somehow I always just assumed that both men and women went to baby showers because of that movie.
   
   Oh Disney... how you have failed me!

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   Arlene V. Pomaposted 11 years ago

   I won't even go.  Not after this woman was exitedly telling me about mashing Baby Ruth and Snickers in diapers.  Like, you have to guess which is which?  Spare me.  I'll happily go shopping for a gift and slip some money towards the baby's college fund some other day.  I don't get warm and fuzzy over gatherings like this, but it's okay when others get together.  My friends are into it because they have children and grandchildren.  I don't.  If I did go, I'd gravitate towards the men for interesting conversation--like I always do.

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    Disappearingheadposted 11 years ago

    ???? What on Earth is a baby shower?
    
    We have a tradition in the UK of "Wetting the baby's head", where the father and his mates go out on a pub crawl following the birth and get rip roaringly drunk. So if this is a baby shower, game on.

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    SJmorningsun25posted 11 years ago

    It seems to me that, since a man's involvement was necessary to bring about the baby, that it is perfectly reasonable he should be there--and his friends, too. Maybe if the men felt more involved in the excited, anticipation stuff, they'd be more into the diaper-changing later on!

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       Disappearingheadposted 11 years agoin reply to this

       I've been changing nappies for ten years; it's no big deal.

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    Emile Rposted 11 years ago

    Thanks for the responses. We were on the way to the event when I posted this forum. It turned out as my husband feared. I was the only woman who was able to convince her husband that men do attend baby showers when invited.
    
    It all worked out though. I had an excellent excuse to slip out shortly after the gift was handed over.

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       Jesus was a hippyposted 11 years agoin reply to this

       Hahahaha your partner obviously didn't complain as much as all the other girls partners

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    Courtney_CollinsDposted 11 years ago

    XD I don't think anything is wrong with men and women both going to baby showers. It's happening a lot more in this day and age and to be honest, my baby shower was for both men and women. Then again most of my friends were guys so that was pretty much going to happen anyways.
    
    I really just see it as a big party to celebrate a new life about to come into the world. Why not want to join the bash and play the games?

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