Do any of you have an explosive child who makes you feel inadequate as a parent?

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   The Mommaposted 13 years ago

   Do any of you have an explosive child who makes you feel inadequate as a parent?
   
   I have a 7 year old who is explosive one minute and then the most loving person the next.  I even asked the question at my Angel reading if God was sure He gave Ryan the right mother.  Needless to say God is quite comfy with His decision and feels our energy's need each other...ok:)

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   bobcat1posted 13 years ago

   I have a boy who was like that when he was seven he was very up and down HE seemed to get worse and worse and me or my wife could not understand we tried to  every thing he would fight with his older brother    and would yell at us like he was in charge of us you have to set  limits     and let him know that you are in charge you cannot give into his every want even if he gets mad he is testing your limits so set limits it  will make you a better parent  and the child will start to respect you

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   jackscarposted 13 years ago

   I don't have any children of my own buy my sister has a two year old and I could definitely imagine how his explosiveness might make her question her parenting abilities...he is really a handful!

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   nasus loopsposted 13 years ago

   I have a 2 year old son who, most of the time is very loving and good.  However if something goes wrong or he doesn't get what he really really wants, yes he explodes with a passion.  When he does it I am at a loss as to how to deal with it and afterwards when I try to analyse the situation it does make me doubt my ability as a mother and parent. 
   
   You are not alone with this situation.  Eventually they will grow out of it (hopefully).

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   Tirzah Laughsposted 13 years ago

   It could be any number of things from a hormonal imbalance to needing more structure or needing help learning anger control.
   
   My niece when she was little she had temper tantrums where she would get so mad she'd turn purple, pass out, or beat her head into the floor.
   
   Three child psychologists later, basically she got mad and had trouble getting unmad. Once she got angry, she didn't know how to self-sooth and calm herself down.   Her dad's family, we found out later, had similar explosive tempers.   We just had to break her mid-cycle before she got carried away.   Let's say the cure involved a squirt gun and three very embarrassing years. 
   
   But at 25 she's still dramatic but no more temper tantrums where she hurts herself.  She's married and had two kids of her own.
   
   Don't be afraid to reach out to a child psychologist.   Sometimes its something as simple as teaching a kid how to control and let go of their anger.   And if is hormonal, they can help you with that too.
   
   You need to find out the 'why' of the temper before you can fix it.   Environmental, hormonal, or emotional.  Once you know why, you can can develop strategies to control it.

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