What, if anything do wish to relive or to "do over" in your life?

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   Nellieannaposted 10 years ago

   What, if anything do wish to relive or to "do over" in your life?
   
   I was inspired to share this question from a recent Mensa Bulletin article asking members just that question.  The published replies were revealing, inspiring and, occasionally, humorous - and each, so individual. That's why it can be asked again.  I'm still thinking of my own answer!
   
   

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   Laura Schneiderposted 10 years ago

   I wish that I could have controlled my tears and my voice enough to tell my best friend from childhood/"adopted sister" that I loved her and said goodbye to her when she was on her deathbed. I hope that she somehow knows it and understood it from what I did choke out, which was utterly lame. I also wish that I had been able to attend her funeral, but I was attending to another family emergency (my mother had to be hospitalized) and was unable to say goodbye to my dear friend/sister at her funeral, too.

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      Nellieannaposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Aw, that is, indeed, regrettable.  But I'd say that she did/does understand your emotional effort to tell her your feelings.  Perhaps she understood that you also had your mother's welfare on your mind.  At such emotional times, we're not 'at best'.

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      Laura Schneiderposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks, Nellieanna! Your words bring me much comfort.

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      Twilight Lawnsposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I agree with Nellieanna, Laura.  Sometimes nothing needs to be said, because that special other understands.

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   Nell Roseposted 10 years ago

   I would love to go back to one particular Christmas when all my family were together, for the first time, because usually there was always one or two missing for various reasons. But this one time we were all there. mother, father, uncles aunts and all the children. It was magical, memorable and I always think of it today because all of my elders have gone now, so that time was the best.

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      Nellieannaposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Nell, how touching.  It gives me goose-bumps, because I relate to it so much, being the last of  even my own generation alive.  It's poignant.  Hugs.

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      Twilight Lawnsposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      That is so touching, Nell.  Not having had a large family, I find it hard to imagine.

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   Twilight Lawnsposted 10 years ago

   There are many things that I would like to rectify... many, many things.  But we can only look at our lives with hindsight.  I was a different person then, so perhaps I wouldn’t have wanted someone from the future, (me), telling me what I should be doing; how I should be thinking; what I should be considering most precious.  We only realise those when they have slipped out of our careless, or uncaring fingers.
   I would like to know, here and now, that I had let my wonderful mother know exactly what a diamond she was, but I just took her and her brilliance, her intelligence, her many and varied talents, for granted.  I would like to have taken her in my arms and told her I loved her more than she could ever know - or as much as she loved me, and that was a tremendous amount of love.
   I would like to have tried to understand my father and help him to understand me.  But we spend years not doing any of that. I would like to know that I had at one stage, if only once, let him know that he was most probably one of the most intelligent and wonderful persons I had ever known. A flawed human being, as am I, but a man of integrity and honour.
   I would like to reverse time and, instead of watching someone standing, distraught and alone on the quay in Bombay, as out liner pushed out to sea, I would like to reverse time and for that wonderful person to have accompanied my parents and me into another country; away from terrible danger and for him to join us in an unknown future.  The young man I loved more than anyone in my life: Krishna, our Bearer when I was a little boy. He was my rock, my champion, my friend, my teacher, my confidant, my mentor.  He adored me and I simply worshipped the ground he walked on.
   And here endeth the First Lesson. 
   Please turn to your hymn books.  We shall now sing Hymn Number 143: "The Day Thou Gavest Lord, Is Ended"

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      Nellieannaposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Now you've brought tears to my eyes, dear friend.  I know the sincerity with which each of your words was written.  Thank you for sharing them.  May you feel the love of your parents and your dear friend, Krishna, as they surely feel yours.  Hugs.

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