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Death And Mourning

Updated on January 22, 2011

Death And Mourning-Hand In Hand

Its safe to say that death and mourning go hand in hand like peanut butter and jelly or Tom and Jerry.

The thing is people deal with the issue of death and mourning differently.  Each person is an individual that needs their own space to do their own thing.

Of course they also need to be with others like family and friends but those people have to understand that sometimes when we are grieving loss we just need some time to our selves.

During the period of mourning you will notice things out of the ordinary.  Voices will be amplified and it will just seem like everyone is in your face for some reason or another.

Death And Mourning-Understand Others

When it comes to death and mourning there will be times you just want to scream.

This comes for a number of reasons.  You may feel over whelmed, too many people around you or maybe you are mad at the person who passed away.

It is totally understanding for all these reasons and more.  The thing you need to remember is the people who are around you just want to be there for you.  They want to do what ever they can to help you through this trying period.

If the people around you have never experienced death and mourning they just don't understand that sometimes they are actually the cause of more sorrow rather then help.

As a person grieving in most cases you do need to understand this.  If things get to hard for you it is okay to walk away for a while.  Usually when you do this people do start to get the hint or at least they start to understand.

Death And Mourning-Let It Happen

When it comes to death and mourning so many people try and be the strong one.

Being the strong one just doesn't cut it at times like this.  That means you end up working hard to hold things in that just shouldn't be.

Times like this you need to let go.  You need to cry, shout, scream, stamp your feet and what ever else helps you to get through the mourning process.

No one is going to look at you any different if you aren't the strong person you usually are.  They all know that you are always there for every one and now its time for pay back.  the people you have been there need to be there for you.

Not to mention trying to be the strong one when it comes to death and mourning could end up being very serious.  Trying to hold things in for the sake of others could have you end up getting sick.  The last thing you need during this time is to be getting sick.

During this time its okay to just let things go.  I have no doubt in my mind that every single person will understand and no one will look at you any differently.

Death And Mourning-It Does Get Easier

When it comes to death and mourning you will notice things will eventually get easier.

You will notice yourself crying less and once again starting to smile.

As for a time line as to when things start to get easier there really isn't one.  Everyone is different and everyone will have different levels of grief

The important part is not to rush the grieving process in death and mourning.  This doesn't mean you cant start moving on with your life.  You just have to understand and know that there will be tough times ahead.

Also don't worry about others.  If they know you and know what you just went through they will always allow you to have your space.

You will hear the term life goes on and you will hear it a million times.  The statement is true and life does go on but you need to let it go on at a pace you are comfortable with.

When it comes to death and mourning the entire world will understand that you need time.

Death And Morning-Some Help

Many times in death and mourning it helps to do something to help carry on the memory of a loved one.

For us we lit a candle online that will burn for 3 years and then more if we go in and renew it. To us this meant a lot and was something we needed to do.

You can take a look at some of the things you can do to help you move forward.

The Eternal Portal ® - uplifting tribute Web sites

Also take a look at my newly formed blog of which I will be working on from time to time just because it is something I do to help me move on.


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      Elena Maria 6 years ago from Pennsylvania

      Thank you for writing this Hub. I'm sorry to hear of the loss of your father. I know how it feels because my father passed away when I was 12 yrs old. I still think of him every day and still miss him so very much.

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      Dale Mazurek 8 years ago from Canada

      One thing for sure is I will never forget my father. Yes he was a father but also a best friend. It has only been 3 weeks but the loss doesnt seem to be getting any easier.

      Thanks for the wonderful comment

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      Pollyannalana 8 years ago from US

      Death is not easy for me and I never let them go, seems at least one of the many who have gone on I have in my mind every day and sometimes two. A certain meal or song or even a house or field I pass and they are with me. But remembering doesn't hurt me, I think somehow it keeps them alive.