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God Will Give You More Than You Can Handle: A Moment With Bill Reflection

Updated on August 22, 2014

The False Premise

Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars.

Khalil Gibran

A wise man, Gibran! From pain and suffering comes character. True words, yes?

I was thinking the other day about something I have heard often. It goes something like this: God will not give us more than we can handle.” I’m sure most of you have heard this, and maybe you have never questioned it, but I have.

My beliefs on the existence of God are unimportant. I am simply addressing this issue that if there is a God He would never give us more than we can humanly bear.

One need only look at the latest suicide statistics to see the possible fallacy in such a belief. One only need scan the roster of the local state mental institution to understand that there are many people who simply could not handle that which they were given. A young child is molested from the age of eight until she finally runs away from home at the age of sixteen and enters a world of prostitution and drugs. A teenage boy is snatched off the street and sold into sex slavery and six months later commits suicide. A woman is beaten for two decades by the husband who “loves” her and turns to alcohol to keep from facing that which she was given.

Outlandish examples? I think not, and if honest every one of you knows that this sort of thing happens daily no matter where you live.

Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.

God bless the pusher.

Tune it, drop out.

Mommy, why does daddy hurt me?

When will the pain go away?

Please make it stop!

And so it goes….

I have a slightly different take on the saying, and it states that God does indeed give us more than we can handle….but now we need to consider why that is.

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One Possibility

Those who cling to the Old Testament of the Bible cling to a vengeful God who punishes sinners and rewards the just. Perhaps God is just dishing out punishment to sinners when He stacks the deck against some people. I mean surely that abused child of eight must have sinned at some time, correct? Pay the Piper young lady, and maybe, just maybe, the load will be lifted if you repent and accept The Truth.

Of course that’s so much hogwash, but I guarantee there are people who believe it.

Perhaps God just randomly selects people to suffer, some cosmic lottery where the lucky survive and the unlucky perish in a living hell. All well and good except that we are taught that God is all-loving and all-compassionate. Would such a God allow the vagaries of life to be nothing more than randomness?

When I think of this argument I think of something I was taught in 8th grade at St. Patrick’s School in Tacoma, Washington. When Sister Mary Catherine one day told us that African children who died without being baptized would go to hell, my mind when into rejection mode. How is it possible, I asked, that an all-loving God could allow those who have done nothing wrong, to be eternally damned? Even my impressionable and not-yet-entirely-developed brain could not accept that salvation depended on our zip code.

So if neither of those two options are believable, what are we to believe?

Perhaps……

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What I Believe

What do I believe?

I believe in mankind and not man.

I believe that none of us is an island and we need each other.

I believe in love, baby, love, and the sooner we embrace that four letter word the better.

And I believe that indeed we are given more than we can handle so that we will learn to help each other as we stumble and bumble our way through life.

If we do not learn this simple truth we will all be lessened.

I need you and you need me.

A rogue lion roams the Savannah in search of food. From time to time he takes down an antelope and drags it off to his lair. He guards it with vigor and viciousness. He meets his needs in a ruthless fashion. All is well in his world until the day comes when a pride of lions stands in defense of their territory, and eventually, banded together, they take down the rogue and end his roguish ways.

I was that lion.

I had grown tired of pain, and so to diminish pain that I associated with relationships and friendships, I eliminated what I believed to be the source of that pain. I was on a self-constructed island, fending for myself, providing for myself, trusting no one and needing, so I thought, no one.

And then the jackals howled, and the commitment to solitude threatened my very existence, and I was faced with a certain destiny on a road dripping with fear.

I found I needed people, and the fools needed me and yes, we all needed each other.

When you are discontent, you always want more, more, more. Your desire can never be satisfied. But when you practice contentment, you can say to yourself, 'Oh yes - I already have everything that I really need.'
Dalai Lama

Today I have everything I need.

Join me for some thoughts

Restless, Irritable and Discontented

Do those three words describe anyone you know? I’m willing to bet all of you reading this knows someone who epitomizes those three words. Perhaps….no, I was going to say that perhaps one of you feels that way, but that certainly couldn’t be true, could it?

I look around me and I shudder. I see war, I see hatred, I see bias, I see apathy, I see complacency, I see greed, I see far too much and I want to rip my eyes out and never see again…..and yet

I look around me and I rejoice. I see love and I see smiles and I see acts of kindness and I see charitable acts of mercy and I see not enough and I want more and more and more and…..

It all begins with me.

It all begins with you.

It all begins with all of us.

God has given most of us more than we can handle. True words those.

And so we turn to our brothers and our sisters, and we reach out a hand of assistance, knowing that when contact is made and flesh touches flesh, we are helping mutually and in so doing we are fulfilling our legacy as a human being.

And ain’t that grand?

There is no need for temples, no need for complicated philosophies. My brain and my heart are my temples; my philosophy is kindness.
Dalai Lama

Humanity One World
Humanity One World

Soak It In, Baby

My philosophy is kindness.

Can you say that?

How often have I heard people say: “How can we make things change for the better? I’m afraid, and I’m afraid for my children, and it is all just too much to bear, and what happened to common decency and compassion?”

H.O.W.

Humanity One World!

The simple fact is that it is all too much for any one of us to bear, so we need each other, and the sooner we grasp that simple concept the better.

I need you.

You need me.

We all need each other.

I will start it off, for what movement can last without at least one person willing to step up and do what needs doing?

My brother in Nepal….I need you!

My sister in Wales….I need you!

My friend in Toronto….I need you!

My friend in Chile….I need you!

There, I’ve said it. I have knocked down my defenses and I have admitted my frailties.

Will you join me? Are you going to continue to walk the Savannah, ever-guarded but also ever-at-risk, or will you allow me into your pride where we can all watch out for one another? There is safety in numbers. There is pride of accomplishment in numbers. There is……

Love in numbers, and it begins with one, me, and two, you, and three and four and five and…..

2013 William D. Holland (aka billybuc)

“Helping writers to spread their wings and fly.”

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Au fail, you never disappoint. No half-efforts on your part, and always spoken from the heart.

      I live by one truth and one truth only....if I treat others with kindness then I am doing my job as a human being, and I know instantly when I am not doing my job. :) I give very little thought to God or Satan; I live my life trying to treat others as I would be treated. I'll leave the philosophical and theological discussions to someone else.

      Thank you for such a heartfelt and impassioned comment.

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      C E Clark 4 years ago from North Texas

      Just as you discovered you needed people and could not turn your back against everyone, so it is with God. Restlessness, irritability, and discontent will leave once your relationship with God is right between the two of you.

      God gets a lot of credit for things He didn't/doesn't do. For some reason people forget that there are two forces in this world, good and evil.

      If evil were not ever allowed to play itself out to the end, how would people learn that it is truly evil? This great experiment that we are all taking part in is the opportunity for Satan to prove his way is better and superior to God's. See where it has gotten us so far?

      I think very often bad things happen to good people or to people generally, not as punishment for them -- the Bible says it rains on the just and on the unjust. You can take that 2 different ways. Good things happen to both good and bad people, and bad things happen to both good and bad people. So it is not as punishment that we sometimes find ourselves in seriously bad situations.

      I do think that when those among us are suffering through hardships of different kinds that it is an opportunity for people to be the Christians they say they are. God tests each of us continually. Look how He tested Job. I know I wouldn't do as well as Job did, but we are all tested in many different ways all the time. Do we simply label ourselves as Christians or do we walk the walk?

      Another thing that serious suffering can do for people who learn fairly easily is to teach a person that but for the grace of God, I (they) might be in that person's shoes.

      I think being in a terrible situation, especially of our own making, can teach us that why a person is in a horrible situation is irrelevant. More important is, are we going to do the Christian thing and offer a hand up/out, or are we going to judge them? Did we want judgment when we were in our personal 'mess' or did we want forgiveness and mercy? Do we want and need a helping hand? Or would a kick while we're down be preferable? Do unto others . . .

      Everyone makes mistakes. Everyone has poor judgment sometimes. Everyone has misfortunate that looks like it is entirely their fault from the outside, but maybe it isn't what it looks like. Even if someone did bring misfortunate onto themselves, is it really our place to judge them? Do we really qualify to do that? Maybe our sins are different, but they’re still sins and the wages of sin (unforgiven) is death. So even if you think your sin is better than somebody else's the fact is, God doesn't have a sin rater.

      We are all out in the deepest ocean in a boat with a hole in the middle. The boat is taking on water fast. Should we point fingers at each other and argue about who is to blame for the hole in the boat? Or should we work together and get buckets and start bailing the water out? What makes the most sense? Which will save the most lives?

      After much study, I really think we will all be judged by the same standard by which we judge other people. I think we will all receive mercy and forgiveness according to how much of those commodities we gave away.

      I am no authority, and probably the worst sinner on this planet right now. Every day I have to start all over again trying to do better than the day before, and sometimes I fail. I have a sharp tongue that sometimes dictates to my fingers on this keyboard, and God says a sharp tongue does more damage than a lot of other things.

      As I see it, when I do what I can for someone who is struggling along their own path, I receive a blessing. I receive that blessing whether the other person deserves my help or not. I receive that blessing no matter what that person does with what I gave them, whether it is knowledge, food, money, or something else. I can't answer for what anyone else does. They will have to do that themselves just as I must answer for myself. I only have to do the right thing and I will receive a blessing.

      I don't consider it my place to determine whether or not someone deserves help. I think anyone who needs help should receive it. God will sort out who took unnecessary advantage of things or abused the help they received. I know it isn't very satisfying to be patient and let Him take care of making the judgment and issuing any necessary punishment, but I think it is the best way. God is the only person who knows our heart.

      If anyone has ever gotten retribution (some people spell it j-u-s-t-i-c-e) for some wrong that someone has done to them, they know there really isn't much satisfaction in the vengeance anyway. Seeking retribution and getting it means you've already received part of your reward, and there's no telling how much your reward was to start with. You may have used it all up getting even -- and then you discover that other person wasn't the one who wronged you after all. It was somebody else, or perhaps an assumption you made -- assumptions are all but always wrong.

      There are a lot of reasons for things being the way they are. Most of them are due, not to God or Satan, but to human mean spiritedness and selfishness. Humans really don't need Satan to think up ugly things to say and do to each other. They are amazingly gifted in this area if you look around and view the proof in what I'm saying.

      It can be really difficult to see the good in a world like ours with so many things that aren't good blocking our view. The best thing a person can do, from what I can tell, is to be an instrument of good and do everything possible to make their own little corner of the world the best it can be. If everyone did that, think how much better the world would be.

      When one makes a habit of doing the right thing, the kind thing, the helpful Christian thing, offering mercy and forgiveness to people like themselves who don't deserve it (who among us deserves it?) then when their visibility is limited by ugliness blocking their view everywhere they look, they only need to look in a mirror and they will see God's goodness shining through themselves to know there is still hope and that hope lives in them.

      Do not blame God for things He didn't do. Why doesn't He stop the ugliness? Would you believe ugliness truly existed if you never saw it for yourself? Would you understand just how truly ugly it is if you never experienced it? Besides, He has sent help. You, and me, and everyone here in this world can help Him by doing the work He gave us to do instead of our own pleasures, and the ugliness will go away.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I appreciate it, Lurana! I'm just now getting to comments after a busy weekend in the sun.

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      Lurana Brown 4 years ago from Chicagoland, Illinois

      Powerful and inspiring, another wonderful message!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Deb, I embrace my weakness. I've tried it alone and it didn't work out too well. :) Have a great weekend, Deb!

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      Deb Hirt 4 years ago from Stillwater, OK

      We have been in communities of some sort since the dawn of time. No man is an island. This is a great piece in order to show us WHY we are weak.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Maria, thank you so much. There is always hope my friend. Always hope!

      blessings to you always

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thanks vkwok! Have a great weekend.

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      Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill 4 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord

      My most sincerely compliment on these words Bill. I have been reading some really good words on some hubs and they have come from the heart. There is hope while we may say: "I believe that none of us is an island and we need each other."

      More blessings for your spirit, soul and life. Keep nourishing us, we will keep strong.

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      Victor W. Kwok 4 years ago from Hawaii

      Great hub!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sue, how are you? I have to admit I look quite dashing in my tshirt and I'm sure you will look quite stunning. :) Thank you for your kind heats, and have a great weekend up north.

      hugs from Olympia

      bill

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      Sueswan 4 years ago

      Hi Bill

      My friend , I love and agree with your philosophy of kindness.

      I am anxiously waiting for my t-shirt so I can promote Humanity for One World.

      Big hug from your friend in Toronto.

      Sue

      Voted up+++ and sharing your kindness

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Exactly, Rajan...exactly! We need to reach out to those who need us, and be willing to reach out when we need others...that is how a community is formed.

      blessings my friend

      bill

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 4 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      We are social animals and we need each other, Bill. We are not an island and God gives us more than we can handle. Very true. With all the suffering around how true this is.

      I loved reflecting on this aspect.

      Voted up and interesting.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Stephanie, so good to see you and yes, we are interconnected in such a way that independence is a myth and always will be. Thanks for saying it much better than I did. :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Eric, one would think so, wouldn't one? LOL Thank you my friend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ruby, I don't know why all people don't understand that God is love and live by that example. What a world we would have if they did. :) Blessings to you my friend and thank you.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Rasma, you are just keeping Him on His toes. :) I think God appreciates a good sense of humor and a kind heart.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Martin, you led by example, and that is a true sign of a leader. Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      KittHill, you said it perfectly. Kindness is not expensive, so each and every one of us should be giving it. :) Thank you!

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      stephanieb27 4 years ago from United States

      I am currently taking a counseling course which is part of my reading certification. Relating to your statements that we aren't an island and we all need each other, the teacher stated that no one person is independent. We are all influenced by the people in our lives and are part of a larger system. So very true!!! Of course you and others advocating positive change came to mind! Keep up your great work, it is making a difference!!!!! :)

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      Eric Dierker 4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Very cool take on tricky phrase. A similar phrase is "love your neighbor as yourself" hmmm -- there must be an implied condition subsequent to both of these. Love your self first.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 4 years ago from Southern Illinois

      Your thoughts and mine are identical. When i was growing up i was afraid of God. I was taught that he hated sinners and every pleasure was a sin. My grandmother, Minnie was a staunch pentecost believer who practically lived in the church, spoke in tongues, never cut her hair once in her entite life, she lived to be 83. I have had to unlearn many things that i was taught as a child.To me, God is love. False beliefs have caused more pain and suffering in the world than wars or famines. Why can't all people see that? Great write Bill...

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      Gypsy Rose Lee 4 years ago from Riga, Latvia

      Voted up and awesome. Bill I've said it before and will say it again you are an inspiration. Your message comes through loud and clear. Reach out to others and they will reach out to you. I do believe that sometimes God thinks I'm a bit of a handful but I know this amuses Him because above all else He knows my heart is in the right place. Passing this on.

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      Martin Kloess 4 years ago from San Francisco

      Thank you for your inspiration words. I wish you had seen me in action. My only fault was; others thought they had to work as I appeared to.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Alicia! I had to get away from the writing hubs for awhile and find some depth. :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Heck, Jackie, you can contradict me if you want. :) I argue with myself every single day. LOL

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      Linda Crampton 4 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      I love this hub, Bill. It contains a lot of wisdom. Thanks once again for sharing your thoughts.

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      KittHill 4 years ago

      What you say is true and a belief in a God is not necessary. We need each other to survive. We need each other to help us through whatever is happening in our lives. I feel that no decent god would allow a child to suffer a life of abuse, starvation, and sickness, though many do. It is obvious no god is going to step in and help, so it is up to us, everyone of us, to change this. Kindness is not hard. Kindness is not expensive. It is free and should be spent around the world with abandon. Kindness is not like money, the more you spend the more you get back.

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      Jackie Lynnley 4 years ago from The Beautiful South

      Thanks bill, didn't want to counterdict you, just have to say what's on my heart. lol You still always get my vote.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      We see that quite often, don't we, Nell? It's easy to manipulate just about anything to serve a bias. :)

      Thanks for the visit and have a great day tomorrow.

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      Wise words billy, and yes we do all need each other, its so lonely by yourself, as someone, can't remember who, said. Its okay to be alone, but lonely is another thing. The part about the african children made me realise that the people who say that are not quoting God, they are quoting there own biases. They take what they like about a saying and stick to it even if its wrong, voted up all buttons!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Carol, I wish I had the answer to your question...there are mysteries that will always be a mystery for me. All I can do is reach out and try to help. Thank you for your reflections.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Michelle! I appreciate you stopping by.

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      Michelle Liew 4 years ago from Singapore

      God gives us more than we can handle...but what he can take us to, he can certainly take us through, if we let Him. Great share!

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      carol stanley 4 years ago from Arizona

      Heavy words for sure. Yes I know many unhappy people and some of those people have everything and have never suffered, and yet I have seen and heard of many who have gone through so much pain and seem to bear it well. I so agree with everything here you have written..And I don't know why little children have to suffer in such unhappy environments.. So as you say treasure the day and the people around you.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Joe, great story buddy that perfectly reflects this article. Humility is something I seem to learn daily, or at least have messages sent to me daily. I think the Mariners are learning a little something about humility right now. :)

      Take care buddy and I hope you have a great evening. Thanks for a great comment.

      Aloha

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thanks Abby! I think you'll like it.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Bill, for sure you understand this. The way you speak of your wife and family, there is no doubt you have surrounded yourself with people and love. Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      PS, I'm with you all the way. If there is a God then he gave me the ability to handle problems and/or reach out and get help. I refuse to stand by and wait for divine intervention. That could be a long wait.

      blessings my friend and a hug for a bonus

      bill

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      Hawaiian Odysseus 4 years ago from Southeast Washington state

      Hi, Bill!

      I try to get my lawn mowed on Tuesday morning each week in order to throw the clippings in with the trash that is picked up an hour or so later. Two weeks ago, Rita and I were in Hermiston. Yesterday, it rained. Bummed me out. Today, I had a window of opportunity to get the lawn mowed...and I'm doing it with a 2nd hand mower that I have to lean into to push. Anyway...I was wondering how I was going to deal with the clippings. Rita didn't want me leaving them in a pile somewhere on the lawn because that'd turn that spot yellow. I didn't want to bag what was going to be two huge bags and stuff them into the trash barrel because we'd have clippings sauerkraut by next Tuesday. Lo and behold, my neighbor came over and asked me if I'd mind tossing my clippings near his tomato plants so he could use them as ground cover. Of course, I jumped at his offer...what a blessing that was!

      Which serves as a big time lesson to me...me, the guy feeling restless, irritable, and discontented...

      Who's my neighbor? The guy who needs me. Who's HIS neighbor? Me, the guy who was humbled this morning and encouraged to admit that I need him.

      I need you. You need me. HOW!

      Aloha, Bill! Another dynamite hub!

      Joe

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      Abby Campbell 4 years ago from Charlotte, North Carolina

      Thanks, Bill. I will check out "The Cultural Creatives." I'm drowning myself in great material, and it's overwhelming in a good way. :D

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      Bill De Giulio 4 years ago from Massachusetts

      Great message Bill. We can't do this alone. Anyone who thinks they can is just fooling themselves. Every now and then we all feel overwhelmed. The best way to deal is to surround yourself with people and love. Great message.

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      Patricia Scott 4 years ago from sunny Florida

      It is funny that I read this today, Billy

      I had just been having a discussion with someone and that person said that God would take care of things.

      And my reply was, this isn't a God thing...I will not lay it off on Him. This is a me thing...I will find a way to manage my concerns. He gave me a brain and I will use it.

      Kindness is the answer. Do unto others and all that. We have had this discussion a number of times....reach out, let others know, we are one family, we need each other.

      Voted up++++ Angels are on the way to you this evening...ps

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thanks Jackie! I was mostly referring to the misinterpretation that has become so popular over the years....I appreciate you clarifying it and of course for the visit.....I like your new profile picture. :)

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      Jackie Lynnley 4 years ago from The Beautiful South

      This is the actual scripture bill and it has been misquoted for years. This is about temptations that we don't have to give into them like your previous drinking problem. God only tempts with good things, satan gets the blame for this one.

      1 Corinthians 10:13

      "There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, Who will not suffer you to be tempted above that you are able; but will with the temptation also make a way of escape that you may be able to bear it."

      God helps us out of these things if we will allow Him. Or give the credit where you will, I thank God for all things. The church today is too modern alright that it does not let these young people know there is someone to walk beside them in every battle. Every one.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sheila, right on! We have to become more aware and more willing....we can start a tidal wave of kindness but it has to start with a small ripple. :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Kathryn, I think there are more of us than we suspect....we just need to find a way to band together and make a difference. :) I'm counting on you!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Carly my friend, it is good to see you. I hope you are doing well. As for the old saying, how ridiculous to tell someone who is buried in debt or personal problems that everything will be alright...that they can handle it....that's like saying "strap on some balls and be a man," which is no solution at all and ends up making the person feel inadequate because they can't make things better. Whew! I had a little rant right there. :)

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      sheilamyers 4 years ago

      You are exactly right. I believe there are times when everything seems to be too much and we can decide to end it all by turning to drugs, stealing, or even committing suicide. Some people will recognize the warning signs and seek help before it gets too bad while other people have nowhere to turn for help. If someone asks for our help, we should do all we can. If we notice they're having problems and seem like they won't talk, we should try to get them to open up and accept our help.

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      This is a much different view than I am used to hearing, and it makes more sense than the alternatives! I agree, we all need each other. If we would all embrace one another, this world would be a better place. But for now, I will take comfort in the fact that many of us do already embrace this belief. Thank you for writing another beautiful, inspiring piece.

      ~ Kathryn

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      CarlySullens 4 years ago from St. Louis, Missouri

      Bill, I so agree. I too have never like that statement, "God does not give us what we cannot handle." I fought that statement in my teens crying out saying, "I can't handle this!" and other pivogzl moments in my life.

      We do need each other. We can not isolate from one another. Those who are married are shown to live longer. Those who have friends are shown to be happier. But most importnatly, those who volunteer and help others are shown to find meaning and joy in their life.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Pearl, you are a living, breathing example of all that is good with HP. I love working with you and being your peer and friend. Thank you so very much.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      DJ, just a little bit of reflection that I did while watching a movie the other day. Strange where inspiration comes from, isn't it?

      Thank you for the magnificent rating....music to my ears my friend.

      bill

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      Connie Smith 4 years ago from Southern Tier New York State

      Billy, a long time ago I found a little piece of paper my Mom had in her vanity. It simply said 'Kindness Matters'. Profound but true, and I live by that saying as do you, my friend.

      I'm glad you keep reaching out, and offering your helping hand. I gratefully took it, and look where I am now! Thank you ;) Pearl

      Voted Up++++

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Denise, it is my pleasure. I'm always looking for new ways to look at things, and this one dawned on me while watching a movie believe it or not. :) A writer's mind never rests.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Awww, Abby, I'm blushing. Thank you, and thank you for the Kindle book recommendation. There is a great book out called "The Cultural Creatives" that speaks about this...like-minded people standing together for this type of change. I certainly hope it happens with increased regularity my friend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      That's interesting, Miz B, that there were four hubs about this subject. As for your error....I knew where you were going with it so why correct? The message is the important matter, is it not? :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Mark, indeed, buddy! Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Kas, that is an eloquent comment, buddy, and I have nothing to add to it. If Christians started acting like Christ we would have few worries in this life. I should live to see that day happen. :) Thanks my friend. I will gladly move forward with people like you by my side.

      blessings always

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Nate, few people deserve bad times....that is nonsense as you have stated...and few people, if any, make it through this life without help...in fact, I can think of none. :) Thanks my friend and I hope this finds you well.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sally, I believe that with every fiber of my being....without each other we are in serious trouble. :) Thank you for the kind words.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Faith, no doubt indeed! Will we ever see that day? I certainly hope so because I am certain things can always get worse than they are now, and wouldn't that be a rotten kettle of fish? :)

      blessings and thank you

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Dora, thanks for clarifying the actual quote and you are right of course.. I wonder how many people actually know that?

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      DJ Anderson 4 years ago

      Magnificent Hub!

      Don't stop writing. Your words will reach those needing

      to hear what you have to say.

      You are teaching many the true meaning of life.

      Thank you for all your efforts,

      DJ.

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      Denise W Anderson 4 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      What a concept! God gives us more than we can bear so that we will lean on and learn from each other! You have opened my mind to new vistas! Thanks for the new point of view!

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      Abby Campbell 4 years ago from Charlotte, North Carolina

      Wow, Bill! Your sentiments are mine exactly. I've got to let you know about this FREE book on Kindle. It's also on PDF at the author's site, but this author shares so much and makes one see life and love in a whole new dimension. If you're interested, here it is: http://www.amazon.com/Soulshift-Manifesting-Abunda... .

      I believe God is making changes in this world right now. He is bringing us like-minded people together... to share... to care... and to encourage one another in love. Your heart truly expresses this here (though I've already known you have a heart of gold). ;)

      May the light of LOVE spread as we all share our hearts.

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      MizBejabbers 4 years ago

      Bill, thank you for not chastising me for my egregious error in that I said Deepak Chopra, when it was clearly the Dalai Lama whose quote you used. Well, they are working toward the same end, so maybe it wasn't egregious. I had just read a hub with quotes from Deepak Chopra, so hence the mistake. I read about four hubs this morning all on the same or a similar theme. Yours and another persons were published on the same day. Do you see more than a coincidence here? It's working!

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      Mark G Weller 4 years ago from Lake Charles, LA.

      Out of the ashes rises the Phoenix!

      Great words Bill, Mark

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      Kas 4 years ago from Bartlett, Tennessee

      Absolutely my brother! I think your poem was right on specifically in terms of the military as well. These are our brothers and sisters, friends, daughters, mothers, fathers........when did they become anything less than that? Great big ol heart right here that I see in you Bill. Good job on your one and only poem!

      If I've learned anything about life....its this, Context is everything!

      God gave the apostle Paul more than any man should have ever been able to bear under....just read 2nd corinthians 11:21-30. Why did he do this? Because in Paul's weakness, God's mighty power is more than enough to take up the slack. So yes, I believe that God can allow things to overwhelm us at times......sometimes it's to bring us to Him because he's able to overcome our problems in the end.

      I think that the verse 1 corinthians 10:13 is so taken out of context it's not even funny (which is where you get the whole "God won't give us more than we can handle" phrase). The context is to the church specifically in Corinth...it's also about temptation, not trials in life. Jesus himself said that "In this world, you will have trouble, but take heart, I've overcome the world." WE CAN BANK ON THAT! In my opinion, Jesus is saying.........

      "Hey man, sometimes life's going to suck so hard, you're going to think you're being vacuumed up by a Hoover! But don't worry, I'm there to give you the strength to go through it because you can't do it alone."

      This also brings to light John 15 where Jesus talks about us not being able to do anything on our own outside of the power of God. (Admittedly, it's slightly out of context, but it actually works for so much of what Jesus was trying to get across there.)

      Obviously, theology could be debated day in and day out with any and all, but I believe Jesus came to bring life and life abundantly....not theology, doctrine or anything like that. Just life! Sounds like you want to help be a part of bringing life to those who need real life. I salute you sir and any who stand with you. God bless Bill.

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      Nathan Bernardo 4 years ago from California, United States of America

      Yes, absolutely, Billy. I'm amazed when I hear someone claim they did it all, all by themselves, and then scorn those who need help. In a word, those people are liars. Maybe not intentionally, but they don't speak truth, nonetheless. You are absolutely correct, too, that people have been misguided by belief that somehow we get what we deserve, we get what we can handle in a bad way, conversely in a good way, and so on; you've already provided plenty examples why that tired philosophy and slogan is false. And I'm glad you did.

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      Sally Gulbrandsen 4 years ago from Norfolk

      This certainly strikes a chord, We have all had times when we have been dished up more than we can cope with on. I love that you always brave enough to tell it just as it is - we all need each other, thanks Billybuc

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Yes, we are to be His hands and feet reaching out in love to others, as He tells us, to love your neighbor, which means all of humanity, not only your next door neighbor, no matter what.

      Love is the simple answer, as I always say . . . that true unconditional love without judgments.

      If our hearts would be filled with love for others, this world would look a lot different right now, no doubt!.

      Blessings, Faith Reaper

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 4 years ago from The Caribbean

      Billybuc, I agree with you. I will also like to share that the quote about more than we can bear actually states "tempted more than we can bear," specifically saying that we can always resist temptation. Even Christians have misquoted it and allowed themselves the frustration you describe. There are many burdens too heavy, as you cited.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Debbie, I just keep moving forward and spreading the truth as I know it...it works for me and hopefully will help others.

      Thank you my friend and I appreciate you as well.

      blessings always,

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      it is indeed, Donna. Thanks for the comment and I agree completely.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Lizzy, I have glasses so blinders won't work for me. :) Hope you are well my Wonder and thanks as always.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Randi, I'm not big on blind faith. :) Warm weather is heading our way this weekend so I'll have to thank you for that, but feel free to keep most of it for yourself. :)

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      Deborah Brooks Langford 4 years ago from Brownsville,TX

      Blessings my friend.. a wonderful hub you have here.. you are so wise my friend.. thank you for all you do for all of us.. I really do appreciate you and I love how you never give up..

      sharing this gem

      debbie

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      Donna Brown 4 years ago from Alton, Missouri

      In the New Testament of the Bible, it says that God is Love. It also says that God so loved the world that he gave. . . The first act of love therefore is in giving to others. This is certainly a good place to start!

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      Liz Davis 4 years ago from Hudson, FL

      You need to put on blinders and turn off your brain in order to truly believe these things that the modern church instructs. It's a shame.

      The Dalai Lama has about as much wisdom as you could possibly stuff into one person without causing the world to explode. That's science, my friend. :D

      Once again, you be right on, Billy!

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Actually, Bill, the people I am referring to believe it and lives their lives accordingly. They call it "faith". I would probably call it "blind faith" and you know how I feel about vision;)

      My day is ok so far, trying to play a little catch up on hubpages before I go out to my "day job"

      I hope your day is going well! I am about ready to send you some more of these searing temperatures....just let me know when you are ready!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      MizB, it is nationalism at its worst and it is a huge roadblock to making progress in this area. We have to put aside the petty differences and concentrate on the common good....when will we ever learn?

      I love the group you formed and I'm sorry it had to disband. You have given me an idea and for that I am grateful. Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Jim! I hope you are well. I don't remember seeing any new writing from you in awhile.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Randi, it can be a bit scary if their foundation is simply a trite saying....we all need more my friend.

      Thank you and I hope you are having a great day.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      and I, you, Sha! :) love you too!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Cat, as long as there are people like you out there I will continue to hold out hope for humanity. Keep caring my friend and I'll do the same from 3000 miles away.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Marlene, this is something I believe in strongly....we need each other. :) Thank you my friend.

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      Jim Higgins 4 years ago from Eugene, Oregon

      This is a real gem Bill. You are doing a great service to those who read your work. I hope that number multiplies.

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      MizBejabbers 4 years ago

      Bill, my friend, I am so glad that you and people like you are taking up the relay and running with it. As you said, different people react to the burdens of the world in different ways.

      When I was younger, I was just the opposite of what you were. I had to be surrounded by people and noise. Then I learned the value of true friendship and to be selective of my friends. I learned I didn’t need 300 “friends” when six true friends would do quite nicely, actually five now because one died recently. We, along with several others, formed a group that met twice monthly and meditated for the benefit of the world. We had been doing this since 1978, but then health problems caused us to stop meeting on a regular basis. This is H.O.W. we contribute to the world. We still stay in contact and occasionally have a meditation because we want to. I love your quotes from Deepak Chopra, because he is one of the authorities that we studied during our meditation sessions. Other people are forming groups of this nature, so take heart.

      One other thing I would like to point out (a religious and political hot potato) is that religious and ethnic groups are fighting ferociously against a one world government. My opinion is that as long as this separation is maintained, we will never attain the H.O.W. that you so felicitously advocate in your wonderful hubs. Voted up+++

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      So true. While the original, "God will not give you more than you can handle" can be be comforting and a good booster in certain situations, it can be detrimental in others. I sometimes envy the people who believe in and live by these edicts. On the other hand, I don't really want to be around them when the bubble bursts! Thank you, Bill, for as always, a freat viewpoint!

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      Shauna L Bowling 4 years ago from Central Florida

      Beautifully stated my friend. I need you!

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Billy,

      I love these words that you speak... I hope others will love them too! Why does love, appreciation and mutual respect seem to be such a hard concept for some people to understand? Don't get me wrong, we all have things that get us down and we all struggle with personal relationships, but as bad as my worst day is... I love my neighbor and I can say that with all honesty. I might not want to have dinner with the weird guy down the street, but I still have an appreciation and respect for him, as I do for people thousands of miles away.

      Keep inspiring Billy!

      Cat

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      lovedoctor926 4 years ago

      Bill, this was an excellent hub with a very powerful message I can feel the passion behind your words as you cry real tears. voted++

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Mary, thanks for sharing Muller's quote, and right on as always. Thank you and yes, I do need you, and it feels good to write that.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Janine! I hate to think who I would be without my loved ones and friends. :)

      Enjoy your Hump Day!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Marissa, yes, you should be able to relate to this, and you have friends and loved ones who will help you get through it all....and a new day will dawn and all will be well. :) Good to see you my friend.

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      Mary Craig 4 years ago from New York

      No one can refute a thing you've said my friend. We need each other not just to survive but to live. I agree and admit, I need you, I need my brothers and sisters all over this world.

      "A flower cannot blossom without sunshine, and man cannot live without love."- Max Muller We both know its all about love!

      Voted up, useful, awesome, and interesting.

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      Janine Huldie 4 years ago from New York, New York

      Bill, we do need each other and couldn't agree more about love and be kind to all mankind. I try very hard to live my life accordingly and like this, too. And I love that you feel pretty much the same on this. Thank you for sharing and hope you are having a wonderful Wednesday now!!

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      Marissa D. Carnahan 4 years ago from Nevada

      Bill,

      This is great... and I'm sure you can imagine how this could strike a chord in me as of late. Beautiful hub, made me smile. I particularly liked when you said we are not islands, that we need each other.

      Marissa