How Anxiety Can Affect Your Relationship
About a year ago, I was "diagnosed" with anxiety. What is that exactly? It's a number of things affecting your life. Mine targets my relationships with people, mainly mine and my boyfriends. We've been together for about 2 years, and even before we made it official, I was head over heels for him, we talked for almost a year before. I know he would never do anything to harm me or anything to affect us negatively. I was a care free person. I mean obviously everyone has a jealous side to a relationship, but I never let mine overcome what we had. One day, my anxiety hit me out of no where. I thought everyone was mad at me, I thought everyone secretly hated me, I thought my friends didn't want me around, and I thought my boyfriend didn't want to be with me. I had no idea as to why my care-free lifestyle left my fingertips, and the road to getting that back is slow and terrifying. With my boyfriend and I, things hit rock bottom. It came down to where I was nervous about him talking to his own father without me knowing every single thing they said. Sounds pathetic, but there was nothing we could do. The first few months were terrible. I have anger issues, and he had low tolerance to many things he wasn't used to. We would constantly argue because he didn't know why I was so worried every second of everyday about everything in my life. He would always get so angry with me, it hurt. But now, so many months later, we're working on things together, and honestly we weren't nearly as close. I just wish we had found a positive way of doing things. He works with me. He has all the tolerance and patience in the world when my anxiety acts up. That is the key to a relationship where one suffers anxiety, patience. Below I will provide helpful tips that worked for me. I really hope if you're suffering from similar anxiety and anger disorders these help.
- Seek therapy. I guarantee you there is someone out there who makes you feel like recovery is possible. It's up to you to find that person, you cannot settle for the first person you see.They will get you the right medication as well.
- Anxiety medication. I understand the scare for OTC medicines. The risks, the what ifs... I get it. If you're not seeing someone, there are OTC medicines to help your disorder. Vitamin B helps calm the nervous system. This won't be the cure for your anxiety, but it is a great start.
- Talk to your loved one. Relationships are so difficult and stressful without anxiety, but with it its so much more. Sit down and have a serious talk. Do NOT hesitate to tell them everything you're feeling. If they truly care, they will do whatever they can, trust me.
- Talk to your family. One of the best feelings when suffering from anxiety is feeling loved by the people you care about most. Explain to them what is going on. Stress you and your partner are getting along, your anxiety is just a huge bump in the road.
- Get support from your friends. You can always go to a trusting friend for support, But the one thing you can't do is expect them to understand what you're going through. Explain to them how you feel, and let them ask questions.. it shows they care.