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How To Deal With Change Effectively and Positively

Updated on January 14, 2013

Be Prepared For Change

My motto is: Facing change is like being prepared for stormy weather, "Always carry an umbrella and the change in weather will not catch you by surprise."
My motto is: Facing change is like being prepared for stormy weather, "Always carry an umbrella and the change in weather will not catch you by surprise." | Source

Change Is A Natural Part Of Life

Life is full of changes. It is a truth we must learn to accept, especially in our world today. It happens. We tend to look upon change as a bad thing in life, perhaps at times it is so. However, change can be a good thing. I like to look on the optimistic side of change. It is much more productive, peaceful and healthy.

As humans, we tend to enjoy a certain pattern of living, a paradigm of sorts, when that paradigm shifts it causes us to rebel. Why do people fear change? I suppose it is because change forces them out of their comfort zone. In the end, we must decide whether change is going to cause us to enjoy life and face it bravely, or to resist and delve into the bitterness of indifference.

Reasons People Fear Change & Symptoms Of Change

Major Change Catalysts
Symptoms of Fear Of Change
Death of a loved one, or friend
Crying, at times excessively
Divorce
Anxiety
Series of life changes
Loss of energy
Confusion
Multiple moves; location changes
Depression
 
Fainting
 
Focused on the past
 
Blaming of others
 
Anger

Quotes On Change

The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance. —Alan Watts

Change is the source of life. Be willing to exchange what you are for what you can become. —Unknown

How Do You View Change?

Your attitude will determine how you view change. When faced with change do you embrace it and set a plan for learning from the experience? Or do you openly resist it or withdraw; choosing to remain where you are and complain about the situation?

If we focus only on today, than we may fail to succeed tomorrow. Preparing for change, being ready for it will help us to effectively overcome hurdles in our path. You have to expect discomfort when change happens, your flexibility, your attitude, will determine your successful path to happiness. As Abraham Lincoln once said, "We are just about has happy as we make up our minds to be."

Choose The Positive Side Of Change

Reflective Quotes On Change

Just when I think I have learned the way to live, life changes. —Hugh Prather

Lord, where we are wrong, make us willing to change; where we are right, make us easy to live with. —Peter Marshall

Life is about change, and about movement and about being something other than what you are at this very moment. —Oprah Winfrey

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The Five Phases of Change

Knowing the phases of change may help improve your view of it and boost your well being and self worth as you work through the stages.

  1. The Shock Phase is the awareness of change or that it is coming. People frequently fear what they do not know or what they cannot control. They may say, "We're doing fine. Why do we need to change?"
  2. During the Resistance Phase a person is faced with the unknown. They do not want to move from their present view or place in life. They may focus on the past or withdraw from the those who are causing change. They tend to say, "I can't adjust to this."
  3. The Depression Phase turns inward, negativity is evident and includes blaming others, moments of anxiety and feelings of being lost. This stage is crucial, if they do not accept change then the path leads to emotional and physical abandonment or resignation of the path forward. They believe life is unfair and change is bad.
  4. The fourth stage, the Adaption Phase, finds a person beginning to accept change and the possibilities change will bring. They may exhibit loss of energy from dealing with the contemplation of change.
  5. The final stage, the Phase Of Learning, finds the person committing to change. They have a better focus and are willing to work towards change's goal. If it involves others, they will begin to work with them, while keeping optimistic.

The graph below shows the progress of the phases of change based upon mood and time (awareness to acceptance to commitment). Source: Adapted from peproj.com/5phases.htm.

Final Quotes On Change

Change is the only constant. Hanging on is the only sin. —Denise McCluggage

There's an opportune time to do things, a right time for everything on the earth... a right time to hold on and another to let go... —Book of Ecclesiastes (MSG)


Strategies For Effective Change

Surround yourself with people who are optimistic about change. Present yourself as an open-minded individual, not as a casualty of displaced attitude. Reach out to those who support you and are willing to help you through the change. If you find change overwhelming and cannot cope, seek professional counseling.

Exercise. Movement will help your brain to convert fear into energy. It will benefit your body greatly as stress is alleviated. Keep going forward, don't wait for change to happen. "The future belongs to those who see possibilities before they become obvious. When you see the bandwagon coming down the road, it is too late." —Unknown

Alcohol, denial, overeating, revenge, anger, and blaming are negative coping mechanisms. Avoid resorting to these methods as they tend to lead to a state of prolonged depression.

Use critical thinking skills. By thinking through the change, you can separate fact from opinion. It allows you to identify fallacies and to see beyond the obvious. Critical thinking leads to good decisions which are signs of a well balanced person.

According to career advisors the average person will experience over five major career changes in their lifetime. Today, one-third of the working population will change jobs approximately every twelve months. The reasons for these changes vary from boredom, increased financial opportunity, a better awareness of skills and talents, and personal reasons such as conflict at work. Concern of change in careers affects people differently, learning how to deal with the emotional responses is key and seek a career advisor's consultation if necessary.

Prepare For Change

Anticipate change. Adopt an attitude of optimism and practice continual improvement of thought towards change. Think about the good things that change can bring and how you can grow through the phases. If you sit too comfortably, you will fall asleep and miss out on the broader opportunities of life. The other side of change is full of excitement, and challenges that will lead you to success.

Facing change will balance your life and bring joy, contentment, and peace to your life and those whom you love.

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      Jools99 4 years ago from North-East UK

      Dianna, some good pointers here. I used to support school staff in 'change management' when our country's education system went through a huge policy shift. It was incredible how differently people reacted to change - some embraced it, indeed they were excited at the idea whilst others could not be brought on board in spite of all of the info provided and the support given.

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      Janine Huldie 4 years ago from New York, New York

      Dianna, great article about how to deal with change. I have to tell you when I was younger I had a harder time, now as I am growing older I truly am better at accepting change (still don't love it, but have learned to adapt quicker). That aid some great advice and have of course voted and and shared all over!!

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      carol stanley 4 years ago from Arizona

      Change is difficult for most people. We have moved around a lot ---out of choice. Not any more..I am happy to be in a very loving community and appreciate my support group of women. Change is part of life and even if you do not change all around you does. Interesting and well written hub..voting up and sharing.

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      Ms. Immortal 4 years ago from NJ

      This is great information that everyone needs. Our lives really never stop changing and sometimes the changes can feel devastating. Understanding the 5 phases of change is helpful and gives predictablity to what may be an unpredictable time.

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      Mary Hyatt 4 years ago from Florida

      I think I've always liked "change" a little too much. When I was in the work world, I would find it imperative that I change jobs about every two years. I would need a new challenge, I suppose.

      Change is good, I think.

      Great Hub. I voted it UP, etc. and will share.

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      Eiddwen 4 years ago from Wales

      So very interesting indeed teaches and here's to so many more to come.

      Enjoy your weekend.

      Eddy.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      It is like the seasons, yes? There is no stopping it, and in many cases there is no preparing for it. I happen to love change, and I tend to embrace it and then take time to reflect upon it. You have some great suggestions here, and it is written in your thorough manner. Well done Dianna!

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Jools, I faced the same thing when I first managed a team. The resistance to change is amazing, even when it is needed and for the good of all. Thanks for your added value to the topic. Enjoy yourself today.

      Janine, I remember when I was a difficult person to work with as well. Ugh, change again? I learned as well to open up to the possibilities. I have lumps to prove it! Thanks, dear one, for popping in here today.

      Carol, with my husband's promotions, we moved over seven times during a twenty year span. I went through the change phases each time, some times staying in the valley longer than others. You have to adapt or you will lose out on the happiness of life.

      Cathy, I am glad the chart helps to understand the cycles of change. I think some people just don't know how to deal with change so they fail to move forward. I value your input. Have a most wonderful Saturday.

      Mary, today's generation lives for the two year change in the work world. They feel stagnant if they have to stay beyond three in the same position. You were way ahead of your time, dear lady! Love your visits and thanks for your added contribution. Be well and safe.

      Eddy, Thanks for your support and encouragement. There will be more, just hope that they make sense to others. Change is not always a great subject for many. Take care and be blessed in your day's journey.

      Bill, welcome! Very profound, change is like the seasons -- can't be stopped. When you have a positive attitude and outlook on life, change can be a good thing. Enjoy your weekend with Bev.

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      drbj and sherry 4 years ago from south Florida

      You have hit it out of the ball park, Dianna, with this explanation of change and the importance of a positive attitude in adapting to the often unwanted process.

      Here's my favorite definition of change: Change is inevitable . . . except from a vending machine.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Drbj, LOL! I love that quote... I am going to have to include that in the hub, with your permission. Love it! I value your opinions as I know your background and expertise in ethics and values are outstanding. Enjoy your weekend and be safe out there.

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      whonunuwho 4 years ago from United States

      Thank you for sharing his important work, teaches. it is so necessary for us to view this as a natural process and that we all may overcome in the end.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Whonu, you are so right, it is a natural process and facing it will allow us to become stronger for life. Take care and truly appreciate your added value to the hub content. Enjoy your weekend and stay well.

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      Helen Murphy Howell 4 years ago from Fife, Scotland

      This is an excellent hub and brought back a few memories of when I was much younger. I definitely did not accept change and would find myself angry and unwilling to accept. Of course this attitude and emotion did no good at all but it was a slow learning process for me but eventually I did get there.

      I loved the quotes and in particular - "Change is the source of life. Be willing to exchange what you are for what you can become. —Unknown"

      I wish I had read this quote and your superb article many years ago, it would have saved me a great deal of unnecessary anguish and silliness!

      This will be very useful indeed to many folks out there in so many different situations - voted up + shared!

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      Comfort Babatola 4 years ago from Bonaire, GA, USA

      Good piece of writing on the inevitable, change.

      For most, the known is easier to deal with than the unknown. So we all tend to have some sort of resistance towards change in that sense. Plus, when change is forced on one, it makes one want to resist it even more.

      Thanks for a good read. :)

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      Sommer Dalton 4 years ago

      Voted up plus 3, I think everyone needs to read this!! So true about your attitude and acceptance , well done and very positive:)

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      Debbie Pinkston 4 years ago from Pereira, Colombia and NW Arkansas

      Dianna, in my office I have a poster that says "Change: Why resist it when you can embrace it?" I like it because counseling is all about change, dealing with difficult, tragic changes, sad changes, and even happy changes. It is about helping individuals make positive changes in their lives that will result in closer relationships and more fulfilling lives. I like the fact that you explained the stages of change, because it helps to know that what one is experiencing is "normal" and will not last forever.

      Thanks for a very informative Hub.

      p.s. "positively" in your title has a typo.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Seeker7, I think we all had lots to learn about change when young. I wish I had some of this advice when younger as well instead of the hard-headed ways I had to learn. Thanks for your visit, votes and support. Enjoyed having your come in for awhile.

      Comfort, change does take one back at first. If it is good, you can adapt easily, but when it is forced -- not so easily taken. Thanks for your share on the thoughts, so true. Have a good day, friend.

      Sommer, thank you. I hope the subject helps others. It was good seeing you here today. Enjoy your evening.

      Debbie, thanks for the typo note -- always appreciated! I imagine you can share lots from your experience on how people adapt to change. It would be interesting to hear about. Now I have to go "change" the title. Have a great evening.

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      teacherjoe52 4 years ago

      Good morning teaches.

      Very exhalent article.

      I like change a lot of times. It is fun and challenging to learn new things and places,

      There are times though, when I kicked, yelled and fought change. Finally surrendering to it it ended up bringing a lot of meaning to my life and a better life. That is what has happened in majour changes in my life.

      God bless you.

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      Honey Halley 4 years ago from Illinois

      Great advice. I'm sure I've known some who could use it. I'm also sure there have been times in my past where I could have used it too. Thankfully, I'm mostly a laid back kinda gal and take it as it comes. VOTED+++

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      TeacherJoe, we must have had the same lesson plan. I had to learn to face change the hard way. Now, change is viewed with an optimistic heart. Blessings.

      Honey, glad you came by and found the hub interesting. Enjoy your day and be careful out there.

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      Martin Kloess 4 years ago from San Francisco

      Thank you for sharing this. I was thinking today about the changes in tradition I brought to Freemasonry. Many old traditions are now gone because of me. But the Organization is revitalized.

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      Michele Travis 4 years ago from U.S.A. Ohio

      Thank you teaches, sometimes people get stuck when it comes to change, it kind of keeps them from going forward in life. This is a great way to help people move forward in life.

      I hope more people read this, because it will help them keep moving, not just stop and wallow in misery.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Mhatter, glad change was instrumental in good results for you. That is validating for the article topic. Thank you for sharing this here.

      Michele, change is a habit to enjoy, but many refuse to embrace. Thanks for your valued input. Blessings.

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      huckelbury 4 years ago

      Change is fundamental to human existence. Some we can anticipate, some we cannot, but your piece reminds us of the necessity for being prepared to address either. If we expect to remain in a kind of stasis, if we demand that the status quo become permanent, then we risk Thoreau's indictment that "a foolish consistency is the hobgoblin of small minds." You provide here what I expected: an erudite piece that is beautiful as well as useful. Many thanks from one who has seen many changes.

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      the girls 4 years ago from Los Angeles, California

      The only constant thing in this world is change. It is hard to undergo the five phases of change.

      But ones you get used to it, it becomes easier by the day. A person becomes versatile and it is better to succeed this way. Voted up and pressing the other buttons too :-)

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Huckelbury, thank you for the descriptive view on change. I appreciate your added value to the content. It is unfortunate that many people choose to remain in a kind of stasis rather than to accept change and move forward. Enjoy your day.

      The girls, once we realize change is a constant in our lives, it is much easier to look forward. Thank you for adding to the hub argument with such clarity. Be well and safe!

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      Linda Crampton 4 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      Change is an inevitable part of life, so it's very important that we deal with it successfully. Thank you for the guidelines, Dianna. They are interesting and useful.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Alicia, I am glad you found the hub article interesting to read. Always good to see you any day. Hope your week goes well for you.

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      ignugent17 4 years ago

      I really love this hub. It really a great help. I like to live in my comfort zone and when I need to change I have to undergo all these things. I am glad you shared this hub .

      Voted up and useful.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Hi ignugent, I think most of us prefer our comfort zone, but looking at change as a motivator to success helps to get through the first stages. Take care and be safe out there.

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      Christy Birmingham 4 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      I like the focus here on optimism. Adapt with change rather than being in a resistant state. Much less energy is needed! I vote up and sharing as well. Good write!

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      lovedoctor926 4 years ago

      Excellent hub. change is good. in life, we must take risks. If we don't take risks, we remain stuck and stop growing as a person.

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      FullOfLoveSites 4 years ago from United States

      Love it - great hub!

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Christy, it's the energy that will cause anxiety when resisting change. You have the right thoughts on that for sure. Thanks for your support. Stay safe and well.

      Love, I agree. Risks, when appropriate, must be taken if we want to move forward. Great analysis! Enjoyed your visit.

      Fulloflove, thanks for your feedback. Have a good evening and stay safe.

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      Margaret Perrottet 4 years ago from Pennsauken, NJ

      Excellent hub on how to face the inevitable changes that life delivers to you. I really think the happiest and healthiest people are those that can adapt well to change. Voted up and shared.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Hello mperrottet, being able to adapt to change does increase your positive outlook in life. Thanks for your reflection on this concept. I appreciate your vote and sharing. Enjoy your day, if you are near the storm area -- please be safe.

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      lovedoctor926 4 years ago

      Useful information.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Love, thank you for stopping by here today. Be safe and well.

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      lovedoctor926 4 years ago

      Thank you teaches12345. I hope you stay safe as well.

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      krsharp05 4 years ago from 18th and Vine

      Your words are always gentle and always reassuring. Although at times it seems that change is a slamming force, it is necessary but it sure took a lot of years to be able to admit that. :) Wonderful hub. Interesting & Up -K

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Thanks, Krsharp. I find change to slow people down and knowing how to face it with hope makes the pain a little better. Enjoy your evening, dear one.

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      Vinaya Ghimire 4 years ago from Nepal

      It is true that life is full oc changes but change is alsothe ductium of the world. Nothing in this universe remains static. I have never read such a comprehensive article about dealing with changes in our life. Thanks for sharing.

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      Victoria Lynn 4 years ago from Arkansas, USA

      teaches, great article! So true, so true. I do find it difficult to deal with negative changes, or painful ones. You give good tips to keep in mind. :-)

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      Mary Wickison 4 years ago from Brazil

      Hello Dianna,

      I never realized there were steps relating to change. I suppose I never thought about it really. It is interesting to see it like this. Some people find change so difficult. I try to roll with it. I think instead of saying, "Why?" a person should say, "Why not?"

      An interesting book regarding this is "Who Stole my Cheese?" My sister, a probation officer in CA was asked to read this as part of her training process. It is about anticipating change.

      Interesting article.

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      Suzanne Ridgeway 4 years ago from Dublin, Ireland

      Hi Dianna,

      What an interesting article I can so relate to. Your 5 stages of change are so true and I could identify with all of them for different changing moments in my life. I have had to change my work, moved locations and dealt with the sudden loss of my mum which all exhibited emotions and symptoms you mentioned. I do tend to look to the positive as change is inevitable and something we all must embrace. Life is too short too dwell on the negative and that is not always easy but once identified as it is part of the process , we can move on with positive outlooks.

      Thanks so much for writing this informative, well researched subject in your usual professional style. Voted up, more and sharing , great work!

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      Jamie Brock 4 years ago from Texas

      teaches- It's so true.. the only thing constant is change. I still find it difficult sometimes and resist.. but I know deep down it's best to accept it and get on with life. Our attitude is what makes all the difference. The sooner I accept it, the sooner I can get on enjoying what the change has to offer. There have been times that I've really dreaded certain change and after going through it, realized that it was a blessing in disguise. I try to keep that in mind when I become disheartened by changes. Thank you for another lovely hub. Hope all is going well up your way :)

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      lovedoctor926 4 years ago

      Awesome hub. I am more tolerant of change than many people that I know. Sometimes you just have to go with the flow. There are things that you have no control over.Exercise is a good coping mechanism than alcohol or drugs.

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      Mary 4 years ago from Cronulla NSW

      Great article teaches...I sure agree with your philosophy here...I decided many years ago now to embrace change and it has amazed me each time how different my life has been because of it...thank you for this VUUA& I...cheers

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Vinaya, yes, nothing in this world is static and learning to adjust is crucial to our positive growth. Thanks for the add to the content. Enjoy your evening.

      Victoria, it is never easy to deal with change even if it is good. We tend to fear the unkown aspects of the concept. Thanks for visiting here today. Take care.

      Blond logic, I am going to have to look the book up, it sounds interesting. I like your statement: ask why not? Great add to the subject. Be well and safe.

      Jamie, I like your reflection that sometimes change is a blessing in disguise. That is looking at the possibilities with hope. Thank you for adding to the conversation. We're doing well here and hope you are all safe and well also.

      Love, change is one of those things you have no control over, unless you are the author. As you said, sometimes you just have to go with the flow. Thanks for coming by and you have a great evening.

      Carter, thanks for validating the subject and for your contribution through such a positive comment. Embracing change makes a happier life journey. Cheers!

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      Pamela Lipscomb 4 years ago from Charlotte, North Carolina

      Great hub on dealing with change! As a type A personality type, I really do not like change. But life is full of changes, and either you adapt of die! I choose to adapt.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      2besure, I admire your positive look on change, especially being a type A personality. Thanks for stopping by here today. Blessings.

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      Nithya Venkat 4 years ago from Dubai

      Great positive ideas to deal with changes. As you say flexibility to changes and how we adapt to them will definitely decide our path to success. Great hub. Voted up and shared.

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      [ Danson Wachira ] 4 years ago from Nairobi, Kenya

      Hi teaches12345,

      Being positive and viewing things in a positive way is a good cue towards how we succeed in life. Attitude plays a vital role on how we gain positive thinking. Great article, voted up and shared.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Vellur, I think you are right, flexibility to change is so important in reaching goals. Your thoughts are always valuable and so appreciated.

      Dwachira, love your positive reflection here. Attitude is what makes our view of life a beautiful picture. Be careful out there.

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      alocsin 4 years ago from Orange County, CA

      I'm pretty much afraid of of everything -- but have learned to do things despite the fear because it usually leads to better things. I guess that's one way to deal with change. Voting this Up and Useful.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      That's pretty much what we all do, Alocsin. Just jump in there and go for it. Some call it courage. Good to see you here. Have a great week.

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      James A Watkins 4 years ago from Chicago

      Thank you for publishing this most excellent and needful article. It is very good and I learned much from it. Quite enjoyable it is.

      I was watching television one morning a long time ago and on a certain morning program they had made it a habit to interview a person over 100 years old nearly every day. One day they had Charlie on the show.

      The interviewer said, "Well, Charlie, I guess you've seen a lot of changes in your day?" Charlie, in his old crusty voice, croaked, "Yea, I have. And I was against every damn one of them!"

      :-)

      James

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Hello, Careertips! I'm sure making a decision to change your thought patterns and attitude may have some impact on sickness in some way. Thanks for othe support.

      James, Funny Charlie! I think I saw that series and the interviews were fascinating, I'm sure most of them dealt with change effectively through the years. Thanks for the smile in my day, James. God bless you, sir!

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      Dancing Water 4 years ago

      Change indeed is inevitable. Your article is very clear, succinct, and your concern for others' welfare shines through.

      Very instructive! Sort of a Kubler-Ross kind of article on change. I will keep in mind the aspect concerning formulating a plan. Also, the next time a big change occurs, I will strive to keep perspective.

      I believe that all creatures relish remaining in our comfort zones, but wisdom teaches us over and over again that change is inevitable__and necessary if we are going to evolve.

      A wonderful article! Thank you!

      Blessings,

      Reba

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Reba, I do love you reference to having to accept change and getting out of our comfort zone. You are so right, change is a part of life and inevitable. When I finally realized this, my life changed for the better. Thanks for your added value to the flow of the conversation. Enjoy your evening and week. Blessings to you as well!

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      Melanie Chisnall 4 years ago from Cape Town, South Africa

      Dianna, this article was just what I needed to read! I actually love change. It keeps me going. I feel bored when things are stagnant. Thank goodness I'm writing now because every day is different...it's never the same. I used to get bored in my previous jobs. I get bored with the furniture in the house and change it every now and then. I like most changes in life, especially the positive ones. I'm going to be writing a short story on change in December and this Hub has helped me think more about what to write on. Thank you! :)

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      livingsta 4 years ago from United Kingdom

      A very interesting and useful hub, thank you for sharing!

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      David 4 years ago from Northern California

      Great advice on how to deal with changes when they popup. We would all love to have everything go our way or just as planned but it doesn't always work out that way. How we handle this obstacles really shows what kind of individual we are.

      Voted up, useful and sharing.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Thank you for your perspective on change Mel, Livingsta, Adj. Great to know how each of you embraces it so well. Hope you are having a good day.

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      Sheila Brown 4 years ago from Southern Oklahoma

      I have learned that things usually happen for a reason. I enjoy changes, unless of course it is something like the loss of a loved one. I have gone through a lot of changes in my life and have learned from all of them. I also tend to believe that things usually work out for the best. The loss of my last job was one of my biggest changes, but it allowed me to find HubPages, which I thoroughly enjoy! It has also allowed me to spend more time with hubby and to help raise my little granddaughter. These two things I will always treasure! This is a very interesting and useful article. Well done! Up and more! :)

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      SG, change is hard to digest, but once you accept that it may open new doors - it tastes better. I am glad that it provided a way for you to write here on Hubpage and to spend more time with family. I guess we do tend learn change by hard knocks don't we? Thanks for the insightful comment. I hope your evening is going well.

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      Mahaveer Sanglikar 4 years ago from Pune, India

      Change is life, Life is change.

      Thank you for sharing this useful information. Voted up and shared with followers.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Thank you, Jainismus, for your reflection on this post. It is always good to look at change with a positive outlook. It was nice to see you here today. Hope all is well in your part of the world, friend.

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      Natasha 4 years ago from Hawaii

      Change is hard. I think the weirdest thing is that even positive change can be difficult! Even if something wasn't good, a certain comfort comes from familiarity. I've found myself suddenly missing things or situations I didn't like after they were over simply because dealing with change is difficult.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Natasha, change is hard. I am one that embraces change, but I do realize how much others find it difficult. It is like asking someone to walk into a cloud -- can't see what is ahead. Thanks for visiting and enjoy your evening.

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      Mahaveer Sanglikar 4 years ago from Pune, India

      Great Hub.

      Change is life. Without changes, our life will be monotonous. Some changes may affect our life badly, but we can recover with our wisdom.

      Thank you for sharing.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Jainismus, You are so right: change is part of life and without it our lives would be pretty mundane. It is all in how your view it that makes the difference. Great insight! Hope you are well today.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      I have been through many changes over the ten years from South Africa and to come and live in Croatia had made me stronger and very positive. I never gave up and just moved on with my life and by facing up to my challenges. Thanks for sharing this hub.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Hello DDE! Glad to see you here today. I thank you for sharing from your experience such a positive outlook on change. It is so hard to move isn't it? Glad it made you a stronger person.

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      IAmForbidden 4 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up.

      i do fear change. when i moved from my old dorm to a new one i really cry. i don't know, maybe because i was used to my old life even if i'm suffering on the situation of my old room.. same thing happened when i resigned from my first work but eventually, i managed to overcome it.

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      deergha 4 years ago from ...... a place beyond now and beyond here !!!

      I love to embrace change whatever way it may unfold in front of me because life itself is so dynamic. So it's better to face the changes with a broad smile on face and go ahead with it. Death of near one is not an anticipated change but do we control it so far? We can't be happy but we always move on with life without the near and dear ones who leave us for the heavenly abode. In that case if we at least remember them every day in our prayers with fond memories, that is positive endeavor. It is the love that we keep alive for the deceased one and the least we can do. But life and world is full with changes. Some are intentional and some are unintentional. Some we can little control and many we just do not have any control over them. I have enjoyed reading your hub. Thanks for sharing this one. I am sharing it also. Votes all up way.

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      livingsta 4 years ago from United Kingdom

      Very interesting and useful hub. I find it really difficult when it comes to jobs and moving homes and it takes me a lot of time to settle down, but eventually I do. I have not been looking to get into other jobs for fear of the change in people and environment. I am working towards it, and will eventually overcome these anxieties. Thank you for sharing this.

      Voted up and sharing!

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Unknown, change is hard to take. I can become attached to people and things so that when I have to change - it causes tears. As you say, eventually we manage to overcome.

      DGH, life is full of changes and handling it with a positive outlook is needed in order to move forward. Your sharing on this topic is a wonderful insight. I agree that memories are wonderful and prayers do help in moving forward. Thanks for your support.

      Livingsta, I have moved over seven times with my hubby's promotions. Each time we moved it became easier, but the first few were very frustrating. It takes time and a focused mindset to face life with hope and determination. I appreciate your sharing on this subject from your personal reflection. Be well and strong.

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      Audrey Howitt 2 years ago from California

      Change is inevitable, but sometimes so very difficult to deal with--just an excellent hub!

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      Chitrangada Sharan 2 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Wonderful hub with such positive thoughts!

      Change is the only constant thing and it is inescapable and unavoidable. Each one of us want to live in our own comfort zone. But it is wiser to adapt to changes as soon as possible. And this is easier for people having a positive approach towards life, as you have mentioned.

      Very useful hub, voted up!

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      Dianna Mendez 2 years ago

      Audrey, I have learned to embrace change through the years. Not always easy to accept for sure. Thanks for your comment and support of the post. Enjoy a wonderful day, dear lady.

      CitrangadaSharan, your words are so true. Change is constant and unavoidable. Knowing how to deal with will help one move forward with success. I appreciate your stopping by to leave such a positive feedback. I hope your day is going well. Blessings.

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      Mary Hyatt 2 years ago from Florida

      I've had some major changes in my life this past year. I downsized from a 3/3 house into a tiny apartment. I think I handled the changes very well all things considered. I tried to look at those changes as just new challenges!

      You know what "they" say: one door closes, another door opens!

      Voted up, etc. and shared.

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      ARUN KANTI CHATTERJEE 2 years ago from KOLKATA

      There is always resistance to changes but it is wiser to embrace and adapt to changes with positive frame of mind. Thank you for an excellent piece.

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      Dianna Mendez 2 years ago

      Mary, from your posts I agree that you have dealt with change very well. Your outlook is one all should adopt. Thanks for the support and visit. Be well and safe.

      Arun, I learned to embrace change after many failures. Your words are wisdom shared. I hope you are having a wonderful day, dear friend.

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      Chitrangada Sharan 19 months ago from New Delhi, India

      Excellent hub with wise thoughts! Came back to read it again and share it on HH.

      Thank you!

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      John Hansen 19 months ago from Queensland Australia

      Wonderful hub Diana. We all have to go through change. It is something I personally have trouble accepting, but usually works out for the best.

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      Shaloo Walia 3 weeks ago

      Good advice

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