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How to feel better. My name is Eric Dierker and by reading this I can make you feel better

Updated on April 28, 2014

Yes that is a baby sleeping holding on to his stuffed toy dog.

I know, I know it is sappy but you just got to love it.
I know, I know it is sappy but you just got to love it. | Source

I promise that this will make you feel better.

this is a money and time back gaurantee. You will feel better after reading this hub on how to feel better. You will feel better. I already feel better how about you?

Can you imagine a preacher man who promises that no matter your problem in life that he alone can make you feel better, not even calling on his Lord. Well by golly darn it I have spent two hard years seeing if that is true. And I now know I can do it. Let us start.

No wasted time here and no wasted words. Let us take 5 points and make them clear:


1, Somebody loves you. (my number is 8580-736-4432 call it if you want)

2. You matter very much. Show up and boot up and be up. Somebody suffers more than you.

3. Birds are everywhere. They have great feathers, you are better than them.

4. Life sucks but you do not. Imagine what you give. You make me better than me.

5. If you read this, you add to me and make me better.

Now get off that pity pot and write a comment right here and right now and be felt!

I need your story to make this a real hub and article. I beg you to be you and sock it to me baby! I promise no matter what comment you write I will like it. And if it is too harsh just comment again and ask me to remove it. It is all good in Eric Dierker land where we try to "do like Bill" and live large on a day to day basis. So we even have room for curmudgeons and sad saps.

Most importantly that is a real phone number. Because most importantly we have room for you. Our burden around here is light, share yours with us.

Go ahead you old scrooge get up and free style dance and sing! What could be the harm, and what could be the benefit? We will not tell anyone.

Can you make yourself happier?

Truth now; are you feeling pretty good?

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Do you remember your first ventures in "wild" water and sand between your toes.

Eldest sister and youngest brother reunion. Families are all sizes and shapes.
Eldest sister and youngest brother reunion. Families are all sizes and shapes. | Source

One of the coolest quotes ever, I mean ever, from a great teacher.

25 “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?" I heard one almost exactly like it growing up with my Najajo buddies, the only difference was they changed heavenly father to Mother Earth. Both work for me. After all for me the Father made the earth.

Now if you can just go about worrying after reading that I have this next song for you.

Do I look crazy to you just because I am one obnoxiously happy dude?

If you are not having fun yet go make a mud puddle and jump it it. I believe that is scientifically impossible to do without having fun and laughing.

The consequences are harsh,,,, a water fight!
The consequences are harsh,,,, a water fight! | Source

Feeling better is not always about happy, joyous and free.

Sometimes feeling better is about acceptance of how things are at the moment, being in the moment. Let us just say you just lost a close loved one. And you are extremely saddened as you should be. Well we think we can all agree this is no time to be happy. We can all agree that you need to go through the stages of grief in your way in your time.

They say that grief has five stages -- I do not think so. It has a repeat therefor six. denial, anger, acceptance of grief, bargaining, depression and acceptance.of reality. The first one is essential and may even prevent the depression. We must accept bad feelings and accept our right to feel them and that makes us feel better.

Hard difficult work.

At the moment of doing the work we are shooting for a goal, striving, sacrificing and trudging along. Very much not the time to be all happy, but to concentrate and focus on the task at hand. That is cool, that is sometimes the journey. I can tell you that hiking a tall mountain at over 10,000 ft. each step can be painful and hard to breath but each small break you can look back and see how far you have come. And it is a happy feeling and worth everything.

Such a sad song, but I am happy listening to it, go figure.

No one can make you happy it is an inside job.

Now hold on there you co-dependency worry warts! Yes another can make you happy, but it is up to you to let them. That is the inside job. To derive happiness from another is awesome. To become addicted to it is bad as with anything. My wife makes me happy. But I am not dependent on her for my happiness. Rice makes me full, but that is not all I eat.

So I think we can all see that this hub cannot make you happy until you first desire to quit being less than happy. Denial of things does not make us happy. Anger about things does not make us happy. Acceptance of that which we can change does not make us happy. Mainly that would be us and our behavior. Depression is a disease and we can do things about that. Despair is the result of projection negativity into the future and we can change that.

Take a man I know who is ugly. But as a youth he was handsome. Abuse and age took its' toll on his face and teethe and hair. But he got scripted into himself at the impressionable ages that he was handsome and so that is how he views himself and you know what? It works. He is a "comfortable handsome" these days.

But I know a very well built man who was fat as a youngster. He had embedded that he was fat. That is how he sees himself. That is something we must have the courage to change.

Wrap up to this bad boy article

I cheated but anyone who read this whole article is happier. Sorry they just are. How doyouI know? you ask. The answer is simple. If you got past the title you were looking for happy. I did nothing here to make you unhappy and just one thing, one picture, on sentence would make you happy if you tried to be.

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      John Hansen 3 years ago from Queensland Australia

      Wow Eric. I'm first to comment. I went to check one of your other recently published hubs and it said that it no longer existed?? This is short and to the point, but it does get the point across and gives a little wake up call. They can't sit around having a pity party with themselves, saying "No one cares about me. What's the point ?" You have taken away that excuse by saying you love them and giving out your phone number if they need to talk. Great initiative, and indicative of your caring nature. Good on you.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      John we are changing course and waters are not so clear here. I resist but I have always prayed for change. HP is forcing me out. And I think that is natural and will be a part of that natural order.

      From my research I have maxed out here. It is amazing. The ranking folk and appraisal folk make clear that I must now do some networking. I do not do that well. But my children ask me to. And my publicist insists that I do.

      My goal was May of this year. But two hundred featured hubs and making money already has kind of changed that and made me move way to fast. I started a blog today. And I will start posting on pinterest and FB. Really?

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      John Hansen 3 years ago from Queensland Australia

      Hmm, ok. You do what you feel led towards I guess. Sorry you feel forced out. I have a blog buy can't really get into it and dislike networking too. I do have FB and Pinterest, though I find the latter is really about pictures, ideas and quotes...not articles, and my poetry gets few hits.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Good luck to you sometimes challenges are worth trying for and if you feel that way you do have other choices.

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      Sparklea 3 years ago from Upstate New York

      Eric this is short, sweet and to the point.

      I have found that one of the secrets to living a contented life is to get my mind off myself...and, when in the company of another person, to LET HE/SHE talk...and me LISTEN. And, most important, to keep my cell phone turned OFF and in my purse. TIP: TO EVERYONE: Do you know how RUDE it is to be in the company of another person and be texting on your cell phone? I was in a restaurant the other day with a friend...at the table next to me sat a mother, father, teen son and teen daughter. The mother, son and daughter sat there playing with their cell phones and the father sat forlorn, and sad. ACK! BUZZER! RUDE!

      So, another secret to the art of living: DO not be rude and inconsiderate of others. Answer the phone CHEERFULLY. Be genuinely interested in the other person. Avoid giving advice...just say, "I understand." Period.

      It has taken me a long, long time to learn to be still and listen as I am quite the chatterbox.

      Your hub is not about you, it is about the reader. I love that! You have integrity, and you are 100 percent honest.

      Dale Carnegie said something like 'people don't care about others...all they care about is themselves, morning, noon and after dinner."

      RIGHT ON!

      Let's we, as writers, turn that around. Let us care about others, and talk about ourselves only in a story that is an example of the art of living. Let's give the other person 100 percent eye contact, show interest, and enthusiasm if needed or compassion, if needed. If we have food, shelter, clothing, health, a roof over our heads and faith in God, that is all we need! Anything good that comes our way in addition is a bonus.

      You mention the birds. The art of living is great if one starts the day off on a morning walk and listens to these wonderful joyful creations of God.

      Voted up, interesting and awesome! God bless.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you John. It is really about growing and I should adopt a more positive attitude toward I guess.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      DDE, thank you so much for visiting and commenting. You are a great supporter and I appreciate it.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      If I were any happier it would be illegal, buddy. It's best I don't read this then cuz I don't want to be locked up. :)

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Very good point! Bill you run a great rig.

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      Mona Sabalones Gonzalez 3 years ago from Philippines

      You're right, I felt better after reading this. It reminds me of Mitch Albom's book Five People You Meet In Heaven. One point he makes is, sometimes, without knowing it, you have made someone's life better. But because you don't realize it, you don't think highly of yourself. Then you go to heaven and meet the person you helped, and come to realize the good that you had done when you were on earth.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      grand old lady, why not celebrate that love right here and now.

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      Marlene Bertrand 3 years ago from Northern California, USA

      So short and to the point. Eric, you make people happy. I wish I had a story to share today. Anyway, thank you for being you.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you much MarleneB. I have worked so much around foreclosures that I think it would be awesome if you shared a story about how a house became a home, like a fairy tale ending.

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