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How to Put Yourself First

Updated on June 15, 2016

Putting yourself first is one of the most important things you can do in order to have a positive attitude and feel better and in more control of your life; but, it's easier said than done.

One of the greatest things I have learned in my life is that you have to put yourself first, whether it be in relationships, school, work, etc. Because at the end of the day, the only person you have is yourself, so why not put that person first?

You first have to come to the realization that you have to take care of yourself in order to be happy. You are this work of art, and every feeling you have is legitimate, and they deserve to be heard, not pushed away due to your kind heart. You can still have a kind heart for others, while keeping one for yourself.

If you're in an argument with your significant other, boss, friend or whoever it may be, I'd say that the first thing you want to do is let them have their way because it would make things easier, but you can't do that anymore. Yes, their feelings matter, but you have to remind yourself that your feelings matter too. You can't keep ignoring them in order to please others.

Also, you shouldn't spend 8 hours a day studying for a test, stressing yourself out even more. You deserve a break every now and then. Find time to relax, treat yourself, because you'll find that if you do that, you'll actually do better on the tests than previously. Yes, tests and homework are extremely important, but to be honest, they probably aren't going to make or break your entire future. 10 years from now, which do you think you would rather look back on, you being in tears worried over a test, or you happy going to get coffee with your friends?

The point of this article, is to show you that you are important. Your thoughts, feelings, and emotions are important and deserve to be acknowledged on a daily basis. Stop caring so much about what other people think. If you want to do something (as long as it doesn't hurt others or yourself), and it makes you happy, do it. In the end, your opinion is the only one that matters. You want to dye your hair? Do it. You want to get a tattoo? Do it. You want to adopt a million puppies? Do it. The only person stopping you is yourself. Always put yourself first, whatever the circumstances may be. You deserve it.

Much love,



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    • Sami Belcher profile image

      Samantha Belcher 19 months ago from Rogersville, Tennessee

      I actually loved seeing this comment because I had never thought about it from that side. You are totally correct in the form that there needs to be a balance when it comes to the two. And thank you!

    • suraj punjabi profile image

      suraj punjabi 19 months ago from jakarta

      Problem with me is actually that I am on the other side of the spectrum. I put my self first all the time, even when at times I have to put others first. I think there needs to be a balance. A middle ground.

      Know when to put yourself first and when to put others first. Because how much we give to others, even if it is as little as a smile, can come to us in heaps and bounds. I believe that to be true although I find it hard to put in to practice. I know it to be true because I don't put it into practice and life tend to be kind of lonely as you are just so full of yourself.

      Great article and food for thought.