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How to overcome fear that limits your personal growth and meeting people

Updated on November 11, 2013

How to overcome fear that limits your personal growth.


One of the limiting force of personal growth is fear.  Different people have different area of fear in their life.

Fear of public speaking
Fear of meeting new people.
Fear of investing.
Fear of taking risk
Fear of learning new thing etc. etc.

We all are very much like to be in the comfort zone.  Coming out of the comfort zone and braking the barriers of fear are much needed for the personal growth.  Have you ever noticed what is preventing you from becoming better and stronger each day.  Is it fear?  If the answer is yes, you need to work on it.

How can you overcome fear of public speaking?  There is no other way than to face it.  If you are having fear in public speaking, grab the next opportunity to stand in front of a few people and open your mouth and say what you want to say.  When you do it first time, there will be shaking legs and braking voice and having a feeling of a million butterflies in your stomach etc.   But  once you did, the phobias of public speaking will be lessened.  Every time you do it, the fear comes down gradually.  So the only remedy for the fear is to face it.  Effective public speaking is possible by practicing it.

I remember the story of a dog who was thirsty.  When the dog reached the river bank, and looked at the water, there is another dog staring at him - his won image - and got afraid and run away.  The thirst brought him back to the water but the image scared him away.   Finally, despite its fear, it jumped into the water and the image disappeared. 

That is what we need to do to overcome our fear.  If you are afraid of meeting new people, go and meet them, the phobia of meeting new people will disappear instantly.  You have to take this bold step to continue your personal growth.  Enjoy meeting new people.  Do it regularly.  Jump in to the water you will not find the image any more. You will become a confident public speaker.  You'll be comfortable in meeting new people.  In every area of life, you can be a winner.

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    • Neil Sperling profile image

      Neil Sperling 6 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      Thanks - good hub - love this "Jump in to the water" - only way to swim!

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      David 470 7 years ago from Pennsylvania, United States

      F.E.A.R FALSE EVIDENCE APPEARING REAL.

      I always had a fear of public speaking and wish I did not. I found out that if I take writing classes in college I may have to speak about my writing in public.

      Inspiring hub.

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      Johnyboy 7 years ago

      Although fear is so darn popular among us, each of us, there are some key things you can do to overcome it.

      First: research it. See what others are afraid of. Why would you be different? Look for some books upon the subject of fear. And learn how to face it.

      Second: Apply why you already discovered from your researches about fear. If you feel in doubt or despair, or maybe you forgot some things you've learned start over. And this time take notes.

      Third: Once you've done with first two, do anything to remember them and when you're in a "fear" mode, activate the defense system you've been taught.

      That's my strategy :D Nice hub...

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      drbj and sherry 7 years ago from south Florida

      You are right on, the best way to overcome a fear is to face it. The very first time I had to make a speech in front of a large audience, I was so nervous my knees were literally shaking. I smiled a lot to hide my nervousness and somehow made it through. Each time since then I still get nervous - a little - but my knees don't shake any more.

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      Cathy Nerujen 7 years ago from Edge of Reality and Known Space

      I liked reading this hub, it reminds me of what Cheeky Girl's favorite quote is - "feel the fear and do it anyway..." (She is a hubber here.) Worth bookmarking. : )

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      H P Roychoudhury 7 years ago from Guwahati, India

      "Correct approach-face it and solve the problem" - you are correct. Thanks for sharing.

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      Steve Webb 7 years ago from Great Wakering, England

      you're so right, we do have to face our fears. I read recently that fear is cured by defensive action based on knowledge. It's looking at a situation & analyzing why we feel a certain way about something.

      Interesting & informative as always!

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      gmacman1 7 years ago

      Fear is natural and a useful tool when used correctly.

      Stifling, failure to act, to scared to move forward fear is a hindrance and the leading cause of procrastination...

      Mastery of fear is how to take control of your life...it is not easy but it is a habit we all need to develop.

      Thanks for paving the way on how not to succumb to this crippling emotion.

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      RevLady 7 years ago from Lantana, Florida

      Fear is a great stumbling stone to humanity. Your ideas and suggestions are sound for dismantling fear and living life to its fullest.

      Forever His,

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      lctodd1947 7 years ago from USA

      Fear does hinder us if we allow it. Fear of the unknown is always scary. Good thinking.

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      dusanotes 7 years ago from Windermere, FL

      In the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints we learn by doing. When a member moves into a new congregation, the Bishop, who is a lay minister, asks that person to speak. As a child we were asked to give little talks until we got to be older and it was no longer hard to speak at church. This translates into life in school, business, or wherever we are. We learn to lose our fears by doing. My dad threw me into the swimming pool and I learned quickly to swim.

      Don White