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Increasing Confidence. Know who you are and why you love yourself!

Updated on June 19, 2012

This video is approximately 3:18 minutes long and contains messages like: "People respect you, because you respect them, and you respect yourself." "You realize your inner streangth." "You are important to life." and many more.

What is confidence, and why do some people seem to be filled with it, no matter what their situation is?

Your level of confidence can determine how successful you are in your relationships with friends, loved ones, co-workers, and even complete strangers. Having a lack of confidence can be devastating to your social life. Increasing your confidence can make you seem more successful, even when you are not.

What causes lack of confidence?

A lack of confidence usually stems from the negative self talk we learned during childhood. As a person gets older, traumatic or stressful life experiences can also cause our confidence to decrease.

People can be harsh and demanding, and set high standards for themselves that can't be met. These ideals are often silent thoughts that the person may not even be aware of, and when a person judges themselves by these unreasonable standards, they experience guilt, frustration, and low confidence.

Learning to be assertive with people can open doors to new opportunities and experiences. But how does a person go about building a confident and assertive personality? Is it something we are born with? The answer is no. Not one person on this planet was born an assertive individual full of confidence.

There are a few things you can do to increase your confidence

See yourself as an individual

You can only be yourself, so focus on doing things that you like to do, let others display their own strengths, and display yours.

Find your positive traits

chances are that you have become very skilled at finding the negative qualities in yourself. Pinpointing your positive traits, and reminding yourself that you possess them, can be very helpful when trying to increase your confidence.

Reach out to others

Send a hello letter to people who matter. Tell them they are important to you. This will not only will boost up your esteem, but theirs as well. Find small ways to help other people. Helping others will increase your confidence, and your health! It will also help increase your overall state of happiness. The trick here, is to help others without expecting anything in return.

Make a list

List things you would do if you had unlimited time and money. Write down10-100 things, then choose something from the list, and do it!

Watch the video

I found the Building Confidence hypnotic video above and to the right, on YouTube. I believe that it works based on the "law of attraction", which is that we receive what we perceive and believe.To use this video to your advantage I suggest that you watch it every day for one week, and see if it makes an improvement in your level of confidence.

Your success with this will depend on your willingness to open yourself to believe that it WILL work.

Enjoy :)


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    • Veronica Allen profile image

      Veronica Allen 8 years ago from Georgia

      What a positive hub zionsphere. With all that is happening in the world today, so many people need positive words such as these.

    • zionsphere profile image

      zionsphere 8 years ago from Oregon

      I'm not sure. Do you feel that it is a problem for you? Or do you feel that the people who hate you need to learn to accept themselves so they won't be jealous of you?

      If you really feel that you need to change the way you express yourself, my suggestion would be assertive communication skills. I will make that the topic of my next hub :)

    • The Agro One profile image

      The Agro One 8 years ago

      Any suggestions for people like me that have to much? It's hard for me to humble myself just because I put others off with how great I know that I am. People either love me and think that I am as great as I feel that I am or they hate me. I don't really get a middle ground where people think that I am just okay.