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Live Simple: Five Steps Towards A Simple Life....Installment Two

Updated on September 12, 2012

REFLECTIONS

Are you feeling overwhelmed by life? Does it seem that no matter what you do you are always behind? Does it seem that no matter how hard you work you can’t seem to keep your head above the financial waters?

Well, you aren’t alone, so if it is true that misery loves company, rest assured that you have quite a bit of company indeed! As a society we are running constantly, at a faster and faster pace, and seemingly getting nowhere.

Think back to when you were a child. How did you envision your life? Even as a young adult, what did your future look like when you were daydreaming? How has it all worked out for you? Is your life now the way you envisioned it years ago? If not, it might be time to take a look at why and then ask yourself what you need to do to achieve that which long ago seemed possible.

There are many out there, and I was one of them at one time, who are so busy being busy they have no time for the important things in life. Husband and wife are working to stay financially solvent; the kids are basically raising themselves. Family time consists of a quick howdy on the way to the next required activity, and relaxation is something you do two weeks per year during your designated vacation time.

You fear for your job, stress over the high cost of living, and during those rare quiet moments when you can reflect, you face the stark reality that it isn’t going to get any better.

Well, it does not have to be that way. As many people are finding out, there is a solution and there is a way off of the treadmill that is your life. Living Simple is the solution, and it is being embraced by more and more as the only solution in the quest for self-fulfillment and self-wellness.

It is time to step off the treadmill and get on with the business of living and enjoying life. The five steps that follow, and those in other installments of this series, will serve as guideposts on your journey towards re-claiming your life.

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THE VALUE OF SAYING NO

We all want to help others! We all want to be there for others when they need us, and we all want to be known as someone who can be counted on. That’s all well and good, but what is the cost to your own personal wellness? Remember, if you are frazzled from taking on too much, you will be no good to anyone else and you will have harmed yourself in the process.

Learn to say NO! Learn that your well-being is vital if you are to simplify your life.

When I was teaching school I was blown away by the number of kids who had activities happening every day after school. There always seemed to be a music lesson to go to or a soccer practice to attend. When do kids just get to be kids? The parents were the same way. They must have sat down in the morning and made lists of all the things that had to be done by day’s end. Had to be done! It was exhausting for me to listen to all that they felt they had to do! I couldn’t conceive of actually doing it all.

Quit taking on so much and learn to enjoy down time! You do not have to be everything for everybody! Nobody will think less of you if you just slow down and enjoy life, and if they do then they are not worth knowing.

PAY A VISIT TO YOURSELF

Alone time is oh so valuable! We all need it! It is the way that we get in touch with ourselves, a time to refuel our inner systems and just relax. When was the last time you set aside time for you? I know, it sounds crazy, but try it and you just might like it.

Selfish? I would say to you that it is crucial! Life is too hectic and each one of us needs to stop and take a breather. Alone time is the perfect chance to prioritize and to discard the unnecessary. Alone time is the perfect time to breathe in and breathe out, and to embrace living simple.

As mentioned in an earlier article, we all have built-in forgetters. We get busy doing something, and then another something, and we lose sight of other goals. Alone time gives us a chance to step back and re-focus on that which is important.

MAKE A TIME MAP AND THEN FREE UP TIME

Sit down at the end of a day, and write down everything you did during that day, including the times involved. Now, do that every day for a week, and then review it all. You might be in for a shock! You will most likely be amazed at the amount of wasted effort that is a part of each day.

Living simple! Now, let’s do some adjusting to that schedule of yours. Do you clean house five times a week? Make it three! How often do you do laundry? How many times do you go to the grocery store? How many times do you run one errand and then hours later run another errand in the same part of town? In other words, how much time is wasted repeating yourself or doing something more often than is necessary?

I have a friend who watered his lawn every night and mowed twice a week. Hello!!!! Stop watering that lawn and you won’t have to mow! I know, green, manicured lawns are so beautiful. Well, I guess we will find out where your priorities are, won’t we? You see, living simple is about changing your lifestyle so that you can take the time to actually enjoy life. It is not about who has the most beautiful lawn in the neighborhood. I will repeat for those who are a bit slow grasping this concept: living simple is about manufacturing time to actually enjoy life.

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SLOW THE HECK DOWN!

Are you always in a hurry when you are driving? Are you always in a hurry when you are walking? Are you always in a hurry, period?

It’s like the dog chasing its tail but never catching it! When are we going to learn to slow down and enjoy life? I am always reminded of the song by the Beatles, “Helter Skelter.” That’s what modern life seems to be like and it is nuts! What many are doing is hurrying themselves into an early grave.

Stop and smell the proverbial roses! One of my favorite things to do is go to the park, lie down on the grass, and watch the clouds float by. You have all done it, but you were probably kids the last time you did it. Watch the clouds and then try to figure out what the clouds look like; is that en elephant? Is that a cat? Look, there’s a man with a hat! It is great fun and that sort of thing is missing from the lives of many people today.

GET A SMALLER CAR

This is close to sacrilege in the United States! Get a smaller car? Is this guy nuts? SUV’s rule the road, man; I ain’t going smaller than the Escalade I have right now! I need something with some towing capacity. I need something that will protect my family. I need something with some cargo space. I need something with some serious power. Well, the fact of the matter is, you don’t need any of those things. We are back to wanting vs needing, and in modern society wanting always seems to win out. Maybe that’s why the U.S. economy is in the toilet right now.

You might as well bite the bullet now and go small. Gas prices are never going to return to $2.50 per gallon. The insurance companies are not going to suddenly drop the rates on SUV’s, and your company is not going to suddenly realize what a great employee you are and give you a raise. In tough economic times tough decisions need to be made, and for Americans one of the toughest decisions is getting rid of that big car and going small.

Our family only has one car and that is a Honda Fit. We do not need two cars, nor do we need a big car. We adjust our schedules and we are never wanting for another ride. We have actually been known to walk when we need something, and within three years we are going to own a motor scooter to cut back on gas consumption even more. I am not one to give suggestions that I won’t follow.

A Poll To Consider

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BOTTOM LINE

It’s all about the bottom line, right? We modern day citizens of the world want to know what’s in it for us; what are the positives? Well, fair question!

How about a longer life?

How about more time with family and friends?

How about peace of mind?

How about more financial freedom?

How about improving society in general?

How about cutting back on stress?

HOW ABOUT ENJOYING LIFE?

Are those enough positives to at least get you thinking about Living Simple?

Have a PIPO day and God bless all of you!

2012 William D. Holland (aka billybuc)

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      Donna Hilbrandt 4 years ago from Upstate New York

      You are speaking my language right now, Bill. I have started simplifying in order to prolong life and feel less stressed. It is a great feeling to make myself a priority. Great hub. Voted up and sharing.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Donnah, I love hearing the stories of people who are embracing a simpler lifestyle. Hooray for you, and thank you!

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      Mark G Weller 4 years ago from Lake Charles, LA.

      Bill, this is awesome and so very true. You outlined the situation well and showed the solutions, or the direction to the solutions!

      great job my friend.

      PS, Thank you for sharing my hub as well:)

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      Blurter of Indiscretions 4 years ago from Clinton CT

      I love your paragraph about the guy who waters his lawn constantly and then has to mow it! I hate doing things that ultimately won't matter in 20 years. For years we tried to keep the crab grass and clovers from our lawn, then we realized it is just as soft as grass, twice as hardy, and doesn't need mowing as often! Keeping the main thing the main thing right? I could use some of this advice in certain areas for sure. I'm scared to do the time map. Yikes!

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      Patricia Scott 4 years ago from sunny Florida

      You know that I will read each of these installments. There is so much that is relevant in each of these. I had just answered a question this morning about simplifying our lives...sometimes unfortunately it takes life changing experiences to force us to look into our lives and find what is really important.

      One of the best pieces of advice you gave is that we should take time for ourselves. What a gift that is...to refresh and renew and be ready to move forth.

      thanks for sharing this with us. Voted up and shared.

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      Mary Craig 4 years ago from New York

      Another hub full of wisdom from our resident sage. We so often need to be reminded of the simpler things.

      I love your story about the guy watering and mowing his lawn, never seeing the connection...how often do we do things like that? Never realizing cause and effect?

      Voted up, useful and interesting.

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      Deborah Neyens 4 years ago from Iowa

      I agree with you about the highly structured lives kids seem to lead today. I've said the same things many times: with all the sports activities, dance classes, music lessons, etc., when on earth do they have time to be kids and just play? Great hub.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Mark, it was my pleasure, and thank you for being the man that you are.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Julie, we all have done those things. I would spend a great many hours each week trying for the perfect lawn...in the end, who really cares? As for the time map, it is a bit scary, but also pretty informative. :) Thank you!

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      Comfort Babatola 4 years ago from Bonaire, GA, USA

      It's amazing that for most people, their weekends are actually busier than their weekdays. It's like there's an addiction to doing things than just slowing down and resting.

      Everything you said, like spending more time together as a family, and just enjoying the beauty of the world around us is what God intended. But when we get caught-up in our wants, it's like this never ending cycle of stressor attack.

      Thanks for a great hub. Voted Up and beautiful.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      pstraubie...what is your first name? this name is too hard to type. LOL Thank you; taking time for ourselves is, I believe, crucial to happiness. Have a great weekend and thank you once again for being so loyal.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Mary, I am still stunned by the nice words you said about me in your hub...thank you my dear friend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Deb, we were so active when we were kids, but we were active just being kids....no structure to speak of, just freedom to have fun. I think that's important!

      Thank you and have a great weekend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Comfort, you make a good point about weekend; it is senseless....just stop and enjoy life, and re-energize your inner self. So important!

      Thank you!

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      Joseph De Cross 4 years ago

      Almost missed this one. Had to scroll down before going out and mow my own lawn. Smaller car? Bill what do you want me to do with my "pimp my Hummer2?" I knew something was wrong. Those gushing 65 bucks a week to fill the tank were going nowhere. This article is talking to all of us and we should set priorities now. Thanks my dear friend! Mitt Romney, would you come and read these hubs?

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      Efficient Admin 4 years ago from Charlotte, NC

      Wanting some alone time is not selfish. If I didn't get my alone time I would be really grumpy. It's my way of clearing my head after a hectic 9-5 job that I have to be in. Also paring down "stuff" and giving it to charity is so freeing. Another great hub, voted up awesome, interesting.

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      shruti sheshadri 4 years ago from Bangalore, India

      This connects with each and every one of us Bill, great tips to lead a simpler life indeed... Wise words! :)

      Learnt a lot, time to work upon it!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Lord, can Mitt even read? Just curious! Don't even get me started on Hummer owners! Thanks buddy; I hope it isn't too hot there so the lawn mowing doesn't cost you too much sweat.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Efficient, I would be a crazy person if I didn't have my alone time. I need it and I think everyone does. Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Shruti, thank you! We all need these little tips and I have to remind myself constantly.

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      Natasha 4 years ago from Hawaii

      I can't downsize my car because my life is so 'simplified' that I don't even own a car! Just like I don't own a microwave. By choice. Almost every time I say that, someone tries to give me one, but it's a conscious decision and how I want my life to be.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Natasha, another reason why I like you. It is unusual to find someone so young who understands what is important in life. You have my respect young lady.

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      Janine Huldie 4 years ago from New York, New York

      Once again you are completely speaking my language here and so do agree we need to make more time for ourselves and everyone needs some alone time even an hour just to take a few moments to just breathe and hear yourself think. Seriously, I try everyday to do this, but I do have to admit the slowing down part is so hard for me, because I am a multi-tasked by nature, but am trying believe me. Great article yet again and have of course voted up, shared and tweeted too :)

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      Michelle Liew 4 years ago from Singapore

      Everything here is so true, indeed. We have to take the time to appreciate the little things that are important in our lives, and yes, learn to say NO when it poses a threat to our personal wellness. If we can appreciate the simple things, we can all be happier! Thanks for sharing.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Janine, it is so hard to do when you have kids....but it is crucial for your well-being. I hope you know how much I enjoy and appreciate you. I love your spirit and your compassion....you are a beautiful human being.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Michelle, your words are true and they fit perfectly with the spirit of this hub. Thank you my friend and have a great weekend in Singapore!

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      Rich 4 years ago from Kentucky

      Bill -

      You worried me with your "Helter Skelter" comment. I could envision Charles Manson on the horizon!

      I never pictured you getting into a Honda Fit. For all the hiking and such, a pick-up truck always seemed to be in the frame.

      Does it make sense? Sure! Are we willing to do it? Maybe...maybe not! There's an attitude here that has to be squished...one that's been there since we've been kids. The more you have, the more you enjoy! Stopping the unnecessary purchasing is not difficult. It's doing away with what you've worked hard to acquire, and love (?) that is a little hard to swallow. I know you've done it, and don't seem to miss it. It's a matter of convenience a lot of the time. Something to think about, my friend, something to think about.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Rich, I'm laughing...>I owned a Ford Ranger for ten years but blew the engine six months ago....so yes, a pickup was in the frame for a long time.

      Convenience for sure; we are a society of convenience....is that wrong? I would never say it is....but I would say, because I now live it, that it is in no way necessary, and that convenience, of itself, does not equal happiness nor is it necessary for happiness.

      Something to think about!

      Have a great weekend buddy; say hi to those lovely cats for me.

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      Madeleine Salin 4 years ago from Finland

      I constantly feel bad about driving my SUV and building my big house, but I really try to enjoy the simple things in life. I was at a annual market yesterday with thousands of people. When I went on a bridge on a river on the way to the car, I watched beautiful clouds on the sky and said to my daughter: "Look at that beautiful sky". It felt like I was alone in the world enjoying that sky. People always seem to be in a hurry and never stop to reflect over things like these.

      Great hub my friend! Hugs from a warm Finland :)

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      Glimmer Twin Fan 4 years ago

      About 2 years ago I realized I needed to slow down. I am still a work in progress, but definitely made some changes. Love the way you've explained your process here.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Glimmer, it took me a great many years to figure this all out. Now I wouldn't trade my lifestyle for anything. Thank you as always my friend and have a great weekend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Made, I will happily take that warm hug from Finland. Thank you my dear and enjoy your weekend and those clouds.

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      Sparklea 4 years ago from Upstate New York

      Billy buc: I totally agree with every word! I hardly ever see my 4 grandchildren (son's kids) because of their incredibly numerous non-stop activities after school and on weekends. My son and his wife are working full time jobs. They are exhausted. There is absolutely NO down time.

      It was NOT that way when I was growing up. I actually miss the days of less technology...it has made us MORE busy. People can now FIND us because of cell phones.

      You are so right about SAYING NO. We only have one life. You are surely living yours~ You are a "writing" book of knowledge, and you have accomplished SO much in the way of inspiring others with your excellent hubs and videos.

      And you are loved by so many people...you have an enormous following.

      You are truly one of the kindest, most inspiring people I have ever encountered. God bless you and thank you. Voted up, useful and beautiful. Sparklea :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Lea, I had to look at your site to make sure I hadn't missed anything of yours. Nope, nothing new there...I hope you are well my dear. I have missed your writing. Thank you for the kind words; I love this site and I love the friends I have gained over seven months.

      I miss those days too, Lea, and I am going to have them back. That is where my focus is and that is what is going to happen.

      Blessings to you my friend and thank you for your friendship.

      bill

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      Kris Heeter 4 years ago from Indiana

      These are such great tips! Saying "no" and making time for oneself can be the hardest things to do.

      You mentioned going to the park and lying down in the grass to watch the clouds and that sparked a great memory of going outside with my hubby on a couple of clear nights during meteor showers and just lying back and watching the stars and meteors for hours. So peaceful and relaxing!

      Thanks for another great hub and I"ll be sharing this my followers!

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      justcrafty 4 years ago

      You are so correct with each action has a reaction, such as taking on more work requires more trips and that costs me more in gas and wear and tear on my vehichle than I make for doing it when I could stay home and do something I enjoy and not spend a penny.

      Trying to downgrade from 14 parttime jobs making no money to less that I can live with and make some money not killing myself with stress.

      Love your hubs!!!!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Kris, we used to do that as kids...we would sleep outside and lay on our sleeping bags and look for shooting stars...great times. I love that you and your husband did the same thing. Thanks for that memory and have a great weekend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      justcrafty, thank you so much! It is an endless cycle that seems to have no purpose, and we all get caught up in it. I finally said enough and completely walked away from the insanity. I wish you the best on your journey.

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      kelleyward 4 years ago

      Hi Bill! Great advice. I just filled up my car for a small $60.12 ahhh.. But with three kids it's hard to get a smaller vehicle. I enjoyed this insallment. Looking forward to more! Take care, Kelley

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Kelley, that's a tough one for sure. That I understand; I don't understand a married couple with no kids driving a SUV....thank you my friend; I admire you and appreciate you.

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      Sparklea 4 years ago from Upstate New York

      Billybuc: I have been ill, long story, causing me to be behind with HubPages...and everything else.

      Emails have piled up, not to mention housework and "life" in general.

      I guess what I'm saying is that I've truly been following your advice with this hub: Resting, avoiding putting pressure on myself, seeing a movie, going to Barnes & Noble, so that I can heal.

      LOVING my morning walks, a terrific connection to God. SLOWLY hoping to get a hub written this weekend and commenting on others' hubs.

      I received a note from the Editors that this is my one year anniversary on HubPages. Blessings Sparklea :)

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      Terrye Toombs 4 years ago from Somewhere between Heaven and Hell without a road map.

      Bill, I am really enjoying this new series with all the really valuable information and advice. Glad you are going this direction. Keep up the great work!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Lea, Happy Anniversary! What I have found over the last seven months is that you are one of the sweetest and most genuine Hubbers on this site. Your warm and loving spirit is something that I never tire of, and I am proud to be your friend. Feel better soon dear lady and thank you for being the person that you are.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      TT, thank you! I hope you know how much I appreciate you. You are one of my best friends even though we have never met. I love your sense of humor, your character, everything about you. Thank you Sis! I am proud to be related to you. :)

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      Paula 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      What a timely hub from my perspective! For the last week, I have thought non-stop about what I intend to do to reach my ultimate goal of "simplification." Seriously bill....I have been "in process," for months now and of course, I realize WHY it seems to be an unending battle.

      There's more than one reason. Not only have I collected myself into a corner but I can't seem to grab my time and hang on to it! OMG.....thank you for reinforcing that "we don't have to be all things to all people"....or "always available for someone else." I am so guilty of this and honestly, I hate it. It long ago surpassed being what I "want" to do and gone directly into "somebody please stop me!"

      I have had productive days planned, complete with schedule and To-Do list, only to be puled and tugged in every direction but my own.

      Bad habit to get in to. As with any habit or "addiction," we tend to fall into them a whole hell of a lot easier than we're able to get out!! UP+++

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Paula, this one was actually written with Bev in mind. She is such a loving spirit but she can't say no to people. Consequently, by the end of the day she is exhausted and can't figure out what she has accomplished....and feels bad because she didn't get "anything done." It's amazing to watch and I love her dearly, but at some point it has to be alright to say no to people.

      Thank you for your honest comment; I have the feeling a great many people can relate to what you wrote.

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      Sasha Kim 4 years ago

      Ah I'm so guilty of most of this. My husband however is not... he's good at helping me stay balanced. Keep the good advise coming my wise friend! voted up and shared!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Kim, I will indeed, and thank you for reading. Have a wonderful weekend.

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      Paula 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      bill....I have a very witty Christian friend who has an acceptable answer for everyone......Pass this on to Bev.....When someone asks my friend to do something that she simply hasn't the time nor the desire to do....she'll very sweetly say, "Well, I prayed on that decision....and I may have said, "Yes," but Jesus told me not to do it."...................LMAO!!

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      travmaj 4 years ago from australia

      This is indeed a scary world - try and get a family around a table for sunday lunch - impossible - life is hectic - all systems go in different directions. Sometimes I think family tables are obsolete. All you can do is be there if they need you. And you wonder what next - for the children's children and beyond. Your hub is so right, a jolt to the senses - thank you so much.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Oh my God, Paula, I love that.....I'll go tell Bev now.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Travmaj; there are times I think I'm being too blunt and sound like I'm preaching but for goodness sake, people need to wake up and smell life. We are running out of time...each one of us....life is to be enjoyed and savored. Anyway, thank you my friend and have a wonderful weekend.

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      Tammy 4 years ago from North Carolina

      Are you sure you are not from the south? When I moved here from PA the pace of life was slower than I could ever imagine. For the first few years people thought I was extremley hyper. After many years I adopted the slower and relaxed pace. It is great, unless I go visit family in PA or NJ. It seems like people almost run from place to place. Great thoughts!

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      neeleshkulkarni 4 years ago from new delhi

      will go make a time map my self right now. it has struck a deep chord. i keep complain9ng i do not have enough time to read and then go spend time in browsing on the net at things i don't really want.

      thanks as ever billy

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Neeles, it is always nice seeing you stop by. I hope you are well my friend. Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Tammy, the same thing happened to me when I moved to Vermont. I thought those people moved like snails...then I got used to it and enjoyed the pace...only to move back to Olympia and almost get run over. LOL

      Thank you my dear!

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      Pamela Oglesby 4 years ago from United States

      This is the perfect hub for me to read today. I have trouble finding that alone time. My 87 year old mother that I adore lives with me and was just diagnosed with a mitral valve that needs replacement but she wouldn't survive the surgery. She has had a nice long life but we are close and I dread the day. Also, my husband has poor health since he had a stroke and he does what he can to help but I am left with a lot on my plate. So, I worry less about cleaning the house but I still don't have time to write very often, or do other things I enjoy. I walk in faith that gives me a measure of serenity but I do need to map out a plan to have some time for me. I like this hub because I need to take a look at what I must do and what can just wait.

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      Michele Travis 4 years ago from U.S.A. Ohio

      The simple life, it is something I am dreaming of. Horses, clear skies, quiet nights. That is wonderful.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Michele, that sounds heavenly. I'm almost there...three years to freedom....in the meantime, life is pretty darn good.

      Thank you and have a great Sunday!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Pamela, my heart goes out to you; stay strong, as I know you will, but please make time for yourself. Usually the caregiver ends up with a serious need for some sort of down time, and it does, indeed, sound like you have your plate full.

      Sending peace and blessings to you

      bill

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      Rosemary Sadler 4 years ago from Hawkes Bay - NewZealand

      I enjoy reading these hubs of yours. Always so positive with excellent advice.

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      Martin Kloess 4 years ago from San Francisco

      Money - can no longer handle. Saying no - can't talk. simplicity. you would be surprised how complex TV is - can only watch 6 min.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Rosemay, thank you so much, and have a wonderful Sunday!

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 4 years ago from Southern Illinois

      I'm learning to slow down and smell the roses. My life used to be so hectic. I now find time to read a message such as yours..Thank you..

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      Tonette Fornillos 4 years ago from The City of Generals

      I agree a 100%... slowing is really a perfect way of simplifying life. TV and proverbial roses for an hour, I think I'd pick smelling the roses :=). I've written a hub on simplifying life and I'll link this article. People will love this. Thank you and I'm voting up.

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      Tonette Fornillos 4 years ago from The City of Generals

      I agree a hundredfold Billy... slowing down is really a perfect way of simplifying life. TV and proverbial roses for an hour? I think I'd pick smelling the roses :=) to cool me down from the hotness of daily busy-ness, lol. I've written a hub on simplifying life and I'll link this article. People will love this. Thank you and I'm voting up.

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      Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

      Another resourceful hub from you in this series! The points listed by you are sensible and wise. It is very important that we relax and devote our time to ourselves so that we feel good, physically and mentally. We have the assertive right to say no in a diplomatic way. A well-advised hub! Well-done!

      Thanks for SHARING. Useful & Awesome. Voted up & Socially Shared

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      Cynthia B Turner 4 years ago from Georgia

      This was a great article, Billy. I agree with so much of what you have written. As my fellow Georgia writer, Comfort said in her comment, this "busyness" is like an addiction. It's almost a sacrilege not to have every second of the day filled with something. This is especially true when it comes to planning out the kids' activities. But then it all comes down to priorities and what makes you feel happiest. I think we all search for some kind of balance. So well written.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Martin.....there are questions but I always hate to stick my foot in my mouth....."can't talk?" Anyway, thank you Sir!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ruby, that is indeed a good thing, to slow down to read my hub. LOL Thank you my friend!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Tonipet, thank you so much! I appreciate the linking.....I will do the same later on this morning.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I thought I just responded to this....sigh....anyway, thank you very much.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ishwaryaa, thank you so much my friend. I am grateful and happy that you approved and shared.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Cyndi, thank you so much. I love the "busyness" concept, and it really does describe society to a tee.....we need to just take a deep breath and live.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Naimishika, thank you very much!

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      CarlySullens 4 years ago from St. Louis, Missouri

      Agreed! Agreed! Agreed! There are so many important points in this hub, I don't know where to start.

      As a mom, raising children in this era, I feel pressure from everywhere to have my kids in everything. Early on I decided that is not for me or my family. They each get to do one sport a year. We will put our heart and soul into that. The rest of the year are filled with cultural, music and art. Just one class or event here and there.

      The art of doing nothing has been lost on this generation. This where kids learn how to create and use their imagination. If they have no 'down time' they can not figure out the necessary tools of what to do when they are board.

      I love my down time, because as an artist I know when I come back to creating I will be more fresh and have more inspiration by taking a step back then pushing myself to creative fatigue.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Carly, it sounds to me as if you have your act together. I don't know what this fixation is in this country with having kids do everything under the sun. Being a kid is important, for the reasons you mentioned. As for down time; I would not be able to function if I didn't have it. My time is from 9:00 to 10:30 each night. Everyone knows to leave me alone at that time.

      Thank you my dear; you are special to me.

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      Urmila 4 years ago from Rancho Cucamonga,CA, USA

      Great advise! Need to follow it and make my life more simpler. Enjoyed it. Thanks for sharing. Voted up!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you urmilashukla; I'm glad it helped.

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      Suzette Walker 4 years ago from Taos, NM

      Great advice and suggestions for slowing down life. Fortunately I'm retired from teaching so I have downsized considerably. Less really is more in the end. We don't need all those "things" and we don't need to constantly be on the move. I thank God everyday I'm on the beach!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Suzette, the beach would be very nice indeed. I see more and more people, retired, who are downsizing. It's encouraging. Thank you my friend!

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      picklesandrufus 4 years ago from Virginia Beach, Va

      I can tell this hub was written by someone who has gotten older and wiser! Very sage advice, my hub friend!!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Pickles, you have that right. :) Some might say I had to get wiser; I only had one direction to go and that was up. LOL Thank you!

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      alocsin 4 years ago from Orange County, CA

      Some excellent ideas -- I've always preferred small cars and have one right now. But my favorite suggestion is the time map -- that's something new to me, so I'll try it out. Voting this Up and Useful.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Aurelio, I hope you find it useful. Thank you my friend!

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      Gypsy Rose Lee 4 years ago from Riga, Latvia

      Wonderful and inspirational Bill. The simple life is what gets us to stop and smell the roses and I'm all for that. Life's too short as is. Passing this on.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Good morning Gypsy, or for you afternoon...thank you my friend. The simple life is working for me so I think I'll keep going.

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      Eileen Alott...not really... 4 years ago from The Great State of Iowa!

      I'm loving the series, Bill! Thanks for sharing! My family and I just made the decision for me to be a stay-at-home mom! It is truly inspiring and empowering to put people before things. And having less 'stuff' is freedom of its own! I truly enjoy your hubs and look forward to the next one!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Heidi, that is fantastic news! Congratulations...I'm sure your kids will be excited about having mom home all the time, and it is so important for them. Way to go.....and thank you!

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      Pamela Oglesby 4 years ago from United States

      Billy, I appreciate your caring and sending blessings. It is always nice to get on Hubpages and read what my favorite authors have to say. Thank you.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Pamela, what a nice thing to read...thank you! I hope you are well my friend!

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      Ann1Az2 4 years ago from Orange, Texas

      Great advice, my friend! I find that setting priorities really helps simplify things a lot. When I put God first in my life, everything else just sort of fell into place. All I'm concerned about now are the little everyday things that come up - that's where your suggestions will come in handy. I like the one where we should stop hurrying.

      Voted up and well done.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ann, the "not hurrying" one took me a long time to learn. When I finally got the hang of it, by necessity I might add, I finally started to truly appreciate life.

      Thank you my friend.

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      Trinity M 4 years ago

      As always your insights are spot on my friend. My husband and I began simplifying about 3 years ago and it’s the best thing we have ever done. We have 1 small (actually tiny) car, we live in a small (actually tiny) house and we home school our son. We also catch the sunset from our porch every evening (sacrilege if we miss it) and we definitely take the time to smell the roses, dance the tango and do our tai chi :) I love this series Bill and really look forward to your next instalment. {hugz}

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Trinity, it's coming tomorrow! As for your lifestyle, it sounds heavenly to me. I know it's not for everyone, but I feel bad for those who can't experience what you and I experience.

      Thank you my dear; hugs back atcha!

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 4 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      Beautiful, useful, awesome and powerful write as always, Bill. I'm floored with these simple suggestions and their practicality. Always a pleasure to be here.

      All the votes to you, except one, my friend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Rajan! I greatly appreciate you taking the time to leave a meaningful comment.

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      Maree Michael Martin 4 years ago from Northwest Washington on an Island

      August is very topsy turvy for me. I am beginning to just do it, the dreams I have always wanted to do. Great hub, time to simplify!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ruby, I'm very excited that you are starting to realize your dreams. Good for you and thank you once again.

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