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People Will Disappoint You If You Let Them: A Moment With Bill Reflection

Updated on April 1, 2014

Come on People Now, Love One Another

Well, folks, I hate to burst your bubble, but not everyone loves you.

I will even go so far as to say there are people who dislike you who don’t even know you.

How’s that for a quick slap of reality?

I was one of the flower children of the 60’s. I sang songs of love and greeted strangers with a smile. I chanted and meditated and bought into the whole power of love movement, and in truth I still have love as my guiding light through life. It is the only thing that makes sense. I can find no hope for the future through consumerism. Wars offer no solace for me, nor do any governments. Only when I immerse myself in the power of love do I feel good about myself and others.

Still, I am a realist. I know with every fiber of my being that not everyone shares my principles. That reality became clear once again this past weekend. Let me tell you what happened.

The most trusting person on this planet
The most trusting person on this planet | Source

A Simple Trip to the Library

Every Saturday my wife and I go to the city library. We love to read, we love to research, and we love to spend time together. It is an errand we actually look forward to, so there we were last Saturday at the Timberland Regional Library in downtown Olympia doing our thing.

We went our separate ways as we always do, Bev looking for gardening books and me in search of the perfect mystery. As we got ready to check out our books Bev realized that she was missing her wallet. She knew she had it when we arrived because she used it to check on some books at the customer information desk, but a half hour later it was not in her pocket.

After looking up and down the aisles for ten minutes, and after asking at the desk if anyone had turned in a wallet, we accepted the only possible conclusion, that it had fallen out of her pocket and someone had found it and stolen it….which is exactly what happened. We rushed home so Bev could start cancelling her debit card and during that drive home (ten minutes tops) the thief had used her card three times at McDonald’s for a total of $20 in purchases.

This person is not the most trusting person on this planet
This person is not the most trusting person on this planet | Source

The Difference Between the Two of Us

Yes, there is a fundamental difference between the way Bev views the world and the way I do.

When this happened, Bev was depressed. No, not over the loss of twenty dollars; rather, she was depressed that a fellow human being would do such a thing. I think some of her innocence was lost in that simple act of thievery. Bev sees the best in we humans, and she believes in the good within us all. I, on the other hand, was not surprised at all. I am fully aware of what we humans are capable of. I know that humans will lie, cheat, steal and yes, harm each other, and those who do such things give it no thought whatsoever. They do not consider the fact that someone had to work hard for that money. They do not consider that it is a major pain to replace a driver’s license or to play phone tag with the bank trying to cancel a debit card and then replace it. In fact, they give no thought whatsoever that doing something like that is just plain wrong. They simply see an opportunity to steal and they do it. Period!

I wish I was more like Bev. I really do. I wish I didn’t walk down the street guarded, and I wish I still had my rose-colored glasses on so I could see more vibrant colors of hope rather than muted colors of suspicion. Luckily I am married to Bev, and she balances me out, and somehow we make it work. Mr. Tainted hand-in-hand with Mrs. Pollyanna, skipping down life’s highway happily ever after.

And Now to the Point of This Reflection

Yes, people will disappoint you. I mean come on, there are what, over seven billion people on this planet; it stands to reason that a few of them might be a bit unsavory. So why should we be surprised when someone takes advantage of a situation and walks off with a wallet? Why should we be surprised when someone runs a scam and bilks pensioners out of their earnings? Why should we be surprised when people lie and cheat?

That’s what people do, right? So be extra careful, and lock your doors, and trust less. Look on others with a jaundiced eye, and don’t trust anyone you don’t know extremely well, and spend the rest of your lives looking over your shoulder just in case the Boogie Man is rapidly approaching. That’s how we should live our lives, right; always distrustful and always on-guard….that’s just life in the 21st Century, right?

Well yes, you could live like that. Quite frankly no one would blame you if you did.

But……

This is how we handled the disappointment
This is how we handled the disappointment | Source

Here’s the Problem

Bev is back to normal today. She is smiling and whistling and dancing to the music, and it is a joy to see. She told me that the twenty dollars she lost was probably needed more by the person who took it, and she probably would have just wasted it on something that really wasn’t needed. In fact, we rebounded from the disappointment by adopting a dog from the rescue shelter, a lovely, ten-year old Australian Shepherd named Holly, and we spent yesterday thoroughly enjoying Holly and forgetting about the sour experience on Saturday.

Yes, we could be bitter, but the problem with bitterness is that it will eventually infect our very being.

Yes, we could be distrustful of everyone, but the problem with distrust is that it will eventually infect our very being.

Yes, we embrace the dark cloud that befell us on Saturday, but the problem with that dark cloud is that it grows in size and eventually will cover everyone we meet.

And that is no way to live a life!

Life Goes On

A funny thing happened to me this past weekend. Instead of the thievery infecting me, and making me even more distrustful of my fellow man, I was instead infected by Bev’s attitude of forgiveness and compassion.

Instead of turning my back on those who are down and out, I was left reflecting on what it must be like to have nothing and to be hungry and hurting. What must it be like to be homeless and have no food or shelter? What must it be like to have grown up with the promise of a good life only to have circumstances beat you down to the point of tossing aside your principles and stealing?

And do you know what’s really funny about it all?

I was once homeless. Isn’t that hilarious? I was once down and out, and I was once hungry and hurting. I once saw my promises shattered and my dreams disappear…..but I had forgotten what it was like….until a thief took Bev’s wallet and stole twenty bucks….and then I remembered very clearly.

Yes my friends, people will disappoint you….if you let them.

Today I prefer to be reflective on such occasions, and to learn from them. I would love it if we all lived in harmony but that just isn’t going to happen. I would love it if my loved ones were not hurt and disillusioned, but that is not going to happen either. There are just too many of us on this planet, and not everyone plays by the same rules of decency and honesty, and yes that is sad, and yes it will make us angry at times….but……

It must never change who we are!

This world needs more compassion and not less.

This world needs more empathy and not less.

This world needs more love and not less.

And that is your responsibility….and mine!

Let’s do it!

2014 William D. Holland (aka billybuc)

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Social, thank you. You're young, my friend. If it's any consolation, I'm old and I still don't understand people. :) I know, I know, not much consolation at all.

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      social thoughts 3 years ago from New Jersey

      Bill, this article is very intriguing. I can absolutely relate to how you feel about people who are capable of just trusting others. I have known many throughout my short life, but could never understand how they live so carefree.

      As for the belief that perhaps the person who stole the wallet was in need of cash, that may or may not be true as I am sure you know. Just last week, someone told me about a young friend they have with a lot of money and a high allowance from their parents yet she has a habit of stealing things out of people's purses. I just don't understand people, honestly.

      I really enjoyed this article! Your video was very nice, too, by the way!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Right you are, Deb! If there weren't adversity I would think it was too easy. :)

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      Deb Hirt 3 years ago from Stillwater, OK

      There will always be a few rotten apples in the bunch, BUT we all learn valuable lessons from mistakes. It makes us stronger, wiser, more efficient. Bad things happen, as eel as good things. It ALL manages to balance out, though. That's how you can tell that you're on the right track, right?

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Dianna, I'm making a good life this weekend. Now if I can just hold onto that feeling all week long. :) Thank you and have a great Sunday!

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      Dianna Mendez 3 years ago

      I love Bev's attitude. It reminds me of my hubby who always looks at life half full. On the other hand, I tend to question people's motives. Still, in the end, we both know that life is what you make of it -- make it good.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Bk42, you are much too young to be jaded. :) I derive hope for the future from people like you. Thank you for the visit and the kind words.

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      Brenda Thornlow 3 years ago from New York

      Beautiful hub! I'm trying to be much more like Bev and go back to having more compassion for people. Over the years I've allowed myself to become jaded and assume the absolute worst of everyone but I've learned that accomplishes nothing. Thank you for sharing your experience. Voted up!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Martie and I do believe you are correct. No surprise there. :) Have a wonderful weekend my friend.

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      Martie Coetser 3 years ago from South Africa

      I certainly share your principles, Billy. But I don't think this - dishonest people (without integrity) grabbing all opportunities to show hate and disrespect instead of love and respect - is a 21st century thing. According to what we know about mankind this has been reality since the very beginning.

      People (all of them) caring about each other as in 'love your neighbour as you love yourself? That kite will never fly...

      Ì love your reflections!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Very true, Crafty....very true. Once I lower my expectations my life is much easier. Thank you for your thoughts on this and have a great weekend.

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      CraftytotheCore 3 years ago

      I'm sorry that happened to Bev. We live in a world where kindness is mistaken for weirdness and liars are rewarded with people who believe them.

      It's in coming to the understanding that expectations only let us down do we truly develop the ability to allow disappointment to not consume us.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      rdsparrowriter...she is a gem for sure and I learn from her daily. Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      They are indeed, vkwok. Thanks as always for the visit and comment.

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      rdsparrowriter 3 years ago

      It's so hard to forgive and forget. But, Bev seems so compassionate. Wonderful message to think about. God bless you both!!

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      Victor W. Kwok 3 years ago from Hawaii

      Everyone is different in some way. Thanks for this story and lesson on forgiveness.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Cris, thanks for sharing your experience. Yes, the drinks at the bar would piss me off too. Eventually I just laughed about the McDonald's thing.

      Thanks for stopping by my friend.

      hugs from Oly

      bill

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      CrisSp 3 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      Amen to this Bill! I was once a victim when at 37 thousand feet someone was feasting on my credit card on the ground. I was so angry when I found out but thought for a while, maybe they needed the money very badly. There were Mcdonald's purchase but what pissed me off were charges from a bar in the middle of the night. Thank goodness, the bank returned my money and simply cancelled my credit card. These thieves are everywhere no matter how we put back our faith to humanity. Sad.

      God bless you and Bev. Enjoy the new addition the family-Holy! :)

      Love from the sky~

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      dearabbysmom, we could use more Pollyanna's like you. Don't change my friend; you can bet Bev won't. :) Thank you and Holly says hello this morning.

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      dearabbysmom 3 years ago from Indiana

      Bill, I just love this hub for so many reasons! The world sure could use more people like your Bev. It takes conscious effort to maintain a se la vie attitude when yuckiness strikes. I have relatives quick to call me a pollyanna, but whatever...I'm the only one in the bunch without high blood pressure, migraines, etc. As a member of a dog rescue group, bless you for adopting a senior girl. The seniors are the ones who break my heart. Many times people will come right out and admit they just wanted to "trade for a puppy." Those folks are the ones who force me to use the "let it go" card, or I would never sleep.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      John, thanks for sharing your personal experience. It takes all kinds, yes? I guess we have to just accept that fact, and the fact that not everyone will act as we wish they would.

      Thank you buddy; have a great Friday!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Anna, my Bev is as good a person as I have ever known, and I am a very lucky man. Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Michael my friend, good morning. As always, you have said it perfectly. What a wonderful world it would be. I don't think it will happen, but maybe we can increase the numbers one person at a time...and it is my responsibility to model loving behavior.

      Thank you Michael! Have a wonderful and love-filled day.

      bill

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ann, I have no time for bitterness in my life. There is still much good to be done by this old man. And it starts today!

      Thank you as always my friend.

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      John Hansen 3 years ago from Queensland Australia

      A great lesson about the human condition Bill and how everyone sees the world through different coloured glasses. Bev is obviously a trusting soul who sees and expects the best in people. My wife is somewhat like that. Kathy expects people to have the same values as her and is hurt easily when people aren't honest, don't get upset by death and abuse on the news, and don't act the way she expects. I find I don't expect anyone to act a certain way, that ways you aren't constantly let down. Kathy has left her purse in the store while shopping on a number of occasions, but we have always been lucky enough to get it back, or still at the store. I have had an opposite experience to Bev. I was at an event and found a wallet in the men's rest room. I saw there was ID in it but didn't check how much money. Just took it to the bar and handed it in. I went and sat down to watch the show, then was approached by two men. One asked me where exactly I found the wallet etc. I told him, realising it was the guy on the photo in the wallet. Then he asked me where the money was, accusing me of stealing it. It makes you understand why some people are reluctant to do the right thing and hand in what they find. I have had other reactions as well when finding a wallet belonging to an elderly pensioner, handing it in, only to be offered a reward which I gratefully refused. As Anna said getting the balance of trust right is quite an art. Voted up.

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      Anna Haven 3 years ago from Scotland

      Your Bev sounds a lovely soul and you sound harmiously matched. A great reflection with a potent message. Finding the balance between trusting too much or too little is definately key. Well written as always.

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      Michael-Milec 3 years ago

      Hello Bill. They do, they are , they will - no surprise anymore. A bubble is long history now. Love is becoming a luxury idiom disappearing from the "market" since rejection of its originality : Love in giving is complete where the one who receive, gives. Where in the world a " homeless" ( ? ) person has right to appropriate Bev's wallet ?! It used be too to harsh to teach the kids "you shall not steal", the humanity docent need to be told what to do right anymore. Everyone is becoming its own righteousness. So we do forgive for our own tranquility. So did Bev celebrating her victory decided by manifesting 'love" to give twenty $ if a needy asks for. Or let say, someone has made decision rampantly to love- everybody. How far love can travel if no one comes to take it with giving disposition?! O, how realistically you have proclaimed " I know that human will lie, cheat, steal … harm…" This is our real world in which evil dominates, taking advantage on compassionate killing them mercilessly, while knowing there is nee for more love, more empathy… Seriously.

      A some five year boy didn't pay much attention to his mom's calling him back, when I was nearby , looking at him , " What's your name? " Paul., who is the lady talking to you ? my mom. . . Listen young man, you need apology to your mom and promise her that you will obey her as long as you live. While walking toward his mom, turn back to see if i am still there, I only herd " thank you Sir. What would mine and your responsibility be? Spreading the aroma of love. Its so refreshing to see your " Come on people now, Love one another.," - reminded that once upon a time a heavenly Master was urging the " bible readers " - New commandment I am giving you that you shall love one another… Let's do it. What a wonderful world would be when this is going to happen.

      Voted up, useful , and beautiful.

      Have a very good night my dear friend.

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      Ann1Az2 3 years ago from Orange, Texas

      Well, Bill, you know me - God is love! And He also said to love your neighbor as yourself. It is as you say so unfortunate that some people can't follow that. I'm sorry Bev had to go through all of that, but I'm glad that you and her aren't bitter about it. You're right, bitterness just grows and festers. I enjoyed your video!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Oh Glimmer, I'm pretty darned certain I have disappointed a few in my time. :) Thanks for that....a truth we all can admit to.

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      Glimmer Twin Fan 3 years ago

      It's a sad lesson, but a true one Bill. Sooner or later people will disappoint us and truth be told, I've probably disappointed a couple of people.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Jackie, watch your back, your front and your sides. :) I wish I could trust everyone my friend, but I can't, and I'd be a fool to do so.

      But I can trust you and that's good enough for me. :)

      bill

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      Jackie Lynnley 3 years ago from The Beautiful South

      I tell you I had a purse full of goodies I left laying in a store years while looking at something and never got it back. Had to replace all my cards, DL, make-up. That bugs me to this day and I try never to carry anything that won't go in pockets and the purse stays in the car (hidden). The world is not mostly made of good honest people is the lesson I learned; so watch your back. lol Right?

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Barbara, I would agree...most people are trustworthy...it only takes a couple to ruin it for everyone.

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      Barbara Badder 3 years ago from USA

      Bev sounds like an extra special person. I was once trusting like that, but I went through a year where event after event taught me to be more careful. Most people are trustworthy though.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Suraj, you stated it all perfectly. We can choose whether to be spiteful or philosophical. If we choose hate then we have no one to blame but ourselves.

      Thank you for your wonderful thoughts.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Ann! My "philosophy on life" has taken time to grow; it is built on a foundation of frustration and overall angst....but it was, ultimately, built, and today life is good.

      Grandsons will do that, won't they? And what a joy they are.

      Have a wonderful day my friend.

      bill

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you for your thoughts Suzanne, and I completely agree with them. I had to learn this lesson over the years and it helped greatly.

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      suraj punjabi 3 years ago from jakarta

      Hello Bill, its so great to see you in a video, I finally get to see you and hear your voice! Its a nice change. Yes I like your thought. I personally, have ever got my handphone pickpotted. whats worse is that my handphone was brand new and my parents bought for me on my bday. Needless to say (but we always say it anyways after saying this), it hurt so bad. Yes you are right, it was like a true slap in the face.

      What is worse is that life is sometimes not done with giving you with only 1 slap in the face. What we need to know is that we have a choice as to how we react with the slapping with get. This is something nothing can take away from us and it is what makes us different.

      What to do when you get slapped? Will you start hating the world and shun yourself, or make peace and keep smiling and learn from your mistakes.

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      Ann Carr 3 years ago from SW England

      You have such a great philosophy on life, bill. These things happen, sad though they are but, as you say, often it makes us think about what we have and what problems others might have.

      I love Holly; she looks so gentle. How lovely of you and Bev to give her a home! You are two lovely people.

      I'm thoroughly enjoying the new grandson who's keeping us all busy all day!

      Enjoy your day, both of you. Ann

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      Suzanne Day 3 years ago from Melbourne, Victoria, Australia

      I think the trick is to let hurts go. Often, not letting go can hurt and anger you more than the actual action of someone disappointing you. Being able to let go of painful lessons in life is the way to move on and to be able to laugh about it at some point in the future. Enjoyed this hub and voted useful!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Vicki, they amaze me too. Maybe if I live long enough I can be like them. :) Thank you so much for stopping by. I hope you are well.

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      Victoria Lynn 3 years ago from Arkansas, USA

      I think I learned very young not to trust. I don't think there's anything wrong with that, as it's realistic in this world. Still, I am appreciate--and amazed--by people like Bev (and my mother, too!) who are still positive and upbeat in this ole world. Thanks for sharing your story and the lessons that go with it!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      grand old lady, thank you for that...I think we have a pretty good team too.

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      Mona Sabalones Gonzalez 3 years ago from Philippines

      Great reflection, Bill. I think you and your wife are a great team. You anchor her, she reminds you to trust. God is good.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Lizzy, that's a lot considering. :) Thanks, hon!

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      Liz Davis 3 years ago from Hudson, FL

      I love this one.

      That's all I've got in me for today.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Jo! We balance each other well and hopefully, over time, a little of each of us will rub off.

      Holly says thank you for the compliment.

      blessings always

      bill

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      Jo_Goldsmith11 3 years ago

      This hub is no disappointment! You two are the most beautiful people I have the privilege to read about. :-) Maybe she could be a little more cautious as you are a little more colorful seeing the gray areas.

      A beautiful and inspiring read! Shared & up! :-) And cute dog you got there too.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      And thank you, Ruby, for being the kind and gentle soul that you are.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      My policy as well, Sheila. I will always believe in the good in people. Thanks for your thoughts.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 3 years ago from Southern Illinois

      Bill you set a good example for us all, and Bev, what can i say, " She has a beautiful soul. " Thank you for being you and sharing....

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Flourish, thanks for sharing that. No, it won't harden my heart. I've lived like that and I won't return....besides, how could anyone live with Bev and have a hard heart? :)

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      sheilamyers 3 years ago

      My policy is generally to trust people unless they give me a reason not to. Yes, that can lead to people trying to take advantage of you. There are many reasons to live in distrust of people because of the bad things we here about, but I believe there are many good people than bad.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      DJ, it's good to hear from you my dear. I hope you are loving that writing process....despite all the research, keep remembering why you are doing it all.

      And best wishes

      bill

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      breakfastpop, funny you mentioned love....I have a hub coming next week on that, my favorite, subject.

      Thank you my friend. It is always a pleasure having you stop by.

      bill

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Faith my friend, what a lovely story. Thank you for sharing that with us. I believe in people, Faith, but I'm not shocked when they let me down....I just keep moving forward and try to do my part.

      blessings and thanks always

      bill

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      FlourishAnyway 3 years ago from USA

      Aww, Bill. Sometimes they will disappoint you, but sometimes they will downright amaze you. I left my wallet at a Wendy's overnight for God's sake and the next day I realized that's probably where it was, so I retraced my steps, and someone had turned it in with all my cash still in in, plus credit cards, too. Be thankful it was only $20 bucks and some inconvenience and don't let it harden your heart.

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      DJ Anderson 3 years ago

      Bill, that is a lovely story and leaves us with much to think about.

      Wanted to let you know that I am MIA while researching and writing.

      It has been a year, and I am about half way through my first writing.

      I will pop in periodically to say, "Hello".

      Here is a topic you may want to write about...Do Not Attempt A Historically Based Novel On Your First Attempt At Writing A Novel.

      Still waist deep in WWII,

      DJ.

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      breakfastpop 3 years ago

      Dear billy,

      Yes, people will disappoint us, but when someone comes along who has integrity and is kind the world is a better place. I meet those kind of people all the time and I am grateful and a better person for it. I tell the people I love how much I love them all the time. I don't bounce the word "love" around. If I say it, I mean it.

      Billy, I love this hub andI am voting it up in so many ways.

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Dear Bill,

      I just love your title (so true ... if we let them, that is the key) and, of course, I love your message here in this hub! Once, when I just had my first baby, my daughter, out in Texas, as my husband was stationed there, I ran up to the store and placed my purse on top of my car to load up my daughter (I know, I know), focusing on taking care of her and getting her situated safely, but I had forgotten all about my purse being on top of my car! I drove off and, thankfully, I had my keys in my hand. Halfway home, I realized my purse was not in the car. I turned around and it was nowhere to be found in the parking lot, etc. I went home so discouraged and told my husband and he had a big smile on his face? I thought, what is up with him, he said, believe it or not, a man brought my purse to our home and had given it to my husband! He said he saw me when I took off, but could not catch up with me. He saw my drivers' license and returned my purse with all accounted for and no charges on my credit cards or anything.. Boy, how often does that happen? Not often! I am sorry about what happened to you, but I am glad you are both over it and have moved on, such is life. One time I had something else stolen from me, and I just figured that person needed it more than I did.

      Great hub!

      Hugs and blessings to you and Bev,

      Faith Reaper

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Eddy, there is no place at all for those dark clouds. For far too long they covered my sky...no longer my dear friend.

      Thank you!

      billy

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Audrey, it is a wonderful place to be for sure; Bev is there more often than I am. :) Thank you Audrey!

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      Eiddwen 3 years ago from Wales

      Oh yes this is just what a makes you my very dear friend. We are indeed both so very like minded. Clouds will indeed only spread and will eventually cover all and we see and do. I have no place for dark clouds in my life. As always voting up and sharing. Wishing you and your ever growing family a great day.

      Eddy.

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      Audrey Howitt 3 years ago from California

      Your posts always make me think a bit. Your Bev feels replenished by finding the compassion in her heart I suspect--it is a wonderful place to be

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Rafiq, I am a lucky man, and the angels are my companions. Thank you and blessings to you always.

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      Muhammad Rafiq 3 years ago from Pakistan

      Great message Bill!

      Angels protect you

      Sadness forget you.

      Rafiq......

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Graham, thank you my friend. It is a good union for sure and I consider myself a very lucky man.

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      Graham Lee 3 years ago from Lancashire. England.

      Hi Bill. We are who we are and we are shaped by our past. Yes you do indeed compliment each other. You are the strong one against the tide, I know you will look after the lady that has brought you happiness and contentment. Carry on inspiring.

      Graham.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Good morning once again, Lea, and thank you. Bev is my gift from God...and I'm not giving her back. :)

      blessings always

      bill

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Dora, without a doubt I am a better person because of Bev. I know quite well how lucky I am.

      Thank you dear friend.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Eric, as always, nicely stated truths. It's all good my friend. A quick trip through my memory will show me acts every bit as wrong that I have committed....so be it. We move on, we learn, we love. :)

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you DDE....very kind of you to say.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Dabble it was a winning situation because our new dog is a sweetheart. Thank you!

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      Sparklea 3 years ago from Upstate New York

      Hi Billy buc, just catching up on my emails and notifications. Please tell Bev I am very sorry for what happened, and she is a role model for love, forgiveness and understanding. Everyone has a story, I am sure, of someone who took from them, be it a family member or a stranger.

      Thanks for sharing this, I am sure it will encourage the readers to take a different perspective on a situation such as this.

      Voted up and useful. God bless, Sparklea :)

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      Dora Weithers 3 years ago from The Caribbean

      What a perfect match God made of you and Bev. Being together, learning from each, her forgiving, compassionate spirit has to rub off on you sometime, and perhaps to us through you. Voted Up!

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Bill this article does not make me think of those crooks, it reminds me that I was one too. I am sure that many people have gone through life as really good people. And I did not steal wallets, but I readily admit I have not always been completely honest, caring or loving. Hell's Bells and Cocker Shells I used to be a damned lawyer.

      But today I wake up and say "Holy crap Batman! this is the day the Lord has made and I shall rejoice and be glad in it".

      I would venture that the wallet problem made you two love each other more deeply. And that Love of Life has just brought love into my heart so I thank the thief.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Brilliantly thought of and so true your words shine as you think and write.

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      DabbleYou 3 years ago

      Sorry about what happened to you but am glad you recovered fast. Without that incident, you probably wouldn't have a new pet. Nice hub. :)

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sheri, I'm with you...I really do believe that 99% of people are good. It's always that 1% that makes the rest look bad. Hey, I hope they enjoyed the double cheeseburger. :) Thank you Sheri!

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      Sheri Dusseault 3 years ago from Chemainus. BC, Canada

      Sorry you had to go through that. I know at our library some homeless people hand out...likely just to get out of the weather, so maybe Bev was right and whoever took her wallet was seriously hungry...I like her attitude...maybe think of it as you just bought someone in need dinner! Course it would have been nice to offer first...but....keep your glasses rosy because happily these types of experiences are the exception, which means 99 percent of the people are good and honest...and that is a rosy thought! Great hub and congrats on you new pet.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Maria, a little bit different but basically the same...I was told to prepare for the worst and hope for the best...most people fall somewhere in-between. :) Good morning to you dear lady.

      blessings and love,

      bill

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      For sure!

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      Maria Jordan 3 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Good reflections this morning... I also love Bev's philosophy, yet relate to your feelings as well.

      I was taught by a mentor: "Lower your expectations and you won't be disappointed". I try to apply this to everyone but myself. And happily, in the majority of cases, others meet, even surpass, my expectations. I try to remember these instances, when some show uglier behavior... the balance is good for my perspective.

      Excellent essay, voted UP & UABI. Love, Maria

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      Randi Benlulu 3 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Way cool!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Randi, but it all turned out okay. A little annoyance and that is all and hey, we got a new dog out of the deal, so how cool is that?

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      They are, aren't they, Sha? McDonald's???? I'm pretty sure I would have gone someplace better to eat. LOL

      Thank you dear friend. I'll pass alone your kind words to Bev.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Janine! She really is a wonderful person. I love how deeply she feels about people; the depth of her emotions is quite remarkable, and I am lucky to have her in my life.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Oh, Mary, thank you and I'm sorry. I thought I had contacted everyone about the book but obviously I forgot you. I ended up with six people reading it, so I don't think I need to bother you with it. I really appreciate the offer, though.

      Thank you for the kind words about Bev. She really is the best part of me.

      bill

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      Randi Benlulu 3 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Great shreds and great thoughts. I completely agree with you but have to add....People may also surprise you! Like Bev, I choose to keep on the rose colored glasses. Like you, I know that I do have to look under them once in a while. Thank you, Bill! Great perspective! I am sorry about Bevs wallet.up and shared

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      My pleasure, Mark! It is a message that needs to be shouted from roof tops.

      Thank you buddy!

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      Shauna L Bowling 3 years ago from Central Florida

      Bill, I would have reacted the way you did at first. I've been ripped off by credit/debit card thieves. It's maddening. Bev had the right attitude. The thief didn't buy luxuries, he or she spent a measly 20 bucks to feed hungry bellies. That's sad. It's also sad that circumstances can lead to dishonesty. Something tells me that had the person who found Bev's wallet returned it to her, she would have rewarded that person in some way.

      Bev's rose-colored glasses are very becoming!

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      Janine Huldie 3 years ago from New York, New York

      So sorry Bev went through this during the past weekend. You are right there are some people out there that truly don't care and will do whatever it takes to do the wrong thing no matter what, but I am more like Bev, where I do truly try to see as much of the good out there and in people, too. When something like this happens, I tend to get down and depressed a bit, but like Bev, I end picking myself back up and moving forward. Can't help, but try to see the glass as half full rather then half empty, I suppose. But still my heart goes out to Bev and sending good thoughts and vibes her way today.

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      Mary McShane 3 years ago from Fort Lauderdale, Florida

      Hi Bill, This is a message that many would do well to read and hopefully come away with the same attitude that you adopted from Bev. It is hard in this day and age, but I love her coping mechanism!

      She sounds like a lovely lady with all you have shared about her in your writings. She can't help but rub off on you - this coming from fellow flower child of the 60's who was not all that trusting of people either until one episode in the 1990's that I may share some other day.

      I'm glad to know that her credit cards were not hit harder than they were and that you were able to act swiftly to cancel them. With my present mindset, I too would have flipped off the $20 as benefiting someone who needed it. At least they didn't go charge a new appliance or expensive clothes. Going to McDonalds is not the first place one would think to go when stealing a credit card, so she is probably right - they were in need of a meal. How's that for a full 360 degree turnaround from the 1960's!

      I haven't heard back from you about reading your book, so I trust you have enough readers for now. If you find you want more input, shoot me an email, I'll be glad to help out.

      Mary

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      Mark G Weller 3 years ago from Lake Charles, LA.

      Great attitude Bill and Bev, thank you for sharing this message!

      Mark