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Show Someone That You Care

Updated on August 29, 2014

The Birth Of An Idea

I got the impetus to write this article from something that happened to me the other day. (As I usually do). I received a note from a young lady in a meeting that we regularly attend together. In these meetings we freely express ourselves on a regular basis. In her note she told me that she was encouraged by something that I said months ago. (If you are familiar with my articles, My Phenomenal Memory, you know I didn't remember). She expressed her appreciation to me with such heartfelt words that it choked me up. So, as usual through my musings I came up with an idea for this article.

To Whom

Unless we are heartless and cruel, there is someone we can show that emotion to. As a matter of fact there should be a lot of someones we can show it to. For instance my ex-husband was a mailman, and he said he really appreciated it when, on a hot day, someone would give him a cold drink of water. He encouraged us as a family to always offer our mailman water.  Of course, we always do, most of them really appreciate the gesture.

Let's take it back from there. What about the nice neighbor, that always speak to you, or maybe even the not so nice neighbor that never speaks to you, could you try to break the ice, (I'm just saying)? There's the workmate, the carpool person, the schoolteacher classmate, the doorman, the janitor, the food service person, (cafe, fast food, restaurant), salesperson, hair care person, (barber, beautician). Your family member, (mother, father, brother, sister, child, grandparent and so on). Okay, I guess, you get the picture.


Show Care For What

As we have seen in the two real life instances above, sometimes simple gestures are the best, and most remembered. Why don't we explore this from the standpoint of the times that we are living in. By that I mean let's look at showing someone we care with either little or no cash outlay. For instance, a little outlay of cash would be a piece of fruit, simple floral bouquet, stationary, or in the case of a computer enthusiast, a ream of paper or ink. No cash outlay could be a handwritten note, bringing in trash cans or newspaper, offering to clean the yard or mow the lawn.

We show someone we care, for who they are, what they have done and do for us, we can simply just show them that we care that they are there.

How To Show Care

Let's break it down.

  1. Beginning with the family: Children, old and young alike, take heed. Showing a parent that you care for them. Young people living at home, simply speaking in a respectful tone, could sometimes do the trick. How about thank you. Too simple? Well why not clean something (maybe their room, without being asked), how about preparing dinner, or maybe just making a plate and bringing it to them. By doing these types of things you show that you care for them, and that you appreciate the care that they give you. What about those of us living away from home, don't we still care? A call, letter, or email. If we live close enough, a regular visit could just make life worth living for them.
  2. Parents: Beyond the normal parent child dynamics, there are special things you can do to show that you really care for your offspring. For instance, what about, just saying thank you when they perform some task that was assigned to them. Of course, there are the normal obligations of a parent, feeding, clothing and taking care of their general welfare. However, there are certain things not mandated, let's say, attending school functions, outings with your children, personal one on one time. Since these things are not obligatory, some parents don't see this as necessary to their being considered a good parent. They are under the impression that if they provide the latest in clothing and shoe designs, and a very nice home, they've proven themselves to be the quintessential parent. Surprise, surprise, parents that's not it, if you doubt that, just ask, I mean really ask your young ones what would really make them happy. Don't be surprised if it's not the latest designer outfit, or sports shoe. I digress. Why not just show up at the next school function, even if it is a work day. Can you take a day off from work and, or the weekend if you can't afford to miss work, and do something special with them, like breakfast, the movie, dinner, make the day all about them? I promise you won't regret it. I have a son that always remembers our days of fish and Popeye, (long story). By doing these things parents, you are showing that you care for them not just as your child, but for being a decent human being. As usual, a lot more can be done, but for the sake of brevity, we'll let the reader fill in the blanks.
  3. What about your favorite service person. For instance, Do you eat out regularly, say at the same place or two? Could you send the establishment a card or some other form of appreciation, to let them know that you care that they are in the community? Then there's the person that cooks the food, you must enjoy it, or why would you continue to eat there, so let them know that you care. A card or a note would probably suffice here, and don't forget the server.
  4. There's the Teacher. Parents, do you know of a teacher who has taken special care to educate your young one? Perhaps, if you can afford it, you could provide the teacher with something they use in the classroom that they usually provide themselves, or again maybe just a note of appreciation. What about an inexpensive gift card from their favorite eatery.
  5. Students, what about your favorite teacher, or even the not so favorite, maybe the one who's helping you achieve your goals, you know the saying, "an apple for the teacher," that can actually be a reality. It doesn't necessarily have to be an apple, but a treat of some kind. However, we're back to the card or note, I know it can work, because I have every card or note of appreciation that I've ever been given, and sometimes, to feel good on a down day, I'll read a few.
  6. I'd like to explore one more in depth. The hair care person, (barber or beautician). By calling them that, I hope I'm not being politically incorrect. Anyway, Patron, do you like what they do to your hair? Well then, if you want them to continue, then show them that you care, with, here we go again, the trusty thank you card. Oh yes, here's a novel idea,(tongue in cheek), why not tip them next time. Hair Care Person, do you love what you do, and want to stay in business? Why not show your patrons that you appreciate them as customers, let's see, how about a freebie once in awhile, say a free trim, color or even a whole hair-do. You know the saying, "you have to spend money to make money." Sometimes, time will work just as well, and it won't cost you anything, but it might foster goodwill, and retain a good customer. You might also gain new customers, you know how good word of mouth is.

Conclusion

I could go on and on because there's lots more situations that could be occasions to show someone that you care.  However, it would almost take a book to enumerate each situation, so I'll just let the reader use their imagination. In your comments, if you can think of any significant ones, please don't hesitate to leave them.

So I say, in whatever situation you find yourself, show someone that you care, care that they are there, care that you they are who they are, care that they do what they do, just in general show someone that you care.


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      Alfreta Sailor 5 years ago from Southern California

      Thank you so much for that very encouraging comment, and I agree with you about the smallest things. Again thank you so much,for stopping, please come again.

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      nina64 5 years ago from chicago, Illinois

      Hello Fastfreta, your hub is great!!!!! I often find that the smallest gesture of kindness can go a long way. It's not always the big things that people do that supposedly gets the biggest bang, but the littlest of things. A hug, a word of kindness, can do a person of world of good. We often don't know what a person is going thru in their lives. These little things can be a source of comfort for a lot of people.

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      Alfreta Sailor 6 years ago from Southern California

      So do I thumbi7, so do I. Thanks for the comment validating my hub. Thank you so much for stopping and reading also. Please come back.

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      JR Krishna 6 years ago from India

      I liked reading this hub. You have explained in simple way how to care for others. To reinforce, I believe in the principle, what goes around, comes around. Thanks.

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      Alfreta Sailor 6 years ago from Southern California

      So true rosettaartist1. My brother did something the other day that made me stop and think. We were leaving the bank, and he turned his head to look at a lady, and he did it so she could see him do it. I chastised him for doing it, but his explanation was, "he probably put some sunshine in that woman's otherwise uneventful day." While I don't approve of men ogling women, his explanation made sense in some kind of perverted way. Because the lady did look kind of sad, and she wasn't the type of woman that men would stop in their tracks to look at. While that's not really showing someone you care, it just might have gone a long way to help her feel better, or not, who knows.

      Thanks rosettaartist1, for stopping, please come back again.

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      Rosetta Ceesay 6 years ago from United Kingdom

      I habitually pay compliments to people and try to cast a little sunshine in peoples lives since there is too much negativity in the world today. Showing you care goes a long way.

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      Alfreta Sailor 6 years ago from Southern California

      Romari, I appreciate the encouragement.

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      Rose Maria Rica D. Fuentes 6 years ago from Heaven

      a very inspiring one

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      Alfreta Sailor 6 years ago from Southern California

      I totally agree Anamika S, it does make one feel good after giving. I loved that you stopped over, hope to see you again soon.

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      Anamika S 6 years ago from Mumbai - Maharashtra, India

      Absolutely loved your Post! There is so much happiness in giving. It does not really matter if it is through material things or other acts of kindness, you would definitely feel good after you do it.

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      Alfreta Sailor 7 years ago from Southern California

      Thank you very much Dale for your kind remarks, and also for the link. See you soon.

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      Dale Mazurek 7 years ago from Canada

      What a wonderfully written hub. Very unique ideas. People really should pay attention.

      Anyways your hub is now posted on my blog.

      Cheers

      Dale

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      Alfreta Sailor 7 years ago from Southern California

      Thank you Moulik Mistry, you're too kind. Thanks for stopping, please come again.

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      Moulik Mistry 7 years ago from Burdwan, West Bengal, India

      Very interesting ideas - You must be a very caring person...

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      Alfreta Sailor 7 years ago from Southern California

      Thank you very much stars439 for stopping. I'm glad that you enjoyed this hub. Please stop again soon.

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      stars439 7 years ago from Louisiana, The Magnolia and Pelican State.

      Very nice hub. Great ideas your sharing. God Bless You

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      Alfreta Sailor 7 years ago from Southern California

      Thank you so much for that very kind comment, and thanks for stopping, and reading. Hope to see you soon.

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      3cardmonte 7 years ago

      What a beautiful article, people don't show that they care enough nowadays, this was very inspiring!

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      Alfreta Sailor 7 years ago from Southern California

      I figured that would strike a cord with teachers. Thanks habee for stopping.

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      Holle Abee 7 years ago from Georgia

      Great hub! I especially like the teacher part - lol!

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      Alfreta Sailor 7 years ago from Southern California

      Thanks again Shil1978 for stopping and taking time to read and leave your kind comment.

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      Shil1978 7 years ago

      Wonderful hub FF. I agree "simple gestures" may seem simple but are almost always the best and memorable ones. Small things like these do make a huge impact on people.

      Sad that we always tend to forget these simple things in our daily lives. We are just so caught up with our busy schedules most times, but we need to keep these valuable life lessons in mind.

      Thank you for this valuable hub and for reminding us of the need to do the "simple" things that really matter!!

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      Alfreta Sailor 7 years ago from Southern California

      Laurel, You're sweet, I'd love to have a card from you. I also like to write my own cards at times. Thanks for stopping, I'll see you soon.

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      Laurel Rogers 7 years ago from Bishop, Ca

      Personal notes have always been my favorite way to express thanks/kindness. I frequent a small independent bookstore in my area which has very unique cards.

      I only wish I could send one to you!

      Laurel

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      Alfreta Sailor 7 years ago from Southern California

      Thanks Angela, I think we all need reminders at times. Again thank you for stopping. See you soon.

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      Angela Blair 7 years ago from Central Texas

      Loved this Hub -- it doesn't take that long to show appreciation for others and I often find myself falling short of that goal. Thanks for a great reminder. Best, Sis

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      Alfreta Sailor 7 years ago from Southern California

      So true pmccray, I agree it has seemingly gone out of fashion, but those of us that believe good manners still matter, should not let them die. Thank you for stopping, see you soon.

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      pmccray 7 years ago from Utah

      Fastfreta; to often now days the niceties that some of us were raised to convey to others has fallen by the way side. Please and thank you go a long way. Manners are a long lost art, and I think have been kicked to the curb two or three generations ago. Fantastic hub.

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      Alfreta Sailor 7 years ago from Southern California

      Now that's the results that I hope for when I write these type of articles. I'm sure that mailman will be ever so grateful. And I'm so grateful to you for reading and commenting. Thanks ever so much wordscribe41 for stopping, and for your kind comment to me personally.

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      wordscribe41 7 years ago

      What a beautiful hub, fastfreta. It really does just take so little to make someone's day, huh? Great reminder, I know I try to do these things on a daily basis. I am SO giving my kind mailman some water this summer. Thanks... This may sound corny, but I don't care. I like you, I can tell I'd have a blast hanging out with you.

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      Alfreta Sailor 7 years ago from Southern California

      Thanks msannec for taking time to read my hub,and thanks also for the comment. See you soon.

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      msannec 7 years ago from Mississippi (The Delta)

      Awesome post, and a reminder that is so needed today. "Little things mean a lot." Thanks for sharing.

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      Alfreta Sailor 7 years ago from Southern California

      Thank you ladylux, you're too kind. Please stop again.

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      ladylux 7 years ago

      I wish the world had more fastfretas in it!

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      Alfreta Sailor 7 years ago from Southern California

      Thank you Tammy, Jstankevicz, Micky Dee,and SEO IT for stopping and I do care that you all take the time to read my hubs, so thank you all.

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      Karla Whitmore 7 years ago from Tucson, AZ

      Great reminders. A little thoughtfulness can go a long way.

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      Micky Dee 7 years ago

      Let's show someone we care.

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      jstankevicz 7 years ago from Cave Creek

      What a thoughtful article about being thoughtful! The section on service people resonated with me. It's too easy to look at somebody who is serving us and not see them. Too easy to be focused on the menu, on the change, on the product that we might never look directly at the person helping us and smile. To go further and say thank you...

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      Tammy Lochmann 7 years ago

      Lovely! I always try to show the Walmart Cashier that I appreciate them. I know those poor people get treated like dirt. I know I am a nurse and people treat us like dirt too. All the kindness and appreciation I show always comes back to me in spades though. Good thought provoking hub. You were my first fan and I thank you!

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      Alfreta Sailor 7 years ago from Southern California

      I agree Ann, this can and should be done without any special occasion. Thank you very much for stopping and taking time to read my hub.

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      Ann Nonymous 7 years ago from Virginia

      There is Mother's and Father's Day, Teacher and Pastor appreciation days, Grandparents Day and so on and so forth but this great hub, Freta, makes me realize we do NOT and should NOT wait for only those days to show someone we care. Well done!!!!!

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      Alfreta Sailor 7 years ago from Southern California

      Thanks Ictod1947 for stopping, and I liked the story about your mother.

      Thanks to you Veronica for the compliment. And I agree with you we do all need to be shown a little appreciation from time to time.

      Thank you both for stopping.

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      Veronica Allen 7 years ago from Georgia

      This is such a great hub fastfreta. Every once and while, we need great reminders such as these. We all need to be shown a little appreciation every once in a while. It all begins with taking the first step.

      By the way, kudos on your excellent interview! I throughly enjoyed it. You truly have the gift for gab!

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      lctodd1947 7 years ago from USA

      You are so good at this. Yes, it makes me feel good when someone just passes me a lie compliment!!! You know the "you look so good" even though I know I do not. It never hurts to say something nice to someone or do something. I have to tell this, my Mom's doctor gave her a picture framed of her favorite news anchor. I thought that was so nice of him. He realizes that she has a fantasy about this person but he made sure he let her know it was okay. Thanks for sharing this information with us.

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      Alfreta Sailor 7 years ago from Southern California

      Sage, it's not them it's you, to get that much back you have to be doing something right, keep up the good work.

      Bk you're right, it's time we pay it forward, but even if it wasn't done to us, it can begin here with us.

      Green Lotus, Sandyspider, and Pamela99, I agree this is a reminder for us all, because sometimes along the way we forget.

      Thank you all for stopping, see you soon.

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      Pamela Oglesby 7 years ago from United States

      Fastfreta. I liked this hub as it is a good reminder to treat people the way you would like people to treat you. I am blessed to have a caring family and a few good friends. Thanks for this hub.

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      Sandy Mertens 7 years ago from Wisconsin, USA

      This is a good reminder that we need to show our appreciation.

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      Hillary 7 years ago from Atlanta, GA

      Lovely hub fastfreta! and a gentle reminder too.

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      BkCreative 7 years ago from Brooklyn, New York City

      It seems we think too often that we are entitled a kindness from others.

      And children are taught kindness by adults. Growing up here in the City I still remember (a hundred years later) all the kindnesses of the women in the community - the mother that came out and taught us street games, the mother that taught us to knit, the mother that taught me to ride a bike, the father who came home from work and baked giant cookies for us children who casually hung outside his door. These were all people that made up our community, our village so to speak. There is much kindness of strangers and others here in NYC.

      Thanks for the reminder that it pays because we in turn will pay it forward.

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      Sage Williams 7 years ago

      Fastfreta - I really, really enjoyed this hub. I think I must be surrounded by some really great people. I'll take that back, I know that I am surrounded by very positive people. I have learned from the best. As, I am always amazed in the many ways they express their appreciation for the simplest things that I do.

      It is so rewarding to show appreciation and practice gratitude as much as it is to receive it. I try to remind myself to show my appreciation to the every day ordinary folk that cross my path. Some cranky ones may not receive it well, but deep inside you know that you are still a good person and just maybe when they get home it will make them think.

      Great Job!

      Sage

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      Alfreta Sailor 7 years ago from Southern California

      Thank you Hello, hello, RevLady, Chinweike, and suziecat7, for weighing in on this, my latest hub, and, for validating this subject matter.

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      suziecat7 7 years ago from Asheville, NC

      This is a great Hub. It really is the little things we remember to do on a day to day basis that make the difference. Thanks.

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      Chinweike 7 years ago from Glasgow, UK

      True talk fastfreta, i was amazed by the kind of joy a customer puts on the face of one of my staff the other day at the restaurant when he praised him for job well done and recommended him for promotion.

      Thanks for sharing

      Cheers

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      samboiam 7 years ago from Texas

      As always you give us something to think about. I love your hubs. Thanks for sharing them with us.

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      RevLady 7 years ago from Lantana, Florida

      You brought out some very interesting ideas. I really appreciate it because it is so often the simple personal touch things that brings the most joy. Reminds me of "Simple Acts of Kindness."

      Thank you,

      Forever His,

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      Hello, hello, 7 years ago from London, UK

      This is a great hub and very much needed. It is these little gestures which don't cost anything but makes the world a so much better place. Thank you for writing it.