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How to Overcome Being Shy

Updated on December 3, 2013

Voice an Opinion

Overcoming shyness is nearly impossible for some of those who suffer from it. Shyness can be a social burden due to the fear of rejection when speaking out in public. Insecurity and fear play big roles in a person's ability to express themselves. Quiet natured people usually seem to have more trouble getting over shyness.

The only cure for shyness is learning to speak out in public. This could mean voicing an opinion at work or at a social gathering. Many people with useful insight fail to present themselves due to being extremely shy. This can cause lost promotions at work, self esteem issues, and seclusion.

Conversation Starters

Shyness can be caused by a bad childhood memory such as public humiliation, embarrassment, or criticism. Fear of failure can cause a shy person to be unwilling to contribute useful knowledge to others. There are many useful tips that can help people overcome at least part of their shyness.

Keeping up on a general variety of current events or popular topics can be good topics for conversation starters. Having subject matter is 90% of the reason for lack of general conversation. Keep some interesting things in mind that could be used as topics of conversation.

Face Life Head On

Shyness is sometimes mistaken for arrogance. People who avoid talking around people tend to be viewed as self centered, not shy. Speak up and let people know that you are shy and avoid being seen as snobbish. Overcoming shyness doesn't happen overnight, practice and learn a few social skills one at a time until they feel natural. College classes can help shy individuals learn to be more sociable while learning a new skill or hobby at the same time.

Face obstacles head on and be ready for the everyday stressors in life. This helps build self confidence, learn relaxation techniques, and learn effective coping skills. Relaxation techniques help reduce anxiety, panic, and the fear associated with being shy. The first natural human instinct is to run and hide when overwhelmed by feelings of panic.

Controlling anxiety helps to increase a person's awareness, feeling more relaxed and alert and pulse and respirations can return to normal. An outgoing mate or spouse can help improve confidence by being an example for assertiveness. Shyness can negatively affect the lives of those who suffer from it. Willingness to be assertive and outspoken can sometimes lessen the hurt feelings and loneliness that shy people often deal with.


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