What do you want in Life? (Part 1)
If someone asks you today, "what do you want in life?" - would you be able to answer. If the question was stated slightly differently, "what do you not want out of life?" - would that make it easier to answer?
As we go through life, we become very clear on what it is that we don't want out of life. We learn to focus on what we don't want in our partner or what food we don't like etc. When we look in the mirror, we focus on what we don't like rather than what we like of ourselves.
Most of us and I am guilty of this as well, look at others and think that they have something we want or are better in life than we are. Rather than focusing on improving our situation, we look at others and go in a self-pity phase. We need to change that if we have any chance of feeling genuinely happy in life and to be successful in life.
By success, I don’t mean becoming a billionaire and owning everything possible in this world. Ask yourself honestly, would that really make you happy? What most of us don’t do and need to do is become self-aware of what are soul really desires. To do that, we need to ask ourselves certain questions and do certain homework.
Some of the questions to get us thinking are as follows:
What do I love about life and in life?
List anything and everything that you love about this world and the people in your life. Also, think about the activities that you see and do that gets you excited and enthusiastic. Is there something you’ve seen or done that makes you fell alive? Some examples are music, sports, cooking, teaching others, learning, watching movies—anything.
By understanding what you love, you will understand what you are passionate about.
What kind of a person are you?
What have I accomplished that I feel proud of so far?
List all the moments you are proud of and the times that you were successful. Identify what made you feel proud and succeed. Also, list any activities, hobbies or anything else that you do that comes easily to you.
These will show you what strengths you already have.
What would I stand up for and be known for if I did not need to be scared of others judgements?
List everything that you would do if you weren’t afraid of others, beliefs, and social norms. Go beyond your imagination.
This will help you discover your greatest values.
If I could have it all and do whatever I wanted without any limits, what would I choose to have and do?
Describe your ideal lifestyle. Some things to consider: what would you do all day, what would you want to be successful in, what kind of person would you be, how much money would you earn, and where would you live.
This will help you realize your true desires without any limits. You can then start working towards the life you truly want by merging your thoughts and your desires.
What would I do with one billion dollars?
List everything that you would really love to do if you had all the money in the world. Think beyond; what would you do with your time after you traveled the world, bought a house or two, and gave some money to your family and charity?
This question helps you discover what you really want to do without limitations.
Would you live your life over again?
Who do I look up to the most in the world?
List the people you admire the most and the qualities that you like about these people. Think about what really inspires you in this world.
You admire someone because they have similar qualities to you.
This is a start to understanding who you truly are. Once you understand what you really value and love to do, you can start setting the foundation for reaching your goals and desires.