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Why Suffer from Loneliness?

Updated on October 14, 2018
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Devika enjoys sharing her work with a friendly community. Writing is a big part of her life. Online work has improved her lifestyle.

Avoid Loneliness with a simple Lifestyle

How did you cope with the feeling of loneliness?

My life felt quiet, lonely, less communicative, and isolated. In that time, I managed to keep myself occupied with daily gardening. I listened to the radio, spent time reading, watched some of television, and spent some time at the computer.

I did not fail to comply with my needs to avoid loneliness. A walk along the clean streets and great observations kept me alive and well. Loneliness is not for every individual that all depends on how one chooses to live their lives.

You can find loneliness as the most difficult part of your life if you did not choose that way of life. Loneliness can make you feel depressed, sad, can cause you to think negative, and can make you feel most unhappy with yourself.

Most people keep loneliness a quiet part of their lives and they don't speak about what hurts them the most, and would not admit to being lonely. They tend to suffer from loneliness with silence.

Loneliness is when you are isolated from the rest of the world, and you feel complete emptiness from within. This leads to anxiety and you eventually become another person.

  • How can you connect to the True Self that is not Lonely?

Loneliness comes from the true self.

You can be in the middle of a crowd and still feel loneliness. It is you who has to make your life filled with good company and get away from that lonely life. I learned that over time and now I don't feel lonely just happy with the way my life has become my own life.

I included great qualities in my life to make a less lonely life. I have joy, and have my creative mind to work daily on new activities. I created a life that I enjoy best, once I established my own life exists in a different way.

I became aware of how to stay connected to people and to be with people to avoid my loneliness. I do enjoy my own company best but I need other people to fill the gap that would surely make me feel most lonely.

I avoid the negative people and focus on what I know is going to make me feel great. Most individuals feel lonely it is part of who are you are but if you let loneliness take over your life you can get all messed-up very fast.

Loneliness can make you insecure and most feared. I did not let loneliness get to me. You can struggle with pain and feel lonely for not having someone stay by your side during the ordeal.

  • How can you heal loneliness?

Once you get rid of those negative thoughts loneliness can disappear easily. Emotions shows you positive or negative thoughts you just to work out what is best for you. When you feel lonely stroke your pet to feel good again.

Once you accept your true emotions from a good experience you light up and enjoy the moment. Eventually, you do form full relationships but with a greater attitude.

I improved learning the new language and found my place in a small community. Most people have lost their connection to family and friends. Irrespective of modern technology there is something amiss in society that has made people feel so lonely.

The lack of communication skills shows poor connection. Communication via social sites has caused the poor communication among people. Most people choose to speak to their friends via Facebook and in person they find themselves o be speechless. In reality, sharing conversations with people personally feels more meaningful than when sharing online.

It is not always fair but in some cases you have no c choice but to live life with such loneliness. The many changes have created many obstacles in many relationships. A lonely life allows you to meditate to avoid all that stress you build up from when feeling lonely. It enriches your lifestyles from that loneliness.

Times have changed and the busy lifestyles have taken them to a different path. You grow into that daily routine and take everything around you for granted. Change is hard for you instead you choose to do what you feel is most comfortable with yourself.

Loneliness affects everyone

Avoid Loneliness

Your behavior falls into that form to make your life satisfied. Communication fails when you don't know what to say in the presence of others. Your lonely time does not allow you to speak.

The time for speaking up makes you speechless like your tongue is tied nothing to say from the so quite days you had. Meditation is enriches your emotions and is most helpful to loneliness.

Create your own mind of situations. Friendships don't always work out or being with a few negative people that can be boring and make one feel even lonelier. Your own way sometimes can work best for you.

It lies in your personality with your own conversations. You can make your life a fulfilled one, as I have created mine over time. Not knowing how to communicate did hold me back from communication and had made me feel lonely or isolated.

After learning a new language I feel so much better to be around people. I can communicate without hassles. If you don't have a language problem then you can solve your problem in a different way. In regards to what is making you feel the actual loneliness.

Understand what is causing you loneliness. You change your routine to make your day exciting and to do different activities. Train yourself as I did to have a plan for each day and see how you feel about each day. It made a difference to me.

I had something new to look forward to and since then the new choices changed the way I lived my daily. I don't always have a schedule, I enjoy doing stuff around the house on the spur of moment. You too can do the same to avoid the lonely feelings from setting into your life.

You can live in your own company and still enjoy you. Be active and observe your beautiful surroundings to know more about your peaceful environment. You will be amazed of how you can get rid of loneliness with a simple way of life.

Look for what makes you happy and free. When you decide to take time-out for yourself and need your very own space that is not loneliness that is your time-out. Loneliness is when you don't choose to live that kind of life. It is not by choice but by what you got to be without a choice.

  • How do you see loneliness in a person?

A lonely person living alone all day for not having much do with herself or himself that can be the unemployed person.

  • For example:

The one who is at home all day can become bored with life. I know of people who don't have interesting activities to be occupied with and their daily activities are not meaningful. They find others who have other interests and tend to disrupt that person’s schedule.

Boredom gets to lonely people and that leaves them feeling anxiety and less active. When lonely you don't feel like trying something new your life feels less active and insecure. You don't want to know about anything else instead your focus is on your lonely life with no good thought.


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    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Thank you very much, jtrader you are very supportive.

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      4 years ago

      Good points. Modern communication tools should be used wisely.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      HappyMikeWritter thank you for sharing your thoughts here and I am glad my hub has inspired you. Remember you can beat loneliness.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi alexadry, if you can cope with your life choices and avoid loneliness for different reasons then you are handling your life quite well. Thank you.

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      4 years ago

      I struggle with loneliness a lot. Reading your hub gave me a new boost to try to reaserch in my head if I am not the one making myself lonely. Thank you so much for such inspiring hub!

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      Adrienne Janet Farricelli 

      4 years ago from USA

      Hubby and I live in a rural area with our dogs and our dog business. We never feel lonely and enjoy it very much. Facebook helps us keep in touch with our relatives and friends. We get our share of social life when we go buy groceries once a month and eat out. My job requires that we stay at home for several weeks at a time, but I enjoy it.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      crazybeanrider so nice to read another comment from you your presence at my hubs is always appreciated. I am glad you are doing well and notlnely. Thank you

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi CrisSp, ''Loneliness just like happiness must come from our inner selves.'' well said thank you

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      Boo McCourt 

      4 years ago from Washington MI

      Another great hub. I think you offer some really good tips on how to deal with loneliness. Having a plan, making each thing you do count. I am learning that myself. having moved to a rural area that I don't like, I am trying to cherish the small things that make me feel good. I think I am doing good, I am not lonely. Thank you for a great hub!

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      4 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      Loneliness just like happiness must come from our inner selves. Been there once and sometimes loneliness would still creep and visit me and when it does, I run away. Literally, run (or fly)! :)

      I like your perspective on this topic and I wish you happiness. Thank you for sharing.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Thank you Shyron I appreciate you sharing your wonderful thoughts here.

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      Shyron E Shenko 

      4 years ago from Texas

      Devika, I like your suggestions for your cure for loneliness. I hope that you have found new friends and that you are not lonely.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi DREAM ON so glad you came by. After my recent break from writing I discovered more on loneliness not only from my experiences but also from the points of views of others. Great comment from you thank you very much.

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      DREAM ON 

      4 years ago

      I love the great range of important topics that you cover. Each one is filled with so much truth and knowledge. Loneliness is one of the worst things that can happen to people. I see it a lot with the elderly and it is awful. Senior citizens have so much to give and share but to often they are forgotten about and left alone to think more thoughts of being alone. I will come back to read this hub many times because I honestly believe many elderly people die of loneliness than of actual illnesses. It is only my belief and no real proof or facts behind it. The you tube video was a great tie in and it makes us all think what friends we have and relationships we have developed over our lifetimes. Enjoy your day.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      AliciaC life is never easy or hard it is how one approaches their choices. In my case I had to work fast to create my life and prevent my lonely time from hurting me thank you.

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      Linda Crampton 

      4 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      I agree with so many points that you have covered in this hub, Devika. Loneliness can lead to a very unhappy life, so your suggestions for dealing with the problem are important. I'm very glad that you are feeling happier about your life in Croatia.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hello D.A.L. ''I could never feel alone in the company of nature.'' Well said. So true about nature and loneliness. I spend my sunny days outdoors and don't feel alone it is such a pleasure to me. Thank you.

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      4 years ago from Lancashire north west England

      How do we define loneliness. If a person needs needs the constant company of others and can not find that company that is sad. If you can spend a lot of time alone, and, as you suggest enjoy the beautiful surroundings and nature that it not loneliness. You can feel alone in a crowd,I could never feel alone in the company of nature. Great article as always which will bring a diverse range of opinions Voted up,useful and interesting

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi dis-cover thank you for the vote up and useful so kind of you to stop by.

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      Nikolic Predrag 

      4 years ago from Serbia, Belgrade

      Like always very interesting topic Devika. Unfortunately the modern lifestyle contributes to loneliness. Voted up as useful!

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi grand old lady thank you very much for your constant support have a lovely day.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi FlourishAnway, thank you for sharing your comment here you are one of my greater supporters and I am so grateful for following you.

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      Mona Sabalones Gonzalez 

      4 years ago from Philippines

      I admire the way you chose to cope with your loneliness. It's true, it helps to give yourself a schedule so that you will have something to look forward to every day. I wish you a fulfilled life in Croatia, and am thankful that you are hubbing and sharing your life from where you are.

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      4 years ago from USA

      I agree with Jo that reaching out to help others is often a good way to help oneself with loneliness. Whether kids, the elderly, the hungry, a neighbor in need, or those who are sick, there are so many people who want and need a helping hand.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      MG Singh thank you very much

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      MG Singh 

      4 years ago from Singapore

      Nice post, but sometimes it can't be helped

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi tobusiness so nice of you to come by here loneliness can be avoided if you make new decisions great comment from you thank you.

      billybuc thank you for stopping so often I appreciate your kind words.

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      Bill Holland 

      4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Been there, done that, and never going back again. :)

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      Jo Alexis-Hagues 

      4 years ago from Lincolnshire, U.K

      Hi Devika, great article on loneliness! I think the best cure for loneliness is to reach out to those in need, It's amazing how helping others can help to focus the mind.

      As always, very interesting topic.


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