Your Destination Is Your Journey
What Is Your Dream Destination?
Most people consciously or subconsciously have a dream destination. This destination may be a physical location like a favorite vacation spot or an achievement that they are working towards such as achieving a specific financial status, educational status, employment status, health status, or even family status.
Of course it's good to have aspirations for bigger and better things in life, but it is also important to make sure that these dreams for the future don't rob you of joy and satisfaction in the present moment.
Life Coach, Elysha Maughan, shared an amazing webinar on overcoming the trap of perfectionism, and one of the key points she made is that your destination is your journey.
What exactly does that mean? It means that every single tiny step along your journey in life is the perfect destination for you in the present moment.
That's right! You've already arrived! Now embrace that thought process and keep celebrating your arrival every day!
- Increase Your Joy and Fulfillment In Life By Making the Most of Life's Lessons
Many people suffer through life's trials instead of finding joy and satisfaction in the journey. What if you could increase your growth and fulfillment in life with a simple shift of perspective?
What Does It Look Like When You Forget That Your Destination is Your Journey?
Now that you know that your destination is your journey, it's important to recognize what it looks like when you forget to believe this simple truth.
Do you ever find yourself thinking, "I'll be happy when...," worrying about how you're going to get from here to your destination, feeling frustrated with your circumstances, or wishing that you could hurry and get through the process and arrive where you want to be (whether it be at a certain location or a certain accomplishment).
Do you feel like you aren't very patient with life's processes, the people around you, or even yourself?
All of these thoughts and feelings are signs that you have forgotten that your destination is your journey.
In contrast, when you have this realization deeply ingrained within you, it is easier to set aside worries and relax in your current situation.
When you believe that your destination is your journey, you give yourself permission to be happy with wherever you are right now.
That doesn't mean that you set all of your goals and dreams aside; it simply means that where you are right now is just as important of a step on your path as the ultimate step to your dream destination.
Why is this important?
It's important, because there's always going to be another dream destination.
Once you accomplish one goal, you will want to move on to another. This is good, because it's how we progress. On the other hand, this means that if arriving at your dream destination is a prerequisite for you to experience joy and satisfaction in life, you will never be satisfied.
Contrasting Perspectives on Destinations
Recently, I had the opportunity to go hiking with some amazing people. We decided on a scenic hike that would lead to a waterfall, but when we arrived at the trail head, a couple people who had been on the hike before recognized that it wasn't where they normally started the hike.
Since we were already there, we decided to do a little bit of exploring with hopes that one of the trails at this trail head would connect us to the waterfall hike. We set off on a trail labeled the "Fantatsic Erratic."
If you've read my other articles, you know that I love to explore the lush and beautiful landscapes of western Washington, and this was a perfect day to do it.
It was one of those beautiful days when you breathe in the fresh air, and it's absolutely invigorating. The salmonberries were ripe, juicy, and delicious. The trees, ferns, and wild flowers flourishing around me were awe inspiring.
As we hiked, I wanted to preserve the magic of the moment and stopped several times to take pictures of my surroundings. In fact, all of the pictures in this article were taken while I was on this hike.
Eventually, the decision was made to take the loop trail back to the car and see if we could find the trail head that went to the waterfall.
After a few failed attempts at finding the correct trail head, we gave up on the waterfall trail, and the discussion in the car turned to the fact that it was a bit disappointing to have set out to see a waterfall and never made it there.
Someone in the car mentioned that "it's about the journey anyway." and I quickly agreed, but it was obvious that not everyone was satisfied with the journey. There was still a definite sense of disappointment for our lack of achieving the goal we set out to achieve.
I'm not saying that I was the only one who enjoyed our hike on the loop trail, but I did get the feeling that I was able to gain more satisfaction from it, because I had approached it with the belief that my destination is the journey.
I enjoyed the magical beauty of each step rather than waiting for a waterfall to wow me.
See The Wonder In Each Step of Your Journey
The photo above is a picture of my foot next to a banana slug (that is pretty impressively large in my opinion). I could have been disgusted by the fact that I was sharing the trail with this slimy creature, but instead I chose to recognize its wonder.
I was in awe of the fact that an undervalued organism like a banana slug could grow to impressive lengths and thrive in its own simple life calling while so many are oblivious to it's existence.
I thought about how each organism on this planet affects all the others. Yes, even the slugs matter (and that means the world definitely needs you!).
Anyway, going back to the point, I could have been disgusted or annoyed with the fact that I had to spend part of my journey with a slimy slug, but choosing not to feel that way made all the difference in that specific moment of my life.
We all experience moments in life that are less than pleasant, but when we adopt the idea that our destination is the journey, we can find satisfaction in these moments just as much as we do in those shining moments of great achievement.
It turns out that in the grand scheme of things, often the moments of our lives that seem insignificant, frustrating, or even painful can be just as important as those moments that others view as grand landmarks.
Live in the moment. Trust that this moment holds everything that you need right now. Relax knowing that this moment is taking you to the next experience that you need to have.
Strive to be the best version of you that you can be in the future, but also recognize that based on your past circumstances, right now you are the best you that you can be in this moment.
Your destination is your journey! Celebrate each step along the way!