When I was twelve, my mom took me to the movies (she and my dad were divorced) and she kept passing out in the line. She had drinking problems and other problems and I was embarassed that she kept falling down. I felt guilty for being embarassed.
When I was babysitting, the little kid wanted to see how eggs cooked on the stove so I showed him (let him stand on a little chair) and when I looked away for a second, he touched the stove and burned his hand.
When I was a kid, a kid was bullying me and threw rocks at my dog and stole my library books. I hired a classmate (when I was in grade 7) to beat the bully up. I said, "I'll pay you five bucks if you beat up Mark" and the kid did it. I got my books back.
I stole a quarter from my grandmother when I was ten and then lied about it until I was caught.
I once slapped my sister on the back so hard it left a hand print.
I was playing chess with someone and they kept winning and I was a bad loser.
I got divorced and felt guilty for divorcing so I gave him the house, all the posessions and payed him alimony for five years or until he sold the marital property which he did after three years. I took my two dogs.
When my mom and dad got divorced, my mom started drinking. She never drank before; she was like the Brady Bunch mom before and then she changed. I never got the old mom back. I will always love my mom though.
With regards to getting divorced and my ex-husband; I don't hate him. He helped me and I helped him. He said, "what are you getting out of this?" when I gave him the alimony and I said, "You helped me when I didn't have anyone"'. We weren't good for each other; it was unheathly but he still helped me when I had nobody. He wasn't all bad and neither was I; but I was unhappy in the marriage. It wasn't healthy.
If I started, there would be no end. I believe in confessing my sins too. I think it's good, it's cathartic, it encourages others to free themselves too, but most of all it's honest. Good for you... and to be honest, Im reading two different books by humorists right now, and your thread here is as interesting as both of their books. I wonder if you could make a hub of it somehow?
Thank you for your comments Beth37. I'll think about how I could make this into a hub. I do believe in confessing too because we all make mistakes and if we confess, we let go of our shame and fear and other people who try to shame us for mistakes, don't have power either. Sometimes mistakes and misjudgments hang over us like an albatross. Shining light on mistakes stops a person from being afraid. I remember a movie I watched, an older movie called "Whirlpool" with Gene Tierney. She was kleptomaniac who hid it from her husband and when she finally told the truth, she was able to get help and she looked so relieved, "I told the truth, I'm not hiding anymore'. The antagonist tried to make her feel ashamed (a hypnotist) and advised her not to tell her husband and he almost blackmailed her and ended up framing her; it's a good movie.
That sounds really good.
I read a hub yesterday on bullying... totally random. It's weird how much that subject came up yesterday. Anyway, it advised not to give ppl too much personal info so they couldn't use it against you.
I can't tell you how many times that's happened to me. I have shared in my hubs my issues with alcoholism and about the choices I made when my life was falling apart. All those have been thrown in my face numerous times, but to be honest, I'd still rather endure the unkind comments than try to pretend Im something Im not. Especially when speaking as a Christian... I want to be honest that Im not a nun... Im just a person with struggles, and in spite of my sin, God still loves me. I think that's a good msg. for ppl to hear. I may not come across looking great, but it shows God's grace and mercy.
I hear you Beth. I only share what I feel comfortable sharing. I'm a Christian too and the world is really stomping on Christians these day. If you make mistakes, they accuse you of not being a real Christian, of being a hypocrite. I think you're brave to share your struggles.
Aren't you kind. It's a fine line for sure. Im a sinner saved by grace, but I'm also transforming, with my goal to be like Jesus. It can be a lifetime of effort, but the harder you try, the more you realize, it's him doing the work on your behalf. We go thru these valleys and we wonder if we'll ever see the sun again, but then... there it is... a glimmer of hope that we haven't fallen beyond his reach. He is so good. It's all about him. Im glad you posted this. It has encouraged me. Thanks.
I believe our strength comes from God. There's lots of people (I've noticed) that like calling people weak. They try to be tough and part of them being tough is proving that others aren't tough. When you've had a rough patch, they rub it in, "I wouldn't have done that" and they puff themselves up. But they are weak too, they just keep their weakness to themselves and shine the light on the weakness of others. When people did this to me, I'd get sucked into trying to prove myself and then I thought, "You're right, I am weak and that's why I rely on God who is all powerful". Thanks for your comments
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