What is the best way to disciplie a child that has bad behavior?

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   wisdom25posted 12 years ago

   What is the best way to disciplie a child that has bad behavior?

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   TIMETRAVELER2posted 12 years ago

   There are many ways of disciplining a poorly behaved child, and the level of discipline should depend on just how bad the behavior is.
   
   However, prior to meting out discipline, parents should ask themselves what they are doing that can be causing the poor behavior.
   
   For example, many children misbehave because their parents don't give them enough structure or attention.
   
   Children are not born wanting to misbehave, so care should be taken to be fair when it comes to disciplining them.

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   jpesch1posted 12 years ago

   There are so many books about parenting that you know it's not easy.  Many people need help to deal with bad behavior.  The best books that I have found are:
   
   1) How To Talk So Kids Will Listen and
   2) Love and Logic (anything)
   
   Both of these resources helped me change from a screaming parent to a listening and communicating parent.  It was like a light switch being turned on in how it calmed down the bad behavior.  Good luck to you.  Parenting is wonderfully rewarding when the behavior is brought under control.  The books will give you instant suggestions.

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   jenniferlynn78posted 12 years ago

   I believe in communication with a child and getting to the bottom of the behaviour. Displine the child but explain why; such as consequences for bad behaviour results in discipline because they did wrong. If the child is old enough have them write a certain number of times what they said or did and then reverse the discipline. Heres a little example: Child says, " I hate you..this sucks." Have them write their acts/ words or behaviour for x amount of times of what they said or did and then reverse it: "I Love You...this does not suck." Then have them write that for the same x amount of times. It works! My child did this to me and then when I had him write it...he looked at me confused and said but mommy this isn't true and I said you said it. Then after he said, "Mommy, I don't feel that way at all and I did not like writing it, it was mean that I said  that and I Love You!
   
   Of course real bad behaviour would require a pyschiatric Doctor. You could always take away something such as computer time or tv time something they really like and then say, "What do you prefer to your child no computer or no tv?" and when they give you their answer do the opposite! It does work with some children.

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   danagirl28posted 12 years ago

   I agree with a couple of the answers here.  As a mom and a former therapist, I would have to say that you need to know why the behavior is occurring.  A lot of times it's not good to ask a kid "why" because they don't always know the answer and it may distract from addressing the situation.  However, you should always look at your child's behavior and ask YOURSELF why you think it's occurring.  Often, you'll see that it's because your child is either scared / anxious or frustrated.  In these cases, you can't just issue discipline, because the behavior will keep occurring every time the situation comes up again.  You have to teach your child another way to respond to the situation so he or she doesn't feel threatened by it and act out. 
   Without knowing exactly what the behavior is, I can't tell you much more than that.  Discipline is definitely good, but remember that discipline actually teaches something.  Punishment simply causes physical or mental discomfort.  Make sure you know which one you're using.

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      lisasuniquevoiceposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Wisdom25,
      
      The only way to deal with a child with questionable behavior is to place them in a time out chair where they can't do anything but think about  what they did. The key to this is to have the child tell you why he's been sitting there .

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   algarveviewposted 12 years ago

   Well, there are many ways to discipline a child for bad behaviour, the big question for me is which is the best considering each child. I've learned from my twins that you can't apply the same method of discipline to every child, what has an effect on one may not have on another and sometimes it even makes it worse. So, first, consider the child, only then think of the discipline... For instance, if I time out my daughter, she will just ignore me, but if I speak with her, tell her it was wrong what she did, make her understand, she comes running, apologizes and chances are she will have learned something, if I do that with my boy, he will just laugh straight to my face...

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