How to quit smoking?

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   Amariahposted 11 years ago

   Hello, i want to know how to quit smoking because i have to tell it to my ex. i tried a lot with several ways to make him quit it but not succeed. i brought many products that can make him to quit it, also i told him to think brief about it that it is not good for you health and for me leave this bad habit and it pretty worked he left smoking almost 2 months but after that he started again. but with less quantity 5 to 6 cigarettes in a day before that he was a chain smoker but now he only smoke 5 to 6 but he wants to quit it and me too, so if any one can help me please tell me and please don't tell me to bring kinds of product because i am stuck out of this.

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      wildernessposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      You can tell him how to quit all you want to, but it isn't going to accomplish a thing.  Only when he is ready to quit will he do so and all the pushing in the world will only irritate him.
      
      He may tell you he wants to quit, but anyone smoking just a half dozen cigarettes per day, and that after quitting for 2 months, is not ready to quit.  Trust me on this one - I quit last year after 30+ years of my wife complaining, pushing and forever coming up with reasons to do so.  It happened only when I was ready to do so, not when she thought I should.

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      EncephaloiDeadposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I've never been a smoker, but I think the first step would be to stop buying cigarettes. The rest should just take care of itself.

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         wildernessposted 11 years agoin reply to this

         Nope - then you just bum one from anyone you see with a pack in their pocket.  Or with a lighter, or smoking.

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            EncephaloiDeadposted 11 years agoin reply to this

            I would suspect that would go on for only so long before those people started refusing.

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               wildernessposted 11 years agoin reply to this

               It does.  And at that point a few begin "salvaging" butts from wherever they find them; the rest have given up already and bought some.
               
               Now, could you make it impossible to buy any for months at a time (a deserted island, maybe?) then the process will certainly work.

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                  EncephaloiDeadposted 11 years agoin reply to this

                  You might have a great business idea there.

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                     wildernessposted 11 years agoin reply to this

                     Saw a Twilight Zone episode once - the smoker's spouse was slowly dismembered, a little with each cigarette.  I tell you, some smokers would give up a finger joint for a cigarette, but one from their spouse?  Unlikely for most people.
                     
                     Of course, as a business idea, you need a spouse that did NOT agree and that might make it a little tough.  As would getting rid of the body parts - hands and fingers found in the city dump might raise an eyebrow or two.

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      gitachudposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      The fact that he has reduced the intake is a good sign. Going from a chain smoker to 5 cigarettes a day is impressive. The next target should be four then three and by the time he is smoking one cigarette a day, he will be well on his way to completely quitting. Progressive reduction is better than shock therapy especially for chain smokers.
      The most effective weapon against nicotine addiction is the brain, so the decision has to come from the concerned party.

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      Susana Sposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      You won't be able to make someone else stop, but if *you* want to, I recommend reading Allen Carr's Easy Way to Stop Smoking. I read it twice and stopped... and yes it was easy! It's been a year now and I feel very happy and much, much healthier!

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      Writer Chuckposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      The power to quit is in his own thought process.  First he must want to quit. Then he must develop an action plan.  When the human body is faced with the desire to light up, he must realize that the desire will only have power for a short time, maybe 30 seconds.  when this desire strikes he must think of something else, if he does the desire will be diminished.  He must really want to quit. The habit is both chemical and oral. Hard candy will help him with the oral and it will take his mind off of his desire.  No matter what people say cigarettes are one of the hardest habits to quit.
      
      Good luck,
      
      Chuck

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   stephnomicsposted 11 years ago

   I stopped smoking over 12 yrs ago,What help me was praying to (God first);asking him to take the taste from me ;helping me to cope with cravings,with the help of my determination and my patches, the battle was won.I smoked over 20 yrs. If I did It so can your boyfriend.After my prayer the lord came to me about 5 months later and (HE Said Today Is The Day).I Got up and put on the patch ,no Question Ask,It Worked.

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   Halcyoneposted 11 years ago

   I just quit smoking, and know that unless I really wanted to quit - and was ready to quit, I would be back to smoking by now.  He has to be ready and not want to smoke anymore, that is only something he can do and no amount of talking to him and telling him its bad for his health will help - in fact, it may only make things worse because he will try to quit and then go through cravings and then resent YOU for it.

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   kj forceposted 11 years ago

   Smoking is a bad habit... nicotine is an addiction, that the body craves...To STOP has to be an " I WANT TO "
   otherwise it can be a no win situation.
   There can be resentment if you initiate ultimatums .I know because I am married to a smoker...I refuse to allow him to smoke in the house or near any entrances, even set up a special isolated area  away from the house... however, the smell on his clothes permeates the air when he enters the house. The odor also expels through the skin..
   Guess this is partly why he is your EX ?
   Remember the old saying " you can lead a horse to water, buy you can't make him drink "...I have been trying for over 45 years to no avail and 90% of the time leads to an argument/attitude on his part...so I just stick by my guns and refuse to be around him when he is smoking...
   Do yourself a favor and just walk away...one day he just might decide on his own to quit...or run out of money.
   Good Luck...

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   JoeYoung22posted 11 years ago

   I quit seventeen years ago - cold turkey save for some Jolly Ranchers. I was quite a heavy smoker, and I'd had several failed attempts before, but the big difference when I finally freed myself was that I wholeheartedly believed that I wanted to quit. That was the key that got me out of the prison, because the "suck it and see" approach is doomed to fail. It takes commitment.
   
   Even though I enjoyed smoking, I look back on those days and ask myself what on earth I was doing, spending a fortune, destroying my health and stinking out my apartment.
   
   Nothing in the world would ever get me back on them now.

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