since the death of my fiancee, I cannot bear a man to touch me. Will this change do you think?
I am cherokee and we are very stoic in our devotion
Time is the best healer and it is only in time that you will realise by yourself whether this will change or not. The memories of and feelings towards your fiancee will clearly be very strong so you can't expect to let someone else in just yet. The good thing is that you can move at your own pace and then you can make the decision as to whether circumstances have changed whenever you feel like your ready.
Hi there, I think this will and certainly can change, but you will have to address what the underlying issue is really about. You have obviously experienced a very sad and touching time losing someone you had decided to spend your life with and it is understandable you will have mixed feelings and difficulty being at ease experiencing intimate relations with someone else. It will be easier if you communicate your views with your new partner and take things slowly until you feel comfortable. Bear in mind it is always up to you whether you engage intimately or not and allow yourself time to really decide it is what you want and are ready to do. You will know when the time is right and when the person is someone you trust and want to be touched by. Do what you really feel is right in the moment.
time heals everything, just do not think about it now, go out side meet with other people, make some friends, and do not forget to pray for you and for them whom you love.
After some days/months/years - when you feel your wound is healed and you have set your mind, then think about this.
I'm so sorry about the death of your fiancee. Will the fact that you now cannot bear another man to touch you change? I can't predict the future only I will say in time you may be able to let go while keeping him in your heart. If it was the other way around would you want him to live in your memory only? And would he want you to do that? Dont feel guilty to let go. Life is for the living. I
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