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How do you handle the death of a pet that was your best friend?

  1. Allen Williams profile image81
    Allen Williamsposted 6 years ago

    How do you handle the death of a pet that was your best friend?

    Today I lost my best friend.  She was 15+ years old and the best pet that I could ever hope for.  I was never good at handling death yet I lost so many loved ones, people and animals in my life that I am surprised I have anyone left.  It isn't easy but I just wonder how other people manage to get through it.  I always seem to have a very hard time getting past death.


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    Arlene V. Pomaposted 6 years ago

    I am sorry, Allen.  Having a cat for 15+ years shows how much you loved her.  I don't do well with cats because they leave me and find another home.  I have dogs.  Each one had a different personality, but when they passed, I always cried.  For weeks, anything reminding me of my dog would make me cry.  Didn't matter where I was.  I know a lot of people who have a beloved animal, and after the animal died, they never opened their hearts to another dog or cat.  There are so many animals who could use a forever home.  You will never forget, but at the same time, you have shown yourself you can love.  I mourned the death of my best friends.  To honor them, I adopted a dog, but not as a replacement for the one I lost.  It would be unfair to adopt a dog or cat and expect it to replace the animal you lost.  I have two rescue dogs right now.  They are, whether in life or in death, precious to me.

  3. Allen Williams profile image81
    Allen Williamsposted 6 years ago

    Thanks Arlene for your comments.  I had pets all my life since I was 4 years old.  In the last few years I just lost the last 2 dogs that I had and they both died at age 16 years old.  This little cat was the last pet I had and she was just as loyal and loving as any dog I ever had.  I enjoyed having all the dogs and cats over the years but I don't know if I want to go through this again.  It just doesn't seem to get easier.

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    FloraBreenRobisonposted 6 years ago

    I had nine years between cats because I  had trouble getting over the death of my cat. I have a cat who is old and was old when I adopted her at the shelter.  she is my best friend and my soul mate. I handle death badly.  I am sorry you lost your best friend. I will be devastated when Amy dies, even though I know she won't be around  for years. My life revolves around her.

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    Breen Bergstromeposted 6 years ago

    I can see by the expression on her face and the look in her eyes, that she was intensely charismatic.  In our lives we hopefully will share time with special individuals, as you have with this darling little miss.
    I couldn't bear to mourn my dear Katie's death..I pretended she was living somewhere else for the time being.  I put all her things away so I couldn't see them, photos and toys.  I needed time to heal, and no images to bring me back to reality and the sadness.    It actually sort of worked.
    Of course you must save another furry beast...a cat this very minute is waiting for someone like you to love and be loved by.  You have so much to offer a pet.
    What a face.  I can't take my eyes off her.  It looks as though if she were able, she could write a book!
    Don't go too long without someone else to share your home.  She won't mind.  It would be a tribute to this sweet darling if you found someone soon.
    Try not to suffer too much..a little, but not too much.