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Should I take sleeping pills so that I can sleep in the same bed as my fiancee?

  1. Anaya M. Baker profile image84
    Anaya M. Bakerposted 6 years ago

    Should I take sleeping pills so that I can sleep in the same bed as my fiancee?

    My doctor prescribed me sleeping pills because I can't stay asleep more than a few hours. But then I realized I sleep fine if don't sleep next to my fiancee who snores and tosses and turns. Should I take the pills so that we can sleep together, or just sleep on the couch drug-free?

  2. icciev profile image60
    iccievposted 6 years ago

    I think you should try sleeping on the couch you don't want to get used to the cimical pills, for me I don't take pills unless its top most urgent to get those...

  3. mbwalz profile image89
    mbwalzposted 6 years ago

    I think this is more of a problem of how you and your fiance interact than how you get to sleep. Once you get married, you will have to talk about lots of things together. Many pleasant and many not. But if you can't honestly talk about your problem with his sleeping style affecting yours, than the problem is communication - not your need for pills.

    It's an important thing to talk to him about for many reasons. If he doesn't listen to you or minimizes your problem, then you've learned some very important information with which you can enter couples counseling or make other decisions.

    Also, his restless sleeping and snoring may indicate a health problem which needs to be investigated. And surely if you can't sleep, you will have health problems too. Again, how you are able to talk about this and the attitude taken by both of you can be valuable information before you join your lives together for eternity. Your health should be as important to him as his is to you.

    Good luck!!

  4. Simone Smith profile image96
    Simone Smithposted 6 years ago

    I agree with mbwaltz, and also want to throw in a good word for separate bedrooms! Just because you and your fiancee might sleep separately a lot of the time doesn't mean it has to be all the time, and with more rest and freedom from sleeping pills, I bet you would be happier and better able to enjoy your relationship.

  5. Rob Winters profile image86
    Rob Wintersposted 6 years ago

    You really shouldn't be relying on medication when you know the cause of your sleep disturbance can be otherwise resolved. People can become dependent on sleep medication and you also reduce it's efficacy over time when perhaps you'll require or benefit from it for other reasons in the future. Other than a few exceptions the use of medication should only be viewed as a temporary fix and never a permanent solution.You also risk creating additional problems with your own sleeping patterns that don't currently exist.

    I would encourage your partner to address his snoring and if possible get a larger bed. In the meantime you could try earplugs and if necessary sleep in another bed or room till you can better resolve the situation - good luck, i know it's frustrating to have your sleep disturbed on a regular basis particulaly by a loved one.

  6. arksys profile image91
    arksysposted 6 years ago

    you need to sleep drug free ... no doubt about it ... but see if you can get something done for his snoring. there is normally a small procedure that eliminates it.

  7. wellspoken profile image60
    wellspokenposted 6 years ago

    It depends on what is important to you. Is it more important for you to be drug free and fall asleep and stay asleep naturally or is it most important for you to lay next to your fiancee. I have the same issue that you have with my fiancee so here are some of the ways I cope. I found out that I have sleeping issues so I was taking prescribed meds but I stopped that because I didnt want to become dependent sometimes I take natural supplements like valerian root to help me sleep. Then we all have smart phones with apps now well they have this app that is sleeping sounds or music and I will play this music out loud and it soothes my mind from racing and then I fall asleep. It means so much to me to lay next to my fiance at night because I feel safe with him in the bed and it just put me at ease so if he starts snooring too loud and I cant get him to quiet down by turning then I put on the music I told you about with headphones and lay next to him and I cant hear a thing. Good luck. This seems to be an issue that causes alot of bedrooms to be divided and the madness needs to end. Best Wishes

  8. JenJen0703 profile image81
    JenJen0703posted 6 years ago

    I am all for having separate bedrooms from your partner.  I have been single and independent for a long time, and sometimes it is nice to snuggle with your partner and fall asleep; however, there are other times when I want to sleep alone.  I think couples having their own bedrooms will "keep the spice" in their relationships.  They can pick and choose when they want to go "spend the night" with their significant other.  They also have private space to be themselves and a place to go when things are stressful.  Taking drugs to sleep is never a good idea.  Drug addictions always start somewhere, so it is best to stay away from drugs altogether.  If sleeping alone is not possible, then consider daily exercise in the afternoon, like running or aerobics.  You'd be surprised at how tired you would be at bedtime.  Also, consider rolling and elbowing back every time he gets you in his sleep.  He'll start to understand what it's like to get woke up  smile

  9. msorensson profile image72
    msorenssonposted 5 years ago