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Do you find yourself fated to doing things you tell yourself not to? Not big, L

  1. Windclimber profile image81
    Windclimberposted 6 years ago

    Do you find yourself fated to doing things you tell yourself not to?  Not big, Life things, just

    stupid little things like ALWAYS dropping at least one item on the floor when moving laundry from the dryer to the table?  Why do we do these things, sometimes even as we're mentally warning ourselves not to?

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    stessilyposted 6 years ago

    One thing always manages to drop on the floor when I'm unloading the dryer, no matter how much care I think that I'm taking. Energy goes where attention flows, so perhaps that's why it happens. Somewhere in my unconscious I think that I expect it to happen, and so it does. Or is that perhaps just part of the process of unloading the dryer? Would it help if I reduced how much I put in the dryer? I think that I have tried that and still managed to drop at least one item.

  3. quildon profile image79
    quildonposted 6 years ago

    I thought I was the only one. It's usually a sock or stockings. I don't think it has to do with lack of attention or anything like that. It's just that I have too many things in my hand and the smallest items come loose.

  4. Joy.joy.joy profile image81
    Joy.joy.joyposted 6 years ago

    this will inevitably happen, so why bother trying not to let it happen? Try to let the moment pass without judgement of right or wrong either way. I think this illustration can be applied to everything in life. How much easier is it dealing with children, for example, when we have completely open expectations. The more we place expectations the more we are not living in the present.  Trust that you are always doing 'the next right thing'. Most of us carry shame that's been embedded from childhood and we don't even know it. If you can assure yourself that your heart is in the right place, you don't have to constantly needle yourself to get things right and dwell on things that 'go wrong'. My favorite ancient Japanese proverb applies here: snow falls, each flake in its appropriate place.

    thanks for your topic/question.

  5. Windclimber profile image81
    Windclimberposted 6 years ago

    joy.joy.joy, Thank you for your answer.  I really like the imagery of the Japanese proverb about snowflakes falling to their appropriate place.

    What I'm looking for are answers on a much smaller scope.  Dropping the laundry is one example; another is when you tell yourself, "Be careful with this.  It's fragile." and then two seconds later you break it.  It seems odd that for small, simple tasks I do exactly what I tell myself not to do.  Is this common?