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Are you more worried about doing things right, or doing the right things?

  1. mayank147 profile image79
    mayank147posted 4 years ago

    Are you more worried about doing things right, or doing the right things?

    Now a days there is a very common thing which is called compromise but some peoples worried about the thing they do and some peoples do the right thing with lots of hard work.........


  2. Emanate Presence profile image75
    Emanate Presenceposted 4 years ago

    Dear mayank147,

    Worry is never useful. Neither, in my worldview, is there a 'right thing.'

    There is nothing 'wrong' with your question, yet there are other ways of looking at it.

    As a Christian fundamentalist, I had a worldview of black and white, right and wrong.

    That changed. Longer story.

    Now, I enjoy Being in the midst of Doing. It is not What I am doing, but How I am doing it. Doing, with a quality of attention and presence, is the way I choose.

    Generally, being present and feeling who I am, not getting lost in the outer stimuli of the world, is more essential than the What of what I am doing.

    I prefer language that integrates, that considers the whole, rather than language that pits one against the other. So rather than say 'right thing', placing false importance on a subjective value, I ask, 'What is the way that is most useful in the whole picture, for the advancement or evolution of people and the planet?'

    Even responding to HubPages questions sometimes feels 'not the right thing' for me, that is, it is not useful. That is such as when I start trying to make a point. Points are made by the ego. Giving in to the behaviors of the ego is not useful for advancement, for personal development. Or I may write something out of emotional reaction. Then, it can be useful to me to see it and correct it in myself. It was not 'wrong', but off-course. And the learning is in seeing it neutrally, without self-judgment, and resolving to be more aware the next time.

    Hard work is to me a false value. Here is a true story. Kati and I started a position as caregivers in a home for elderly people in San Diego. The owner, a man from Eastern Europe, told us about working for an employer in NYC who came from a hard-nosed tradition. Our employer's employer expected him to carry a piano up a flight of stairs by himself. I could see by the strain in his face that it was still a painful memory. He injured himself while fulfilling the demand, and had some pride in himself for doing so, but the underlying pain I felt in him was that his boss had no empathy, no understanding or caring for him. His work ethic had made him a prisoner of a sick system. I would prefer to see people feel their self worth and stand up for a balanced view.

    Does this make any sense to you?

    1. Emanate Presence profile image75
      Emanate Presenceposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Seeing answers below, I add that at the same employer above we were told to do things  we didn't feel well with. Not dualistic 'wrong', but disharmonious. Unnatural in our eyes. We stood up for the residents, for what some would say was 'right.'

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    sheilamyersposted 4 years ago

    For me, the answer is both. I don't think the two can be separated - at least not for me. I feel compelled to do the right things, whether that's scheduling the work which needs to be done (the most important first) or morally (should I be doing something in the first place). Once I make the decision to do something, I want to do it the right way. I want the job done right the first time and, morally, I won't try to accomplish the task in a way which is wrong according to my belief system.

    1. Laura Schneider profile image92
      Laura Schneiderposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Oh, sheilamyers, if only there were more people in the world like you: superheroes, in my mind: people of quality who enrich the world. Cheers!

  4. BlissfulWriter profile image64
    BlissfulWriterposted 4 years ago

    It is always better to do the right thing.  The intention is the what matters.   Whether you do the task perfectly or not is of little concern as long as you try your best.

    It is better to do the right thing and not get it perfect, than to do the wrong thing perfectly.  You can quote me on that.

    1. Laura Schneider profile image92
      Laura Schneiderposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      BlissfulWriter, I respectfully disagree with the part of your statement, "It is better to do the right thing and not get it perfect." To say "I tried" is to say "I failed" in many real-world cases. The Shuttle Challenger is one macabre example.

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    JThomp42posted 4 years ago

    I would say both. There is an old saying "There is never enough time to do something right, but there is always enough time to fix what has been done wrong."

    1. Laura Schneider profile image92
      Laura Schneiderposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Haha! Classic, J.T. (And we know THAT saying is always right. :-) )

  6. AMAZING THINKER profile image60
    AMAZING THINKERposted 4 years ago

    Doing the right things.
    Everyone does mistakes, we learn from our mistakes, if you worry about making mistakes you will never learn.
    Do the right things and try giving your best effort at everything.
    If your problem has a solution you don't have to worry about it, if your problem does not have a solution worrying isn't going to help.

  7. Lisa HW profile image71
    Lisa HWposted 4 years ago

    I always aim to do things, but I also - and without a lot of effort or struggle about what's "right or wrong" - do the right thing.  Other people who don't know all the not-so-obvious factors that go into my choices when it comes to doing what is right may not see why, or even that, my choice is a matter of doing the right thing.  (Or, as I think of ithem when I've been judged by someone who thinks he knows better what's right, or what's right for me, than I do; "people who don't know their bottoms from their elbows when it comes to what is right for me, for my family and/or in my own situation.   LOL  )

    In other words, I am to do things right and most of the time I've always aimed to do the right thing. 

    The only real problem I've run into with doing the right thing has been when I've made a choice based on the information I have available at the time, and either later discovered more information; or else had the circumstances change and as a result amount to my earlier efforts to do the right thing turn out not to have been the right thing after all.

    I really think most people (who haven't been damaged to the point where they're no longer "normal people")  try very much to always do the right thing.  Being able to do things right can be a little more of a challenge for a lot of people.

    I should add, though, that my measure of "right" is always about my own inner compass, and only frequently about a set of rules that a lot of people learn to follow blindly and yet see in black-and-white,  and without regard for their own inner compass.

  8. Laura Schneider profile image92
    Laura Schneiderposted 4 years ago

    Good question! Well, I trust myself enough to know what's the right thing to do and that I want to do it the right way, so I'm more focused on doing things right no matter how hard it may be to manage or how much extra time it might take.

    Now, if we're talking about an assignment or something that has a deadline, meeting that deadline also counts as "doing the right thing"; so, for example, I wouldn't turn in an assignment late but carefully edited 3 times over (for example) or that would be a failure to compromise between the two.

    The "right" thing might be following a law of the land (Federal or State), a style guide, an ethical or moral mandate, etc.

    Doing the right thing at the right time--that's what I'm all about. So, at this time I'd like to confess that I'm often 3 minutes late for the deadline--putting the finishing touches on things, you know. (As long as that few minutes isn't ultra-critical for some reason, that is.)

  9. lburmaster profile image84
    lburmasterposted 4 years ago

    Worried about doing things right. Which is sad. I need to focus on doing the right things before the project even begins.

    1. Laura Schneider profile image92
      Laura Schneiderposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      That's not sad. In some contexts, the military for example or school, you are told exactly what you must do and you only need to execute your orders to the best of your abilities. Ditto in most jobs: the boss is always right about what to do. Cheers!

  10. LeslieOutlaw profile image75
    LeslieOutlawposted 4 years ago

    Doing the right thing. I have two kids and with them in my life, doing the right thing is more important than ever. I want to set a good example for them and inspire them to "do the right thing" in return.

  11. Abby Campbell profile image94
    Abby Campbellposted 4 years ago

    I don't really about anything but getting the things done that I need to get done. I have very strong convictions in life, with the things I do and how I do them. When I do them, it just comes naturally. To me, they are the "right" things to do. Though others may not always agree, I can't be worried about what they think about it. I will never be able to please everyone. If I do it one way, someone may not agree. If I do it another way, someone else may not agree. Therefore, I go on my on instincts.

    1. Laura Schneider profile image92
      Laura Schneiderposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Excellent answer, Abby Campbell! You are SO right on every count. Thanks for commenting practically--we sometimes get very philosophical (at least I do).

  12. Toytasting profile image68
    Toytastingposted 4 years ago

    Great question ! Well, my answer for this would be "doing the things right". The concept of "Doing the right things" is relative. Some things may be right for but not for you. So, one should make sure that whatever they do, should be done in a right manner.

  13. Solaiman Abir profile image54
    Solaiman Abirposted 4 years ago

    it would be my deepest wish to do everything right... and give it a thought hundred times... i believ that if a person has the patients to give the work a thought and also take suggestions when he is thinking... he will do almost every work right.. so the main thing is to think the the way through by taking much time and to have various suggestions from the possible or from such experts on that work.. thank you..

  14. Penny G profile image71
    Penny Gposted 3 years ago

    Me, I'm worried about doing the right things the right way at the right time for the right reasons.

  15. chaitanyasaivb profile image75
    chaitanyasaivbposted 3 years ago

    Sometimes, we have to compromise, understanding the situations. Even, we will find some people, worrying about about the things, they were doing. They will start a work, with lot of interest, But, as far as it goes on, this interest will goes off, and they will start worrying, whether, they were doing it in a right way or not.
              The second one, People, who believes in hard work, always tries to give their best, to do right things. It may not be an easy task, to do right, all the time. But, Hard work never fails. Worrying about the things, which we have done in the past is worthless. Because, a second missed, may not come, how hard we tried.