How old were you when you first experienced the death of a close family member o

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   Sherry Hewinsposted 12 years ago

   How old were you when you first experienced the death of a close family member or friend?

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   duffsmomposted 12 years ago

   My father died when I was 8, and my mom died of cancer when I was 15.

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      Sherry Hewinsposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I'm so sorry duffsmom. I know how hard it is because my dad died when I was 6. Adults think kids don't understand as much or grieve as deeply, but I know it isn't true.

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   Kennedi Brownposted 12 years ago

   I actually haven't. Everyone in my life who has died has been a distant relative, and I'm 19 years old, so I know that when the first close death of my life happens it'll hit me pretty hard. I worry about it all the time.

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      Sherry Hewinsposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I think you're pretty lucky Kennedi, all of my kids lost close friends in high school, mostly car accidents. It's never easy.

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   glmclendonposted 12 years ago

   My father died on my birthday number six. there has been some bad days since then.

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      Sherry Hewinsposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I know what you mean glmclendon. It really affects the rest of your life. That's a hard blow at such a tender age. I'm so sorry for your loss.

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   LaThingposted 12 years ago

   I was 8 when I saw my uncle have a heart attack and die right in front of me and my cousin. I have never forgotten that moment, and the feeling of lost!

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      Sherry Hewinsposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I can see how that's an image that would never leave you. I'm so sorry you had to experience that LaThing.

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   algarveviewposted 12 years ago

   My dad died when I was 6 years old and it changed me completely... If you want check out my hub on that... I really needed to write about it, so here is what I wrote: http://algarveview.hubpages.com/hub/Los … as-a-child

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      Sherry Hewinsposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      It seems most of the people who are moved to answer this question have lost a parent at an early age. It is truly a life-changing experience. I'm so sorry.

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   bushraismailposted 12 years ago

   I was 5 when I woke up to go to school one day, My mother said that my 5 year old cousin had passed away. We were not close because he was paralysed from birth. Some people say that it was the first of its kind in Sri Lanka (my country) My father tried so much to get the deceased out of the hospital. They wanted to have him for a postmortem.
   
   I remember seeing him lying on the bed. And his mother crying silently in her room.
   
   What i remebr most of him is him seated in his specially made wooden chair in the back yard. He never stopped smiling and you could see his small white teeth.
   
   This is the first I remember but not the most painful.

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      Sherry Hewinsposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for answering my question. Losing a peer like a cousin is hard on a child, even if the relationship is not close.

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   TeacherCaroposted 12 years ago

   My grandma died when I was young and I miss her so much but I think the worst of all was last year when my cousin of 26 died. I am very sad for that, not just because he was so young to die, but he committed suicide and we couldn't help him before.

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      Sherry Hewinsposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you for your response TeacherCaro. I'm so sorry about your cousin. Suicide does cause a special kind of pain, it seems so avoidable.

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   traslochimilanoposted 12 years ago

   My brother in law died when i was 15 and my grandmother died due to cancer when i was 23. I have never forget that moment. They was very bad days.....

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      Sherry Hewinsposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      It sounds like your brother in law died unexpectedly, I think that's more shocking to those left behind. I recently lost a friend to cancer, even though we knew it was coming and was an end to her suffering it was very hard. Sorry for your losses.

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    oceansiderposted 12 years ago

    I was 21 when my grandpa passed away.  He and I were so close that it broke my heart when he died.  My dad sat down with me and hugged me when he told me because he knew how hard it would be for me.  My grandpa loved me so much and he always showed it.  I used to love going to spend time with him and my grandma.
    They were the best!!

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       Sherry Hewinsposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       You were so lucky to have your grandpa in your life while you were growing up. The death of someone you love is hard at any age, but at least you have lots of good memories of him. You must miss him terribly. Sorry for your loss.

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