"I'm Sorry" Are those words hard for you to say?

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   purpleangel47posted 14 years ago

   I'm part of a family full of people who don't say I'm sorry. I had to actually learn how to say those words. My mother never said I'm sorry to me for some of the hurtful things she said and did.
   Have you ever had moments with family or friends where you couldn't utter those two words? Why?

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      woolman60posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I have been in that situation, and saying sorry was easy, it was meaning it from my heart, that was truly the hardest thing to do.

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      pylos26posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Yep,cus it ain't the way you was raised.

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         woolman60posted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Was not the way I was raised , the reason it was so hard to say sorry was because this family member was the type who was always right never wrong and I said sorry to make peace with them, other then that I do not have a problem with saying sorry, when I know I should.

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         purpleangel47posted 14 years agoin reply to this

         .... very frustrating. I learned to say I'm sorry if I need to because I didn't want to go through life being that disconnected.

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      leebertteaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      It's a lot easier to say then it is to be sincere in the sentiment.

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   Rafiniposted 14 years ago

   It's not as hard now as it used to be...

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      tobey100posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Same here Rafini.  Once I learned to fake sincereity it was a breeze.  I apologize now for things I didn't have anything to do with.  Sorry about that oil spill folks.

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         Rafiniposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         hhmm, I wasn't referring to a sympathetic apology....I was referring to the real deal, and even more so in person.  I now find I have an easier time apologizing to my boys than I've ever had in my life - to anyone for anything. 
         
         But, apologies are still a bit difficult.  Not because I don't feel I should have to, because there are many times I do feel I should, but for the simple reason I wasn't taught to apologize when I was a child.  So, in other words, I'm still learning how to apologize.

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   Originposted 14 years ago

   I don't have issues saying sorry, if there is a reason to say it. Some people I know almost never say it, and I've known another person who says it for everything.

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   habeeposted 14 years ago

   This has never been hard for me to say. I know some people have a problem with it, but I've never understood why.

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      Originposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      One of my friends is very headstrong, and he always has to be right about everything. He's one of them that I know that doesn't say it very often, because that would mean that he could potentially be wrong about something.

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         purpleangel47posted 14 years agoin reply to this

         You know Origin ... I get the feeling that was my Mother's issue... very frustrating because there were times I KNEW she was wrong and she would find a way to point that finger at me. I felt like I was completely nuts for most of my teen years.

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   truewho??posted 14 years ago

   maybe  well im a kid it is hard to say i never said it once ok i did only said it once to a friend

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   kimberlyslyricsposted 14 years ago

   For me, it isn't about saying your sorry as much as changing your behavior and showing you are sorry.  If that made any sense? :

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      purpleangel47posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Makes perfect sense to me. Words without action don't mean anything.

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         SomewayOuttaHereposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         i agree - words and action.....i pay more attention to action these days because words are just too easy to flow for some...

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      Rafiniposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      makes absolute sense to me - in fact, it's how I 'apologized' for a long time during my life.  Showing I was sorry rather than saying it (not so sure about changing the behavior...but definitely doing something nice for the person I should have been apologizing to.)

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   blondepoetposted 14 years ago

   I have learned I am sorry if I do not say sorry.
   Sometimes you don't get a second chance.

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      purpleangel47posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Well said blondepoet.

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   Kathryn LJposted 14 years ago

   I loath it when people apologise for their bad behaviour and then suggest you are in the wrong for not accepting the apology, (which is easily said but far harder to do.)  Only time proves whether someone is 'sorry'.  In some ways, it's worse than the people who won't apologise because they don't want to admit they are wrong, it is some how more honest, even though it is hurtful.  Some people think that they can do whatever they want and then just say 'sorry'.  Being sorry, that's the thing!

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   calicoasterposted 14 years ago

   Sometimes it is tough to say...coz of which i wrote a poem long time back...apologizing for what i said... Here it is:
   
   
   
   "I am Sorry"
   ..And I really mean it...
   
   Just "three" words,
   Can't change what I said unwillingly,
   
   I can only try to heal,
   Deep from my soul,
   
   I meant no harm,
   Deep from my heart that conveys an apology...
   
   It hurts like hell,
   to hurt those who love me,
   
   I pray for the best of all,
   even if you don't believe me,
   
   I still burn....Please forgive me!!

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    Greek Oneposted 14 years ago

    The hardest words for me to say are "I can't have sexual relations with you because i am married, so please stop rubbing that"

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       LeanManposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       You never said that to me last night Greek....

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          Greek Oneposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          business is different

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             LeanManposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             Are morals that cheap to be bought???

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                Greek Oneposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                wasnt morals that were for sale!

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                   LeanManposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                   for sale or "on sale".......

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                      Greek Oneposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                      hosale

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                         SomewayOuttaHereposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                         ooohhh!..so .that was you I saw on the corner - struttin' your stuff!  I was the one that was laughing and then quickly ran across the street...you were taking up way too much room btw...
                         
                         

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                            Greek Oneposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                            man, do i need a tan

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                               SomewayOuttaHereposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                               ...especially if you are getting ready to join in the Caribana parade!  but then again you will get noticed!  and maybe make a few extra drachmae!

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                                  Greek Oneposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                                  join in??
                                  
                                  I already got my float!
                                  
                                  

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       pisean282311posted 14 years agoin reply to this

       ha ha ha...thats typical greek one answer...

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    LeanManposted 14 years ago

    My problem is more with people who say "I'm sorry" then promptly go off and do the same thing again.....
    
    Too easy for people to use "words" without meaning... "I love you"... lol

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