What does the combination of the following emotions indicate?

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  1. OTEE profile image65
    OTEEposted 6 years ago

    What does the combination of the following emotions indicate?

    Clingy, needy, inadequate, weepy - what does the combination of these emotions mean?
    What circumstances / events can lead to this state?

  2. Jesse Mugnier profile image70
    Jesse Mugnierposted 6 years ago

    Well a number of events can lead to this, however I should point out that 'clingy', 'needy', and 'weepy' are not emotions, they are actions, something you do or are. You can feel as though you are all of these things, but that doesn't make them an emotion. Let's take weepy as an example. You cannot feel weepy without being weepy. The action of being weepy comes before the thought of feeling weepy.

    If you have a person in mind who you think is all these things (as in, you are not speaking about yourself), then I believe you are making an assumption. There is no way you could tell if a person is inadequate. In fact, to make such a judgement, you must have an awful mean streak inside you.

    To get to a state where you are clingy, needy, weepy and feel inadequate, something must have happened that devastated you(weepy). Something that made you feel like you were not a strong person(inadequate), and scared you enough to feel like you cannot survive on your own(clingy & needy).

    1. OTEE profile image65
      OTEEposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks Jesse.
      You've nicely illustrated what emotions are.
      "you are not speaking about yourself"
      Couldn't help smiling at that. smile
      You've analysed well the behavior described. Well, is there a single event that can cause all these symptoms?

    2. Jesse Mugnier profile image70
      Jesse Mugnierposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      The loss of a loved one, being in an abusive relationship, watching someone else being hurt. Anything that is upsetting to you, makes you feel like you are not strong enough to handle.
      So no, there is not just one single event, but many.

    3. OTEE profile image65
      OTEEposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks Jesse - I wanted a 3rd person perspective. In addition, can one add rejection to this list?

    4. Jesse Mugnier profile image70
      Jesse Mugnierposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Rejected would work I suppose, not rejection. Rejection is something that happens to you, not something you can feel or an action you can do. Feeling rejected as an emotion, could be valid, if you were clinging to something/someone that rejected you.

    5. OTEE profile image65
      OTEEposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      @Jesse - stickler for preciseness. Thank you. smile

    6. Jesse Mugnier profile image70
      Jesse Mugnierposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Haha, no, thank you!

  3. meloncauli profile image94
    meloncauliposted 6 years ago

    Those emotions depict an insecurity and there can be many reasons for that.

    A dependent personality can stem from childhood, usually from parents or a parent who exerts too much authority over their child. A parent who makes all the choices for their child, doesn't allow them a voice, and smothers them with attention can also cause dependent personality disorder.

    People who become dependent show all those emotions you mention, and this is usually made worse by broken or difficult relationships. These broken relationships however, can be caused by the neediness.

    Self esteem and confidence are big issues with people who are clingy and this usually starts in childhood too. Again, parents who never praised their children or made them feel worthy can cause this factor.

    I have just written about such emotions and dependency. Hope this helps a little.

    1. OTEE profile image65
      OTEEposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you melon for that detailed reply. It was very useful.
      A further query: Are these seen in co-dependency when the dependent (for eg. the addict) breaks free from the carer?


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