What makes some people afraid of success?

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   quildonposted 11 years ago

   What makes some people afraid of success?
   
   Some people remain in the same dead-end job for years, refusing to branch out or do anything to improve themselves. Are they satisfied with their lot in life or are they simply afraid of leaving their comfort zone?

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   dashingscorpioposted 11 years ago

   Some people want to remain in the pack. They don't want the limelight that comes with success because they know it also brings it's share of "haters" who are only too glad to throw stones or shoot arrows at them.
   Even children learn early on that it's "safer" to conform and be in the "middle" than to be in the front of the class impressing the teacher. Their goal is to (not stand out). If they feel "different" they beg their parents to buy the same clothes everyone else is wearing or want to do whatever everyone else is doing.
   Being successful means breaking away from the crowd, taking center stage, stepping out of your comfort zone, and being willing to take risks. Most people would rather be spectators than have all eyes on them.
   In basketball terms they'd rather pass the ball than take the last second shot. The shooter will either go down as being the hero or the goat of the game.

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      quildonposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      We see that a lot in children because many of them can't deal with peer pressure, but you would think that as adults they would be willing to try that last shot. Great comment!

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      dashingscorpioposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      You would think so. Unfortunately they don't call those the "formative years" for nothing! :-) Some people do break free but most never stray far from the beliefs they (internalize) during their youth.

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   MerneyDenposted 11 years ago

   I guess they afraid of their private lives are affected , afraid to work for longer periods of time , then their own spare time will be less , and lose more freedom , even is likely to affect their health . besides , they are afraid of don't have that much time with their family and friends , so they must learn to enjoy loneliness , once a person become successful , they are have more difficult to distinguish between what is their true friend .

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      quildonposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      So true, MerneyDen. Somebody said, it's lonely at the top. Thanks for your comment.

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   bethperryposted 11 years ago

   I think some folks are actually very happy to live "low profile". For others, I think the potential of other changes overwhelm them; success isn't a guarantee of happiness, and with success comes certain burdens - from the worry of being thrust into a higher tax bracket to the fear that being successful makes one vulnerable to being used by others. In the end, I think a person's real success can only be measured by how truly happy they are, and if they have made those around them happy in return.

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      quildonposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Bethperry, you are so right. Success is not a guarantee of happiness, and maybe that's what keeps some people from trying. Thanks for your comment.

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   Nigham AFZALposted 11 years ago

   When I was a kid...My teacher 'd say to me..."Good girl! you are working hard, you have to take 1st position in the class..." and I 'd say..."No please don't say like this I am good with the 2nd or 4th..."
   Now if I see myself honestly I was afraid, afraid of being prominent, afraid that each 'll discuss me or 'll see me...I like to live in shades...don't know why? but the fact is... I do feel comfortable...
   Its not like that I am still facing this situation but I know how to overpower this condition...

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      quildonposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      As a child I was just the opposite of what you describe. I had no fears, I didn't mind the teacher reading my essays to the class. Now, I'm much more reserved.

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      Nigham AFZALposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      hahaha... Life shows us all kinds of time...

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   Pheleshaposted 11 years ago

   Honestly, this is a great question. Further, most people get stuck because the biggest mistake made is they pursue the money rather then the passion. When you pursue the money you are forced to stay in something because at this point your bills have to be supported and can't really move unless the money made can be matched or excelled.

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      quildonposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      So true, Phelesha. Thanks for your comment!

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   Snøwmanposted 11 years ago

   They could be afraid that their success will have a bad impact. Like if I succeed in becoming a multi millionaire, the time spent doing that means less time with family, which means there's problems with family that no amount of money can fix.
   
   Sometimes we're just afraid to get out of our comfort zone.

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      quildonposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      That's true, Snowman. Money can never compensate for the problems. Thanks for your comment!

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