I usually engage in some physical activity, which could be vigorously cleaning the house, or taking off on a solitary walk. It also depends on who or what triggered the anger. I may write about it, but I find that I need some composure to actually find my thoughts coherently enough to pen them. If a storm is raging in my head, I need to clear it first. And to be quite honest, sometimes, I just "lose" it.
I do not get angry very often.
IF and when it happens, most often I have a meltdown. Since my husband is usually at work, the only witnesses are our four cats, and they are good about keeping a secret ....I weep and I yell out loud...mostly to God and/or the person who upset me (THEY are not present, I just get it out of my system and 'tell them off.') Sometimes I write a letter to God. I pour it all out, and I tell God EXACTLY how I feel...THEN I ask God to help me keep my mouth shut! Once that is done I calm down. MOST of the time, the incident is taken care of and forgotten, and I am SO glad I did not retaliate.
I have learned, the hard way, that if a person has said something nasty to me, I do NOT respond. I leave them recalling the last words they heard: theirs.
A couple years ago I received a scathing email from a family member VERY close to me. I did not respond...I left that person recalling the words that were typed on the computer and sent to me. I was totally devastated, angry, and I did the meltdown thing. Two days later that person called and apologized.
*NOTE: BE VERY CAREFUL OF WORDS YOU SAY OR WRITE...YOU CAN NEVER TAKE THEM BACK AND IT CAN DO IRREPARABLE DAMAGE*
Even though we are getting along fine today, that email shattered my Spirit so much that it is like a tsunami: the storm is over but the damage has been done. I have never felt the same way about that person, and I have lost total respect.
I believe the Bible takes anger very seriously...even states not to go to bed angry. Anger has caused hate, resentment, broken relationships, and even
This is a great question. Because of the damage anger can do, I choose whom I associate with wisely. Life is short and I desire to be in the company of people who do not hurt me and cause me to feel anger.
It's all about choice. Blessings, Sparklea
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