How do you handle anger?

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  1. Penny G profile image60
    Penny Gposted 10 years ago

    How do you handle anger?

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  2. wordswithlove profile image69
    wordswithloveposted 10 years ago

    I usually engage in some physical activity, which could be vigorously cleaning the house, or taking off on a solitary walk. It also depends on who or what triggered the anger. I may write about it, but I find that I need some composure to actually find my thoughts coherently enough to pen them. If a storm is raging in my head, I need to clear it first. And to be quite honest, sometimes, I just "lose" it.

  3. Sparklea profile image61
    Sparkleaposted 10 years ago

    Hi Penny:
    I do not get angry very often. 

    IF and when it happens, most often I have a meltdown.  Since my husband is usually at work, the only witnesses are our four cats, and they are good about keeping a secret smile....I weep and I yell out loud...mostly to God and/or the person who upset me (THEY are not present, I just get it out of my system and 'tell them off.')  Sometimes I write a letter to God.  I pour it all out, and I tell God EXACTLY how I feel...THEN I ask God to help me keep my mouth shut!  Once that is done I calm down.  MOST of the time, the incident is taken care of and forgotten, and I am SO glad I did not retaliate.

    I have learned, the hard way, that if a person has said something nasty to me, I do NOT respond.  I leave them recalling the last words they heard: theirs. 

    A couple years ago I received a scathing email from a family member VERY close to me.  I did not respond...I left that person recalling the words that were typed on the computer and sent to me.  I was totally devastated, angry, and  I did the meltdown thing.  Two days later that person called and apologized.

    *NOTE: BE VERY CAREFUL OF WORDS YOU SAY OR WRITE...YOU CAN NEVER TAKE THEM BACK AND IT CAN DO IRREPARABLE DAMAGE*

    Even though we are getting along fine today, that email shattered my Spirit so much that it is like a tsunami:  the storm is over but the damage has been done.  I have never felt the same way about that person, and I have lost total respect.
    I believe the Bible takes anger very seriously...even states not to go to bed angry.  Anger has caused hate, resentment, broken relationships, and even
    murder. 

    This is a great question.  Because of the damage anger can do, I choose whom I associate with wisely.  Life is short and I desire  to be in the company of people who do not hurt me and cause me to feel anger.   

    It's all about choice.  Blessings, Sparklea

    1. Penny G profile image60
      Penny Gposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I had some very cruel email, text messages and voice mails, no facebook those other things are more than enough! I too choose to not answer, got an apology too, but the were crushing and undeserved. Spouting off only would have caused more pain

 
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