What techniques do you use to handle serious anger in a child?

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  1. brakel2 profile image74
    brakel2posted 11 years ago

    What techniques do you use to handle serious anger in a child?

    He may have picked up the anger trait from someone he is with much of the time..

  2. alvlove profile image40
    alvloveposted 11 years ago

    do personal approach,,, be closer with them.
    show your love, more patienly.
    come to their world, close with their friends. you will know them better

  3. shivanchirakkal10 profile image58
    shivanchirakkal10posted 11 years ago

    sit with he/her..slowly take the hand..say he is very nice boy[or girl] give a kiss in the hand or chin.Touch his forehead  lovely.Try to tell topic they like(example:this evening we will go out or we will buy that doll etc'].
    Another tip I used  is sit in his front as you also little anger with them.This will more practicable to girl child.
    Hope this will helps you.

  4. drsohel profile image67
    drsohelposted 11 years ago

    I think love, affection can handle anger in a child. My only baby is 15 months old. So I don't have personal experience. But sometimes when my baby wants something to have in her hand and I don't want to give her as it can harm her... she starts to cry louder and louder. In such cases... I saw... when I lose my tamper ... situation becomes worse. But when I handle with patience, try to drive her attention to some other things..... works for me fine... This is for now... Let's see what happens in future.

  5. Lenna84 profile image59
    Lenna84posted 11 years ago

    Kids are really unpredictable .... You should give him love, respect and safety ...You have to talk with him-her  and see whats the problem,  and help him-her to solve it... Play some elegant music i hear that i comes you down

  6. BSloan profile image69
    BSloanposted 11 years ago


    I would recommend two different options depending on the age of the child.

    Option one is to ask the child questions.  Why are you so mad?  When the child answers ask another question such as, What do you think we can do about it?  What do you think (name of person they admire) would do?  Many times by asking them questions they have to stop and think of an answer and this tames the anger a bit.

    Option two, is for any child over two.  I would video tape them when they are angry, happy, laughing, sleeping, etc. and play it back.  Children sometimes don't realize how they are acting, but by watching themselves on a video they may realize how they do not want to act.  Ask the child questions about he video of himself/herself such as:  What is your favorite way of acting? From there you can have a conversation about which actions is appropriate and which are unacceptable. 

    Hope this helps.

  7. calynbana profile image77
    calynbanaposted 11 years ago

    Anger in children can have many causes. First look at his environment, is it cluttered? Is it overstimulating? Keeping things simple and tidy can help reduce stress and anger in both children and adults.

    Next look at his responsibilities, does he have any? Does he need to look to an adult for help with tasks, or is he allowed and able to do them on his own? Often times adults will do the cooking, cleaning, shopping, dressing, and planning for children. It may leave them feeling helpless, like an invalid, and purposeless. Making sure they have meaningful responsibilities that actually contribute to their day to day living can help reduce stress and anger.

    Another aspect to look at is the structure of his days. Depending on the age of the child they may need more or less structure. Under the age of six they need a lot of structure and a lot of order. Frequent changes to their schedules can cause frustration and anger. Over that age too much structure can make them feel as if they have no say in their own lives. Also frustrating.

    Finally when they having an angry outburst you need to teach them how to cope with their emotions. Kids need to learn a) what they are feeling, and b)how to deal with the feeling. I like to ask kids to take a deep breath, leave the room for a moment, or count to ten. Then I will wait and see how they are looking. You can usually tell if they are capable of talking or not by this point. If they are too angry to try calming down then just leave them alone for a minute, and then return. When they have calmed down then get down to their eye level and talk with them.

    You will want to touch upon what made them angry, what they did when they were angry, how they could deal with that anger, and what they would/could do next time. Remember you need to ask what they think, not tell them what you think. Often anger is caused by feeling like their words or actions have no impact on the giants surrounding them.

    One thing you do not want to do is cuddle, bribe, distract or reward angry outbursts. You want the child to learn to deal with their feelings, not reward them for dealing with them in a negative manner.

    Hope this helps smile

  8. umeraziz profile image35
    umerazizposted 11 years ago

    bring the child whatever he is willing to get..i have only one solution for all, i hold finger of my 3 year nephew and take him to shop., he shop some chocolates and restore his smile.... it give me big pealsures..!

    if he still angry i have to give him ride on bike..! this diverts attention easily..

    i have no such experience.. the question is tough for me.. smile

  9. ExpressFree profile image63
    ExpressFreeposted 11 years ago

    As a mom myself, what works well in dealing with an angry child is to battle it with kind, comforting words together with a gesture of love either by hugging and kissing them.  Rather than shouting or instilling force to pacify the anger, it is better to do it in a calm way.  Instilling a positive diversion of the child anger can work well adding humor and fun into it.  Usually every child desire to feel love and wanted. The cause of anger maybe due to repressed feelings or disappointments about something so taking time to sit, listen, talk or even play with the child will help you understand why he/she acted in that manner.  As a responsible adult, you just have to teach the child to learn to have self-control over his/her emotions and teach them to redirect those bad emotions to positive ones...

  10. Doodlehead profile image48
    Doodleheadposted 11 years ago

    I bet the kid is mineral deficient.   I would throw in vitamin deficient, but minerals get missed.   That combination plus too much salt and sugar and chemical additives in food can make him/her a physical/psychological wreck.   

    I listened to a man who had been a veterinarian tell how they know exactly how to supplement the diets of farm animals for hundreds of ailments.This same vet started working as an MD.  He was amazed that medicine does not work the same way in humans. People are not given the supplements needed.  Instead they are shot up with prescription medications which the public has been brainwashed is going to help them.   The MD mentioned earlier stated that almost all ailments are known in the medical community, and the answers have to do with property nutrition.

    Unfortunately, the medical world is not paid for you to be healthy.  There is no percentage in it.   Why would they want you to be healthy?   Some do, perhaps, but the system is not set up for that.  It is set up for profit.

    Take away all sugar and white bread.   Add in a good mineral and vitamin supplement.   Include spinach with fresh veggies 2-3 times a day with some fresh fruit and carrot to munch on.  Allow no food additives.   That means no canned tomato paste as it has citric acid...and yes, the ctiric in canned foods is most often manufactured, and a byproduct is MSG. Personally, I am subject to additives, and my neck locks up, and muscle tension in the head/neck shoulders is unbearable.   Maybe this is going on with the kid.

    MSG is an excitotoxin and the brain uptakes it mistaking it for a true neurotransmitter.  In doing so, the brain thinking process is slowed.   Eyesight can be affected and headaches and congestion can result.   

    After doing the above for a couple of weeks/months you will notice a big difference.   I think it is the diet.  A kid is irrational when they are stretched from a wrecked body.

  11. moms love4real profile image61
    moms love4realposted 11 years ago

    As a mother of three, I use  mouth ,  I begin with the task of speaking gently and lovely , firstly I calm the anger by telling the child that "I love you" and ask if he or she love me as well with my eye fixing directly to his or her under that tension no way the child can say "i don't love you" from that point I continue by drawing the child close to me at that moment i started smiling when the child look up to my face laughter has fill it at that point i will say "I won't beat you again but promise me never to behave badly " and the child respond by promising. Children can be annoying sometime but if the grownup can give them a chance I think there is an element of truth in their action so use the right hand to beat but use the left hand to draw them nearer.

  12. dghbrh profile image80
    dghbrhposted 11 years ago

    I think we should treat with much love. Then slowly try to  make him understand the negative effects of serious anger which can destroy life.
    Frankly speaking I am very short tempered person and my 11 year old son is piking this trait from me. So I try to make him understand the negative aspect of it in my life. I share ever negative effect i am facing for my anger with my son and slowly both are trying to avoid this trait. It is very strange that the trait about which i never was serious in my life, when picked up by son how it effects the mind. Now I am trying to avoid it as much as possible. Its wonderful to learn from Own son sometimes. I am sure we both will over come with the anger very soon.

  13. profile image0
    Garifaliaposted 11 years ago

    This has never happened to me, but I know that when the home environment is calm  the child is too. For there to be lots of anger and it's not an issue within the family (jelousy, feelings that he's/she's constantly being rejected or the receiver of negative feedback or even neglect) then the child may be having problems at school and the parents haven't taken it seriously enough to check it out.

    No one picks up anger traits. This is false. What they may pick up is ways of handling a difficult situation. So, if mom or dad doesn't solve his/her issues but rather reacts angrily, the child will too. Contrary to popular belief, children don't pick up traits from friends only habits.

  14. krillco profile image85
    krillcoposted 11 years ago

    First, anger gets way over vilified. Anger is not bad, reactivity is. Anger is an emotion that is valuable, because it gives us information that something is wrong...like pain does. Teaching a child a specific way to respond, to express anger (to get the energy out in a way that is not destructive to people or things) is needed. My kids held up an index finger and said firmly: 'I AM ANGRY'. This let others know to back off for a moment and give the child space to use their own resources to get hold of themselves and self calm. Within a few moments or minutes, there is a structured return to the conversation to process the anger....hmmm....sounds like a plan for adults, too   smile


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