Have you ever learned to 'keep on keeping on' even when your heart was breaking?

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   pstraubie48posted 8 years ago

   Have you ever learned to 'keep on keeping on' even when your heart was breaking?
   
   Has there been a time when you have learned to walk through your angst and pain when part of you just wanted to scream madly to the universe?
   
   

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   cam8510posted 8 years ago

   For one year I screamed at the universe,  using a beer can as a megaphone.  That was the year following the death of my wife from breast cancer.   Well,  I got over the period of insanity and learned some important lessons.   I learned to accept the fact that we will all die and gratitude for twenty four years with a remarkable woman.  I am grateful for two sons who are living well.   I have learned contentment.   I have a good life today.

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      Faith Reaperposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Awesome, dear Cam!  Thank you for sharing here.  Blessings and love to you!

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      cam8510posted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you Faith Reaper.  I appreciate it and blessings on you.  Happy Thanksgiving.

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      pstraubie48posted 8 years agoin reply to this

      How blessed you are. So many do not get to this place....feeling grateful for we have (and have had) is the way to overcome our losses and live with our pain.

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   dashingscorpioposted 8 years ago

   I think most people scream at the universe and then they move on.
   Acknowledging pain, hurt, or disappointment is healthy.
   Wallowing in it is not. It's just one page in one chapter within the book of your life. Always have the courage to turn to the next page.
   The world may not owe you anything but (you) owe yourself the world! Do your best to have the best.

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      Faith Reaperposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Very wise, dashingscorpiro, and you have provided great insight, as we ALL truly face many trials and tribulations in this sometimes brutal life, however, if we are still here, we must persevere!  Bless you for sharing here!

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      pstraubie48posted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Many many do...I agree. Life brings us sadness or pain or financial woes and we have a choice to work through it or wail and moan and miss today.

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   Katrina VanTyneposted 8 years ago

   A few years ago I lost my mom, I got divorced and I lost my dog, all within a 6-month period. I couldn't understand why the world kept going on while I was going through so much pain. My world was crumbling. I could barely get out of bed and I can't believe I held a job during that time.
   
   I think what got me through was just trying to get through the moment. Not the day, not the week. Just the moment. The thought of getting through the day seemed like so much work. But getting through the moment I could do.
   
   Then all of a sudden, the moments became days and the days became weeks, and so on.
   
   So I guess it's all about taking baby steps, then one day you're walking again.  Though the pain of losing my mother is still there (especially around the holidays), the thought of just having to get through the moment works every time.

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      Faith Reaperposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Dear Katrina, I am so sorry for your great loss, and thank you for sharing here.  Yes, I understand completely, as I lost my mother in 2012, five days before Christmas.  I am a breast cancer survivor and was healed.  One moment at a time is great!

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      pstraubie48posted 8 years agoin reply to this

      That is so true. For a while moment by moment is how many of us survive, dear Katrina. Our lives come with 'stuff' we wish never comes but often if we take those 'baby steps' you speak of we find our way out of the pain and sadness to peace and calm

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   Marie Flintposted 8 years ago

   I think the most traumatic experience for me was when my elder brother John died of leukemia at the age of 32. His two children, both girls, where very young at the time.
   
   I don't remember how I got through the depression, but being around others helped.
   
   I remember a co-worker, a secretary many years my senior, asking, "Are you all right, Vicki? You're awfully quiet today."
   
   When I answered my brother had died, she suggested I let my employer know. I don't think I did.
   
   What helped was time itself. It's as they say, "Time heals all wounds."
   
   My psychology and outlook on life are very different from what I held then. Verbal affirmations said aloud have proven to be very effective. I love my new energy and never need to have my heart broken again.

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      Faith Reaperposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Beautiful share!

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      pstraubie48posted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Yes Marie...verbal affirmations are so very helpful. Learning to work through whatever it is that we face...and we all face SOMETHING HUGE from time to time gives us new hope and a new perspective. Lovely share from you this day. Angels on the way!!

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   Rachel L Albaposted 8 years ago

   I did one year when I almost lost my first child.  She was in intensive care all night and we didn't know if she would make it through.  Thank God, she did but it was still a long period when everything was normal again in our lives.  But, I remembered that God will never leave us and there is a reason for everything.  My faith kept me and my husband going.

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      Faith Reaperposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Praise Him!  I am so thankful that your faith kept you and your husband going.  Hugs and blessings.

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      Rachel L Albaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Blessings to you and yours also and a Happy Thanksgiving.

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      pstraubie48posted 8 years agoin reply to this

      God is good!!! He walks with us and carries us so many times ..He has promised to always be there for us..and He is. So glad you have Him in your life and that your faith remains strong

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   Faith Reaperposted 8 years ago

   Yes, Dear PS,
   
   I have many times through many trials and tribulations this sometimes brutal life will throw at us.  If we can just persevere through such trials, as we are still here, then when we look back, despite it all, we are able to count our many blessings, even through the great trials of our lifetime.
   
   Hugs, peace and blessings to you and yours.  I am so thankful to know you via HupPages and I praise Him that he has blessed us all here with your powerful testimony on life in your heartrending articles here on HubPages.
   
   Angels on the way.
   
   I am so thankful for you on this Thanksgiving Eve, and each day throughout the year.

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      cam8510posted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Faith, there are many people here on hubpages who appreciate your joyful presence.  Have a wonderful Thanksgiving day.

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      pstraubie48posted 8 years agoin reply to this

      I know you have, dear sweet Faith..I know.  And with your faith and trust in our Lord you have  overcome them. As I mentioned in a comment above, God is good. He is with us each moment as we make this walk.    Angels are on the way

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      Faith Reaperposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Aw, Thank you, Chris, for that sweet comment I missed long ago. Blessings to you too, dear PS. Hugs

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   Arachneaposted 8 years ago

   When life throws you a bag of lemons, make lemonade. That's been my motto for longer than I can remember. It has stood me in good stead as well. As for the broken heart thing. Stay busy, don't give space for moping, pining or otherwise getting stuck in the doldrums.

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      pstraubie48posted 8 years agoin reply to this

      You are so right. How many times I have said that.
      Grabbing on to whatever it is that will uplift us and keep us focused makes the road out of the fear or pain or desolation into a new life that is refreshed and ready to face what may come.

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   breathingposted 7 years ago

   This is a very tough situation of life which I think comes in almost everyone’s life. When you feel nobody understand your pain and you are totally alone in this huge world. You feel that your mental pain will become less if you scream to the world. Handling yourself in the most effective manner is very tough at this time. But still you have to stay positive at this time. I went through such a shock when my grandmother (mother’s mother) died. She was very dear to me. I can hardly imagine any better grandmother better than her. I was very upset at that time. I was speechless for quite some time. I felt like everything was lost from me. I was not able to eat for weeks. This is because the special bonding between me and my grandmother. As I was the first son in my family and my grandmother didn’t have any son, she was more than a friend to me. She always took care of every need of mine. If I demanded anything in childhood, she will not rest until that thing is managed. Losing such a big support was really a setback. That phase was the most testing time of my life.

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