Should I be concern at my son behavior and what should I do?

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  1. cebutouristspot profile image74
    cebutouristspotposted 2 years ago

    Should I be concern at my son behavior and what should I do?

    My son is now 3 yrs old and still dont talk, he however mumble one syllable words. He at times do stimming with his hands (flopping and counting fingers one near one far). He also have obsession with spinning object (fan, wheels and etc.). Lastly, at time he prefer to walk near walls and look straight however, his eyes is looking at the wall while walking.

    He however is very sociable, have eye contact, interact well, comes when called on and know how to follow simple instruction.

    We are now planning to have an Occupational Therapist work on him.

    Kindly share your experience pls.

  2. gmwilliams profile image83
    gmwilliamsposted 2 years ago

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    Your son may have an intellectual disability he may even be intellectually slow.  .  It is highly unusual for a child to be 3 and not be able to communicate in sentences.  Please see a child psychologist regarding this matter.  Why is he not speaking at 3?  Do you communicate with him?  The key to a child's speech development is ongoing & constant communication between parent & child.  Children respond when parents talk to them.

    1. cebutouristspot profile image74
      cebutouristspotposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      yes. i do. he communicate just nt speech.

    2. Reynold Jay profile image79
      Reynold Jayposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      The fascination with  fan is not that uncommon for a young child. The speech is telling you he is not progressing as he should. In the event the therapist does not get others involved, call a good  social worker will draw in the proper help.

    3. cebutouristspot profile image74
      cebutouristspotposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      @Reynold - We are praying that the therapist will help him.  We dont have social worker program here in my country but I will look into it.  Thanks.

  3. Reynold Jay profile image79
    Reynold Jayposted 2 years ago

    I am a retired special education teacher with three decades of working with children. Your concern is warranted as these are not normal growing signs. The occupational therapist should diagnose him and from there the appropriate specialists should get involved based upon the report. The spinning object is probably a signal that all is not well. As others get involved, the problems will be diagnosed and therapies may be offered.
    There should be a ton of support from your public education schools at no cost to you.
    Be prepared that these problems may be lifelong ( hopefully not) and that teachers and others working with him will not "cure" him.
    My feeling that this is a disappointment now and heartbreaking but that your son can live a wonderful life with your understanding and concern. Your are not alone in this.
    I hope this helps.

    Author of  "Lean Against the Wind" an autobiographical  fictional story of my life as a special education teacher.

    1. cebutouristspot profile image74
      cebutouristspotposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      you mean he will never out grow it? i mean like staring at a ceiling fan?

    2. Annsalo profile image86
      Annsaloposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Good answer. As a mom of an Autistic son (not saying your son is or isn't), some of the early signs are daunting, but can many times be tackled with good occupational therapists and family counseling. Take advantage of the many free options.

    3. Patty Inglish, MS profile image92
      Patty Inglish, MSposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Totally agree, Annsalo!

    4. cebutouristspot profile image74
      cebutouristspotposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you Annsalo, We will start Occupational therapy on January 2016.  Sadly, in my country there are no free option.  We will start with 2 session a week.

  4. Patty Inglish, MS profile image92
    Patty Inglish, MSposted 2 years ago

    From my 30 years in preventive medicine, psychology, and education and & special education experience, I'd say to follow the standard practice:

    1) See a medical doctor first (if you have not done so) and determine or rule out any physical abnormality. That person may send you to a specialist. Your son's symptoms may or may not be neurological or developmental or something else.
    2) If no medical diagnosis occurs, then a child psychologist may be able to help you and a team of professionals may be required, in this order - psychologist (even an educational/school psychologist), speech therapist, physical therapist, occupational therapist, activities therapist (sometimes exercise or structured play helps), psychiatric social workers, and even others.
    3) Once a diagnosis is available, contact local agencies that can add other services for you and your son. For example: Say a child experiences autism (I am not saying it is autism in your case), find a parent's autism association. In the continental USA, we have associations for many conditions -- How about in your hometown, do you have these associations?

    Keep asking questions of professionals until you have the answers you need.

    Best of success to you and your son!

    1. cebutouristspot profile image74
      cebutouristspotposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      @Patty.
      1. We have done the first part.  No physical abnormality.  Our schedule with neuro-developmental doctor is at September 2016.
      2. We decided to start with Occupational therapy to help with pending the September 2016 appointment.

    2. Patty Inglish, MS profile image92
      Patty Inglish, MSposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      The occupational therapy might help and at least might prevent deterioration in the condition while you wait so long for your appointment. Best success to you with this!

    3. cebutouristspot profile image74
      cebutouristspotposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      @Patty - thanks.  That is what we are hoping for.

  5. AlexK2009 profile image92
    AlexK2009posted 2 years ago

    I concur with the other answers:

    See a Doctor about this first. It could be Autism or some form of  brain damage.

    And do not give up if you do not get satisfactory answers. 

    Three years with minimal speech competence is not good, and the other symptoms are worrying. They may be linked or signs of separate problems.

    1. cebutouristspot profile image74
      cebutouristspotposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      @alexk2009 - we did all that can be done.  We went to doctors.  There is another one we will go but sadly the waiting time is horrible.  We try getting a slot last August 2015 but the schedule they gave us is September 2016. sad

  6. teaches12345 profile image94
    teaches12345posted 2 years ago

    I am in agreement with others on having him see a doctor. Your concerns are valid but can be eased through professional assistance. It looks like you are already on top of this and I pray you will know comfort and peace as you discover how to help him live a full life.

    1. cebutouristspot profile image74
      cebutouristspotposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      @Dianna - The Doctor schedule is still so far away. sad only 3 available in the island. 

      We are starting Occupational Therapy this Wednesday.  I hope that he he simply delay in his progress.

 
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