I know many do not like talking about Domestic Violence. Are you or have you been a victim of Domestic Violence? If so speak up, stand and walk. Three steps you have to take to achieve the impossible. Can you do it or will you attempt to do it? Please post your thougts. I am hear to listen and you are to be heard....
I could easily say that I have been a victim of several kinds of abuse, mostly as a youngster, and as well as that I had to watch my mother go through hell alongside me. However, I'm not embittered and I bear no hatred towards those who perpetrated the crimes. In fact, in a way, I'm thankful that they did what they did because It has made me a strong and dependable person who never ever gives up. Hatred, bitterness and self-pity are just the residue of the experiences and those negative emotions soon die and are replaced with a strength that is otherwise hard to find in one who has had a normal childhood or life.
Thanks for provoking this type of discussion, Bella. Do you have anything more to share on the subject?
if you think you are a strong and dependable person now, just imagine how much stgronger and more dependable you would have been if you had been nurtured and not abused, I'm sorry but being thankful for abuse seems to show some warped thinking, not that you are but to say this you justify what has happened to you. Sorry that did happen to you and I am glad you were able to move forward and lead the life you want.
I would have to agree with rich the more struggles you face in life, you have an understanding most people never realise because they have never been there to understand how hard it is to fight for your life, or the struggles you face.
Well Diane, I can see where you are coming from and I respect your forthright opinion.
Warped thinking, twisted thinking, neurotic thinking, call it what you will. If you live a life of labels in that way then so be it. However, I choose to not live by labeling. I am free of that, and that is partly because of the experiences of my younger years.
It is plausible to say that not all people turn out strong after a traumatic or disturbed childhood and there are many reasons for that.
I turned out strong and dependable much like a muscle grows and strengthens through constant tearing and healing, but it doesn't always work out that way, I admit that much.
I agree with you HattieMattieMae. Traumatic experiences widen your understanding of life and the struggles that come with it, as long as you never look back and dwell on the past. What I went through has shaped me into the person I am today, and I'm glad because I love who I have become.
I will strive to help others to understand and conquer their own pain and suffering and I can do that because I myself first went through it.
This discussion has real Potential!
Take care. Rich
Rich, I seem to agree with you I am a survivor of Physical, Mental, and Verbal abuse. I have learned that I was bitter and sour and angry and hurt for many many years and found out recently to endure and embrace my past and to forgive and forget. It was hard to overcome because of the dysfunction I was in felt so right. I am thankful as well that I experienced what I experienced. There are spiritual reasons on why I believe that I was supposed to go through what I went through for a reason or season or a lifetime. Nothing is ever given to a person that they cannot handle. I am pleased to say that my past life was a path I chose on reason and that led to me writing which I find my gift and life. Thanks Rich for opening up and replying to my forum.
Domestic Violence can affect how much,just ask me.I was a witness of a beautiful life's tragic end,just because of the domestic violence.A 10 years old child who even didn't know the exact meaning of suicide ,committed suicide because he couldn't bear the torture on his mom for the identity oh himself.Can you think of it !!!!!!!!!!! If such bitterness and hatred makes people stronger and practical then what about that child who died for his identity ?Ya,its true that burning of iron makes it tough but not for every cases.According to servay,most of the mentally challenged patients have such as pathetic background or childhood behind them.So,its not like so easy.if there is gold ,there is ash also.
Oh my gosh, that is just horrible. To even think of this it gave me chills up and down my back. I do see two sides of this. I will only express one side and that is that I kinda can relate to this because my son is also a victim of witnessing me be abused which he is now becoming violent and irrate and has major anger and frustration issues. I have now taken steps to get him help now. He doesnt have the mental capacity to understand what he has been through. so I can stand and say that in every case it is different. and it is sad to know that parents that are abuserd are damaging others lives with their actions. Thank you ForYourInfo for responding to this post.
Yes your write bella, some of the greatest leaders in the world, artists, writers, photographers, musicians are the best ones because they have experienced hardships more than most people, have struggled, been down to the lowest places in the world and made it to the top, because they learned something most people never learn. Without those hardships and struggles they would have never soared!
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