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Overcoming fear of failure - take control over your life with positive affirmations

Updated on May 14, 2012

Fear of Failure

One of the greatest fears people have is fear of failure. This arises from the fact that one is not in complete control over their thought life. The fear of failure hinders people from performing to their optimum potential. It is important to overcome the fear of failure and being in control of your life, with positive affirmations. Fear of failure is common in people who are constantly looking for approval from others. This condition is closely related to fear of criticism and fear of rejection. The opinion of significant others is important, but it should never paralyze us. Everyone has a right to his or her opinion - its their's, don't take it too personally. We need to look at it in the right perspective, for we learn more from our mistakes than from ur successes.

Failure or success should be looked at as outcome of the effort put it in, and not as rewards or punishments. When people learn to disassociate emotional highs and lows from outcomes, fear is axed at the root. This rational approach will not only take the edge out of fear, but also checks disproportionate pride, that leads to a plateau in performance. The old adage- 'Failure is the stepping stone to success' is applicable even today.

Fear of failure is a paralizing emotion

Put things in perspective.
Put things in perspective.

How to Overcome Fear of Failure

  • The first step to overcome the fear of failure is to accept it. Accept does not mean saying yes, I have it and being passive about it.
  • This leads us to the next step. Take action.
  • Prepare yourself adequately by equipping yourself with the skills you need.
  • Face your fear. Your fears seem huge only when you are far from action, when you face your fears, you realize that they were not as bad as they seemed initially. Approach the people whose critical views paralyze you and ask them for inputs to improve. This may look like a Herculean task, but it is an amazingly effective tool, and in the process, your enemy (or rather, the one you perceive as your enemy) becomes your ally. Never forget that when you ask for help, the other person's ego is massaged and now they look at you in new light!
  • Most importantly, work on the suggestions given.
  • Break up your goal into smaller achievable modules and work on them. The whole task will look easier and achievable. Prepare backup plans for different scenarios.
  • Program your mind with affirmative thoughts. Repeatedly.
  • Fight is better than flight. Action takes you one step forward.
  • Use positive affirmation to instill confidence in your self. You are now mentally well-equipped and better prepared to face your fear of failure.
  • Say to yourself that the outcome is not your concern, but you will give it your all to make it work. Once this mind programming is done, you are ready for battle.
  • Never forget to celebrate your success, however small. Your positive self affirmation builds your confidence.
  • If you fail, fall back on your alternative plans, taking into consideration the reasons for failure.
  • Remember, practice makes perfect!!
  • Persistence is the key to success. Never give up. Learn from your mistakes and move on!!
  • Keep this in mind; people are hardly judged by how many times they fall, but how many times they pick themselves up and how much they achieve!!

What thoughts fill you

You are what you think
You are what you think

Fear of Failure - Take Responsibility for Your Life

Each individual is responsible to direct their own life, the messes that they create and the accolades that they get are their own doing. Yes, you are responsible for where you are today.
Somehow today most of us are bitten by the buck never stops here bug and we always have people or circumstances to blame about!! We can act by taking stock of our thoughts today. Believe in yourself!

Change The Way you Think

Have you ever heard of the saying, 'You only reap what you sow'?

That is true of our lives too. We are responsible for every thought and actions of ours.
People say or think such things of themselves like, I am not good enough, I can't do it, I am weak, I can't manage this etc.. Such negative thoughts or excuses like, I am so weak, set us up for failure.

We need to take control of our thoughts and think right. Delete the unwanted /negative thoughts or negative scripts, that are ingrained decision in our innercore and are often arrived at in nervreracking or extremly stressful situations, when our emotional balance is rocked about. These thoughts are what birth the fear of failure, so get rid of them right now.
For example a person decides 'I am never going to trust anyone in my life everagain' (That is how a script sounds.)

This seedscript once sown, grows into a person who is lonesome, with few or no friends, unable to work well in teams, unable to commit to another person in life and a sure fire recipe for a disastrous marriage (if one ever happens)

Once these scripts are ingrained into the innercore / psyche no matter how much ones strives at a particular task they are already doomed for lacklustre performance.

change your thoughts change your life

and your life will take the Right direction!
and your life will take the Right direction!

Use Self-Affirmation to Overcome Fear of Failure

The Bible says, "as the man thinketh in his heart so is he."

To change the direction of our thoughts and our lives we need to rearrange thoughts that we think. Today, decide to do a spring cleaning of your mindspace. Throw out the old and useless and bring out some bright colours.

Change the mental picture of yourself from a can't do anything person, to can do somethings well person.

Delete the negatives of yourself in your vocabulary and replace them your positive ones. The positive vocabulary comes from what are you good at. I am sure all of us are good at something or the other.

Affirm yourself with statements such as "I am a wonderful communicator, people approach me whenever the need to get through to someone". Self affirmation or power affirmation builds your self confidence and self esteem.

Repeat such (realistic) statements of yourself frequently. Repetition puts a new script in place. This way you canprogram your mind for success.

Statements have to be in the present tense not in the future..like 'I am a good writer', not I will be one.

Reinforce these statements with positive emotions gained out of every success. Just take the liberty to feel good about yourself.

Persistance and a never-give-up attitude are important to bring about any change.

Never to be forgotten, giving excuses and self pity are a definite no ,no. Giving excuses gives a legal right for the flaw to remain there and ensures that you will never overcome it.

Most importantly believe in what you say. Believe in yourself.

I always like to hear you ideas, so ahead and comment

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      sofs 5 years ago

      mwilliams, I believe that you are investing your time rightly... It will be easier to write your first hub now that you have read and commented on so many. Looking forward to your first :) Have a lovely day and thanks for the comment. Much appreciated!

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      mwilliams66 5 years ago from Left Coast, USA

      Thank you Sofs. I needed to read this to finally get down to the business of writing my first hub. I have been hub hopping and reading for a week now. All with the intent of posting many hubs myself. Yet, I seem to have gotten myself stuck in the reading gear. Time to get down to business.

      Loved your hub. Voted up, useful and re-posted. :D

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      sofs 5 years ago

      Cyndi10, this was my first hub.. almost two years ago... possibly well hidden lol. Thanks for taking time to read it ..this one has got me such moving PM and that in itself has been a great source of Joy... Thanks for the vote and the follow. I appreciate it very much. Have a lovely weekend :)

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      Cynthia B Turner 5 years ago from Georgia

      I'm surprised I didn't see this earlier. We seem to write about some of the same subjects. This was a very informative article with information that could help someone take steps to overcome their fears. Voted up.

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      sofs 5 years ago

      Tony L Smith, Thank you for your insightful comment and good wishes. I appreciate them greatly. Have a wonderful day! God Bless!

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      Tony L Smith 5 years ago from Macon

      Great hub, tons of useful info. Sometimes those negative thoughts are so subtle that we don't even know what they are saying to us, but just knowing they are controlling us is a huge step.You know if you had a glass of dirty water and started pouring clean water in it, eventually you would remove the dirty water.

      to your victory

      Tony

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      sofs 5 years ago

      Sure Saima, I will take you up on your suggestion very soon... thanks for the visit and the comment. Much appreciated. Have a great day!

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      saima rana 5 years ago

      it is so nice and best,but write also the best fear affirmations to help others,but in fact it is nice

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      sofs 5 years ago

      My pleasure! JOY!

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      Joy56 5 years ago

      thanks so much, and god bless you too.

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      sofs 5 years ago

      Joy, it is always a pleasure to have you over here reading my hubs. I am so happy for you that you have mastered that fear of failure that has held you captive for long. I am sure you will be growing in confidence as you conquer each of your fears. Have a wonderful day. God bless you my dear.

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      Joy56 5 years ago

      I have always been afraid of failure, and at last am finding a way not to let it hold me back....... this is a very well written article, i will refer to it again from time to time it is helpful. Thanks

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      sofs 5 years ago

      Hi Mathira, thank you and wish you a very happy and prosperous new year!

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      sofs 6 years ago

      Thank you abundant soul! I appreciate your comment.

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      Abundant Old Soul 6 years ago from united states

      Really useful thoughts

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      sofs 6 years ago

      It is difficult initially as we are not aware of the thoughts we entertain. With a little practice and constant correction of thoughts your mind does get disciplined. I have been there and done that, now it is on auto pilot and it is so easy to correct the negative or fearful thought that may come in once in a while. Keep trying and there is a lot of material that I have written here to help you further. Thank you for the read and the comment, you may contact me through the contact button if you prefer so. God Bless.

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      ss 6 years ago

      its true ,encouraging and hopeful but difficulties arises in its absolute implementation and moreover to be kept adhered to this state of mind . how to train ourself to remain in positive state of mind mostely ??

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      sofs 6 years ago

      Anu, Hope you have been helped! there are more articles on self confidence and self improvement written by me which could be of help to you. Click on my profile and read more under it. Thank you!

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      anu 6 years ago

      thank u

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      sofs 7 years ago

      Thank you Nithitha P for the visit and the fan mail. Glad that you found it useful. Hope to see more of you on HP. you are welcome back anytime.

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      nikitha p 7 years ago from India

      Great advice, thanks for sharing this.

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      sofs 7 years ago

      Romans12:2 has been my favorite scripture and so is Phil 4:8, you just made my day FloBe.

      If only we understood these truths, what happy lives we would lead. We may never have anything to fear...renewing the mind is an ongoing process, we need to be consistent and persistent in our efforts if we want a change in our way of thinking.

      Thank you FloBe, May God bless you richly.

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      FloBe 7 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      We need to "renew our mind" with that which is "true, noble, right, pure, lovely, admirable, and praiseworthy." By changing our focus, the rest will fall into place. But as you say, it takes a consistent effort to change our way of thinking.

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      sofs 7 years ago

      Rahul yadav, I am glad you found this hub useful, I do really hope that you will get over all your fears and really take control of your life,though it does appears to be difficult at first, as you take small steps you will slowly but surely be more confident and doing your best! Please do feel free to read up more such hubs or ask for help if you need to, thank you and best wishes!

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      rahulyadav 7 years ago

      its realy very motivational n helpful i think i can overcome now thatnk u sir thank u very much

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      embee77 7 years ago

      Another practical and positive hub. Great advice. Yet the motivation to take on our challenges can be hard to come by. People need to just think what they Could accomplish if they could only get past the fears. Then find a good therapist. Nice job.

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      sofs 7 years ago

      Preetharayan Thank you so much for the comment. I am glad that you have been encouraged by this article. The idea behind this article is to break the back of fear and help people live up to their potential. God bless and hoping to see your hubs soon.

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      preetharayan 7 years ago

      Wonderfully written/ very encouraging

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      sofs 7 years ago

      I am glad Angela that you liked this hub. Thank you for stoping by and taking time to write your appreciation. I am honoured.

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      Angela_1973 7 years ago

      I enjoyed this hub!

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      sofs 7 years ago

      Thank you Rekha for your comment, I am motivated to do more. Thanks for recording your appreciation. God Bless!!

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      rekha 7 years ago

      The whole article is crisp and to the point. My wishes & prayers for many more such useful articles.

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      sofs 7 years ago

      Thank you Martin and Smiriti. Your feedback encourages me. This spurs me to do more. God bless!

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      Martin Rebeiro 7 years ago

      Very well written. Practical. Logical. Truthful!

      God bless you and all you do!

      Martin Rebeiro

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      smriti 7 years ago

      short yet an energizing lesson that every individual should know and put it into action for a better living !