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Anniversary Special.

Updated on October 20, 2012

To celebrate or not, that is the question.!!

Many people who know my husband and I think that we must have a secret to keeping romance alive, as we´ve been married a fairly long time. (43 yrs today)

Good friends of ours know how wrong that idea is,. We must be on the list of least romantic (in the universal sense) on the planet. I mean how did we manage to both forget our 40th? It´s Ruby for goodness sake!!! I realise that at the time , well now also, we were in no position to buy real rubies. However I do love garnets. A beautiful stone, maybe one third of the price of a ruby.So we could have made our ruby anniversary a bit special,...... we just weren't counting, and it completely passed us by for 2 years. Only after 2 years did we realise we´d missed A Big One!!

Our daughter was going through a rough patch in her own life, otherwise she would have remembered and sorted us out... Do we care? a big NO to that question. and maybe this easygoing attitude we both have is more of a reason that we are still together than romance could be. Notice I say Maybe, because I am certainly not knocking romance. How could I, when I love poetry so much?

This year, only a few weeks ago, Hubby says .... How would you like a special anniversary present this year?

ME.. Er, I don´t mind. I wasn't sure if we were going to celebrate this year or not. What do you have in mind.?

Hubby. How would you like to go home for a week?

Me.. Really,? Home as in Tenerife our lovely island home....??(we lived 20 yrs there)

Hubby. Yes. Would that be alright for you?

Me. O boy , I never wanted to leave..... hang on .... you do mean you and I ??

Hubby . No. I ´ll be busy but Emma and kev (daughter and son in law) are going for theirs which is 6 days after ours and they know it´s hard for you to travel alone these days so Emma thought you might like to go with them.......!

Me.. You are not joking are you .....?

Hubby. Why would I joke....... I know how homesick you get...........????

Me . Well just the little matter of it being my anniversary present . Can you not see the hilarity of sending me away without you for OUR wedding anniversary.?

Hubby. No.

First I burst out laughing, then cry, then calm down when I find the ticket is for the day before my daughters anniversary (8th) so although he´s calling it my anniversary present, I am not actually leaving the country until 5 days AFTER our wedding anniversary.

Good now I can get excited about going home to old friends and my son who still lives there.l don´t expect anything else, after all some years we don´t celebrate at all. Yet, Here I am On 2nd of May opening the door to a man with an amazing bouquet of flowers for me BUT.... Belgian chocolates as well.!!!!! What on earth is going on? Am I dying and someone´s forgotten to tell me.?

By the time I walk back into the sitting room I spot a large card and a square purple box (my favourite colour). The purple turns out to be wrapping paper.... with a gorgeous bottle of my favourite perfume inside.. I´m beginning to feel so ´´´spoiled´´ I can hardly believe it..........

Then I pick up the cute little gift bag with MUM on it.. I really couldn't believe this one.. Expecting a small shopping bag from the animal welfare site , purple paw etc., I unwrap the pink tissue paper and can just see the words .... from the heart....

It is not from the save animals site at all. My daughter has had a custom made lovely bag saying ´´Poetry from the Heart´´. Dim Flaxenwick and an enlarged picture of the lovely water lily that is on the cover of my 1st and only published work.

I cannot imagine what I´ve done to deserve this. In fact I thought I ´d been making everyone´s life a misery since we had to move to England. I had become accustomed to seeing the Atlantic Ocean every day, even when hanging out the washing and I loved it!!!!

Well for some reason, I am spoiled this year. Next year we may forget the date. Who knows? Perhaps because we´ve never made too much fuss about a date, then that is why today has turned out so special for me.

So don´t throw the kitchen utensils at your husband if he forgets sometimes. Women like me forget too. The important thing is all the other days of the year in between anniversaries.

If you are happy together, you´ll have your own special days when you want them. It doesn´t HAVE to be on a certain date.

Warning to husbands, though. I think sending your wife away over the proper date of your anniversary, maybe where the line should be drawn.

Love to all of you who love and are loved.


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  • Dim Flaxenwick profile imageAUTHOR

    Dim Flaxenwick 

    6 years ago from Great Britain

    Hi there... Just got back from my week with old friends and my son. Big surprise when I got to my son´s place.... my 22yr old grandson, wife and baby .. there for holiday.

    I had no idea they´d booked the same time. Amazing week for me.!!!!

    Good to be back at the hubs now, thanking you for all your support..

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    6 years ago from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas

    Hello Dim. Happy anniversary. Sounds like sometimes it's ok to forget and sometimes it is a joy to be remembered. And a nice trip that you have been wishing for thrown in for good measure. Bon Voyage

  • Dim Flaxenwick profile imageAUTHOR

    Dim Flaxenwick 

    6 years ago from Great Britain

    Hi Movie Master, Thanks a lot for your comment.

    Take care,


  • Movie Master profile image

    Movie Master 

    6 years ago from United Kingdom

    Hi Dim, what a lovely, funny yet beautiful hub - Happy anniversary to you both and wishing you many more happy years together.

    Best wishes lesley

  • Dim Flaxenwick profile imageAUTHOR

    Dim Flaxenwick 

    6 years ago from Great Britain

    Thank you very much, feline prophet.

    Take care, yourself.......

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    Feline Prophet 

    6 years ago

    All the very best to you both...and many more wonderful years together! Have a lovely holiday! :)

  • Dim Flaxenwick profile imageAUTHOR

    Dim Flaxenwick 

    6 years ago from Great Britain

    That´s a beautiful. encouraging comment. Thank you., Scribenet

  • Scribenet profile image


    6 years ago from Ontario, Canada

    I do think you have it right...being easy going enough to both forget your fortieth! So cute! Also being flexible enough to realize that a holiday apart for an anniversary gift is still a very beautiful gift since the destination is special place close to your heart! Enjoy! Happy anniversay!

  • Dim Flaxenwick profile imageAUTHOR

    Dim Flaxenwick 

    6 years ago from Great Britain

    Wonderful comment. Thank you so much, billybuc. You´ve added even more pleasure to my day.

  • billybuc profile image

    Bill Holland 

    6 years ago from Olympia, WA

    Great hub my friend. Beautiful, funny, lovely and all those other words to describe something that touches our heart and soul. Happy Anniversary and wishing you many more to come.


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