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Do you think you should buy a house near your in-laws?

  1. BRIAN SLATER profile image86
    BRIAN SLATERposted 5 years ago

    Do you think you should buy a house near your in-laws?

  2. bigocean profile image80
    bigoceanposted 5 years ago

    Is that the same question as " Do I look fat in this dress honey"? Just kidding! I go by the one hour and a half rule.  If they live any closer you may have to instigate rules about visiting.  But, all in all, each situation and each inlaw is different and finding the balance is the challenge.  Be well, chose well.
    George Bogosian

  3. rajan jolly profile image89
    rajan jollyposted 5 years ago

    A great question. I personally feel, cultural differences would definitely affect the way that one would respond to this question.
    For instance in our Indian culture, many educated families even today, view the girl's family as being subordinate or subservient, to the boy's family. So living close by to one's in-laws could result in unnecessary interferences in each other's daily affairs. It could also result in one's privacy being invaded in any time of the day. Visiting each other's homes would have to reworked. There could be many other situations which might call for a look in if one opts to live near to his in-laws.
    I concur with bigocean that it depends on the in-laws and the situation and probably the understanding you have with them and that a balance has to worked out to avoid any straining of relations between the 2 families.
    I would love to read the views of peoples of other cultures regarding this.

  4. dougthaler profile image60
    dougthalerposted 5 years ago

    Simple answer.  If you have kids or planning to have kids, definitely.  If not depending on how cool your inlaws are I like the 45 min rule, plus restricted phone access.

  5. oldersister profile image81
    oldersisterposted 5 years ago

    As long as you can get along and respect each other privacy and decisions when it comes to your relationship with your spouse and your children.  If your parents or inlaws are going to be constantly butting into your lives then no.  ( take a look at the show Everybody loves Raymond, life with the inlaws is not too much different than that show)