What does it mean to treat someone like a lady?
Is it possible to give a woman equal rights while treating her like a "lady"?
That is a good question. Just treat everyone with respect. Just keep your male activities to your self. For example you would not take a lady to lift weight in the gym on a date because very few women want muscles. Use your best judgment.
Actually when you think about it, it is sort of a sexist statement. In fact acts of "chivalry" harken back to a day when women were considered the "weaker sex" and not just physically.
However to be honest with you most people if given a chance to be treated "equal" or "special" they would choose to be treated special. Everyone wants the "royal treatment" or to travel "first class". Quite awhile back a study was done asking college students how they would feel if GPA's were removed and replaced with simple passed or failed. The vast majority wanted to keep the GPA point system in place. Maybe it's human nature to want to compare ourselves to others or see who is doing better or worse. My point is no one really wants everyone to be "equal". Many of us want an equal opportunity to be treated "special".
Today most men treat the woman they are interested in "like a lady" and the rest of the women they treat like equals.
Today, it generally means politeness. I think it's always nice to be polite to people. No woman in the US is treated as a "lady" in the classic 19th-Century sense of the word anymore. In other words, men are allowed to give casual gifts to a lady, whereas this was once considered a rude and scandalous thing to do to with ladies. Ladies today are allowed to walk the city streets alone without anyone automatically assuming that she must be a prostitute. Proper ladies are no longer escorted everywhere by a man standing on her left with her arm in his. Ladies today can do what they want and say what they want now, so we truly are equal in the social sense.
If we're talking about holding the door for someone or holding the umbrella for someone as they get out of the car, I would do that for a man or a lady. I supposed the only questionable act left today is rising whenever a lady leaves the table or sits down at the table. Most people don't really do this anymore either. Weddings are traditionally paid for by the bride's parents, but this is going away.
The woman is treated with respect, deference and dignity. She is not cussed at, put down, treated rudely. The man helps her and assists her.
Feminism evolved from women being equal to men to treating men as the root of all evils in the world. This has strangled chivalry, by seeing it as a threat to women's equality and men who treated women as "ladies" as backward fools.
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