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Why are people so quick to judge?

  1. profile image59
    Claire Sieberposted 9 months ago

    Why are people so quick to judge?

  2. Aime F profile image84
    Aime Fposted 9 months ago

    Judging is easy. It takes time, effort, and understanding to actually get to know people... especially those who are different than us who are the ones we tend to judge.

    It also makes people feel better about themselves. If you look at someone and judge them negatively it can make you feel like you're doing something "right" that they're not. Often it's much more complicated than that but as I said, it's easier to judge and give yourself a quick pat on the back. Unfortunately the satisfaction you get from judging someone is quick and fleeting, but the pain you cause to the other person by doing so tends to linger a bit longer.

  3. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 9 months ago


    It saves them time!
    Everyone is guilty of having preferences, things they instantly like or dislike for whatever reason. Most people are not interested in investing time to develop an 'acquired taste" for anything. In other instances it's a matter of being "programmed" during one's (formative years) by both family and society in general as to what is good and acceptable.
    Like attracts like. People are more comfortable with familiarity.
    People tend to buy into stereotypes until they actually get to spend time with others and learn differently.
    Even then they're likely  to see them as the "exceptions".
    The same thing is true when it comes to gender as well. It's not uncommon for people to be judged by their gender:
    "All men...etc" or "All women ...etc" Getting to know people (individually) requires an investment of time.
    Most people "window shop" or browse through life making {snap judgements} determining whether they like it/them or not.
    It's human nature to put people and things into "boxes".
    The important thing is to not live for the acceptance of others.
    Know yourself, Love yourself, Trust yourself!
    You'll never feel "free" until you stop caring what others think.

  4. threekeys profile image80
    threekeysposted 9 months ago

    I have found when someone dislikes another strongly, they are more highly judging or judgemental. If you like someone you are more lax and accepting. I think harmless judgement is just a way of trying to ascertain how similar or different you are to the judger; and I think in part, that goes back to our herd and tribal days where it was a matter of life and death to work out quickly whether the person approaching you was a friend or a foe.
    I have found within myself when I was more carefree and spontaneous, I was attracted to differences-different kinds of people. But as life became more defined and more on the conservative side, I wanted to experience more harmony and therefore, was attracted to people who shared similar kinds of interests or values. I think somewhere in between these two polarities is good.