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12 Reasons Why Men Opt for Marriage
Marriage is a union or spousal relationship. It is the voluntary yoking up of a man and a woman, in order to live in holy matrimony throughout their lives. Marriage between two people is a rewarding experience. Wedlock can on the other hand be a prison, especially for those with divergent or opposing interests.
Modern day matrimonial relationships are tinged with strange tastes and often end up on the rocks. In spite of this, men and women still look forward to marriage at some stage in their lives. Does this imply marriage beats all odds against its continued existence? Why do men marry despite all odds?
A sample of acquaintances revealed various reasons among the ones listed below. The institution seems to be here to stay for good.
Men need a helper or companion
A working man often wishes to have a helping hand with regard to household chores. Some people will categorically state “Two are better than one”, and take this as a sound reason for marriage. They cite reasons of being able to confront life’s difficulties with a helpmate.
The lack of training in household chores among men makes the bachelor unkempt in many aspects of life, and hence the need for a wife or helper. A cheerful companion warms up the house.
Some men are forced into marriage by parents
Every parent tends to have an innate compulsion that leads them to urge their off springs on towards matrimony. Marriage seems to be a more natural inclination to a parent than to a child. Due to this, a few parents have coerced their children to wed sometimes prematurely or even against their wishes.
We often hear of pre-arranged marriages in various parts of the world. Such unions are imposed upon couples to enforce a family’s lineage to protect a caste system. Some men have been compelled by parents to marry as an indication of maturity.
Just to have a wife like peers
A few men will marry just to get a spouse and be like their peers. Peer pressure has played a major role in a man’s life when it comes to making a commitment to marry.
Friends in your social circle may exert pressure upon you to don their uniform in order to fit in. Failure on your part to tow this line might encounter rejection from your closest friends accompanied with your branding of being irresponsible.
Cultural reasons compel men to marry
Culture often has a role in wedlock especially where initiation is coupled with marriage. There are those who have to marry on attaining a certain age, failure to which you are classified as immature. Cultural and traditional dictates have forged a marriage in several parts of the world.
Chronological reasons for marriage
There are times when age catches up and one has no alternative but to shun bachelorhood. A simple calculation based on one’s age will reveal a man’s itinerary on issues relating to marriage.
Many men strongly feel there is an age when they should or shouldn’t’ be cuddling babies in their arms and changing diapers. There is a time when they feel too old to hold a young one.
The worst reason for marrying is one done for convenience. Reasons for a convenient marriage include gaining citizenship. I have heard of couples uniting to officially gain recognition as a citizen in a country of choice.
Some men will marry into chosen families for the purpose of acquiring wealth. These are the gold-digger types who take flight on attaining their heart’s desires, leaving broken hearts in their wake. We have witnessed wasteful 2 billion dollar weddings that have lasted 72 hours. How does one mismatch and spend such amounts of money?
Marriage for procreation
Human beings and other creatures need to procreate or replicate thereby extending their existence on earth. We always want to live longer beyond our limited lifespan. Some men will marry in order to sire a child. Such men find it difficult to accept the eventual result of being unable to procreate due to physical or biological reasons.
Marriage for stability, security and wellbeing
Marriage is often considered to be a stable or secure territory to which men will retreat for love and affection from family and loved ones. The absence of this setup affirms one’s sense of insecurity.
One will spew their love everywhere in the absence of family stability, security and that sense of well being. Love is present in the house all year round. You never have to spend a lonely Christmas. Men will marry for this.
Biological needs as a reason for marriage
Biological functions dictate the necessity and presence of a spouse in the house. A man’s heart leans towards a woman, while a woman’s leans towards a man. Each will satisfy the other like no other can. Men will marry to experience the satisfaction that accompanies the union to have their biological needs met.
A healthy gift for a healthy life style
Matrimony wards off promiscuity among men with the inherent risk of contracting ailments. A married man rarely wanders. He tends to be more focused, objective and contented. He gets to zero-graze while avoiding the sowing of wild oats that single men are more prone to do.
A lone ranger will sleep anywhere. Men will marry to avoid promiscuity.
The status symbol that marriage affords
People often feel more privileged and much more respected when they get married. Societies have with time, imposed standards upon men and women to uplift marriage as a status symbol. This alone, has driven many a single man to shun bachelorhood.
Married men are considered to be better custodians and hence good managers of resources. This is in view of the fact that, if you can care for your family, then you can command any situation where responsibility counts. Under these circumstances, marriage may grant a man a higher status in society than they are used to.
Marrying to fulfill biblical dictates
On his own accord, a man leaves his father’s house. He walks away in search of his helper. He is merely responding to the verse “He who finds a wife has found a good thing”. Many a man wants to find that good thing for keeps throughout their lifetime. Why? Because the word of God says so.
Please cast your vote here:
Question 1. Suppose you were a single man or woman, would you get married?
Question 2. Between men and women, who tend to be more promiscuous by nature?
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